People showing up day of wedding

I'd be pretty pissed if I had to check in on a guest list. Just make sure to get in touch with everyone invited to confirm like... A week or 2 in advance.

Does this happen? Do people randomly show up a weddings without an invite?

*insert panic mode here*

That is a good option. I went to a wedding where they had a hostess we had to check in with first. There were two of them so we didn't have to wait in line too long. It was good they had 2 hostesses because one of them was dealing with "extras". Turns out they were the groom's great aunts family who never sent back their RSVP. The space was big enough to accommodate, but they didn't get the same nice setting as us. The bride's family made all the food so their was no extra cost. I am having a plated dinner. Pretty much if you don't rsvp there is no seat for you.

Wait... Do you mean like... RANDOM people you never even invited? Do people do that? I'd be frickin livid if some idiot showed up uninvited. I have the prefect BM to handle a situation like this though lol

@alexism082 yeah I thought this was a little weird. All I could imagine was a unnecessary line being formed and holding up the entrance. Didn't know if this was heard of or a "common thing". @Sue M. It does happen, a friend of mine had it happen at his wedding and they end up having to pay $5000 extra at the end of the night. Yikes!

I wouldn't worry about it too much because from what I see on here and in real life, there are always no shows and you end up having already paid for their plates.

I am kind of worried about this because my venue is a restaurant which doesn't completely close for events so I guess people could crash? Adding this question to my running list...

Who's actually counting people? Someone has time for that? I know our venue charges 1 fee for up to 100 guests, but then I guess there's the caterer and the bartender.... But who's job is it to count??

I would not do that. I would be rolling my eyes pretty heavily if I was a guest at a wedding and I had to "check in". Your planner needs to shift gears- this isn't a VIP red carpet event, it's a private wedding. Random strangers are not going to be trying to crash the party. To ensure an accurate headcount, address your invites to the specific persons invited, and put on the RSVP's "we have reserved X seats in your honor". If people miss the deadline to turn in their RSVPs, call them and get an answer.

Unless you and FH are of a social standing that requires a butler to introduce guests at the ball, skip the check in station.

I would skip the checking in with the hostess list. It would kill your guest mood like you are checking into a bar and had to be on the VIP list or something. Just weird to do so.

WTF!!!!!

Is that a thing. Random people showing up that's not invited.

That happened to FH's sister at her wedding, so many people who weren't expected to be there showed up that all of her hubby's military buddies gave up their table and went to the bar while the venue ran out of food trying to accommodate these people who RSVP's NO. I am terrified because of this.

Also, wouldn't having a table with table assignment cards by name make sense to weed out the people who aren't supposed to be there? No namecard=no table

I think you could make checking in work of you did it right. Skip the seating cards or seating chat and have the hostesses check people in and escort them to their seat. Guests will appreciate not having to search for their name to find their seat and won't really think of it as checking in. If you are having a larger wedding have a few hostesses to avoid lines.

The hostess they used was told everyone where they sat. There was no seating chart or seating board in view.

My brother didn't have randoms but a cousin and his fiance showed up at my brothers wedding, no invitation nothing just showed up. Fortunately they were able to find room but we're confirming rentals 2 weeks before and doing set up the day before so extras won't have place settings or seats....... Here's hoping no extras for our wedding.

ETA: We're doing what Jessica suggested. A place card for each guest.

I went to a wedding a few months ago where they did the framed photo with table assignments. They had a blurb on there saying, "if you do not see your name on here, please see so and so." I plan on doing the same so I don't personally have to deal with them. We have a per person fee, and it goes up after 10 before the wedding. And I think it is more so the day of.

But what if your ceremony and venue are at the same place? Is someone going to check them in before you walk down the aisle?

Won't they just not have a seat?

I've never seen this happen...

FH told me about a wedding recently that had a lot of people come from the church to the reception who were not invited. We are actually worried this may be a problem for us as well. I am going to contact the event planner at my venue to see what she says.