Oops!! Pregnant and getting married.

@Who: Soooo, just because others, who haven't been through it and haven't had to deal with that kind of pain and suffering, haven't taken offense, I shouldn't either?

I think that's probably the most ignorant statement yet!

Of COURSE nobody who hasn't been through it wouldn't find it offensive. They'd probably be put off if they found themselves pregnant right now, and think NOTHING about being annoyed that they were ABLE to conceive easily in the first place with the person they are already planning to marry.

Oh, but yes. The problem is totally me. Of course, if OP was saying that she, "Oops! I'm OCDing and I'm getting super depressed about x today..." EVERYONE here would be up in arms because such a statement would be INCREDIBLY offensive to people with mental illness. A medical condition.

Guess what?

Infertility is a medical condition.

The difference? There's not always a way to treat infertility, and sometimes nothing can be done at all. You know what else? There are a shitload more people in this forum dealing with mental illness, SO THEY KNOW HOW IT FEELS, than people dealing with infertility.

So you deal with it for a couple of years, and THEN come tell me all about it, why don't you? Same goes for @AMV, and the others who don't get it. Because if this were a discussion about anxiety or depression, people would have ALL been over OP for offensive language. Since YOU aren't affected though, I guess it shouldn't bother ME, either.

I don't think I'm the one that needs to grow up here.

I agree with Sarah and the others. This is a stretch. I feel terrible for those who are struggling to try and conceive and we many times walk on egg shells to avoid hurting those peoples feelings. I really don't think it was the OP's intention to offend or say her child was a horrible accident.

Congratulations OP.

ETA: MNA, I am sorry that for what you have gone through/continue to go through.

Your probably going to have twins before September.. I found out I was pregnant January 13th (I was 4 to 6 weeks ) last year and had my daughter on Sept 14 the...

Oh, good God...

The what? Amanda? you stopped mid sentence. lol

Congratulations @Qui528!!! It sounds like you're in for a really exciting time!

@MNA I'm sorry you're going through this. Sending good thoughts and healing your way.

Congratulations either move date up like everyone saying or move it back until after the baby. I've seen people get married after they just gave birth maybe wait til baby 3 months

@MNA; The fact that you've been affected by the casual use of the word "oops" in regard to a pregnancy so strongly suggests to me that maybe you shouldn't participate in pregnancy-related posts -- not that the rest of the WW community cannot use all too common phrasing around an unexpected pregnancy.

OP, just wanted to stop by and say Congrats! I hope to have twins in the future! I wish you a healthy pregnancy!

EDIT: spelling

Ignoring the fact that your comprehension of my comment's intention was so far off base it's a little concerning, do u get that nobody empathizes with you bc your delivery is so 'woe is me'?

you are like the person on survivor who thought everyone loved her but was blindsided quicker than they could shit their beans

Wow, I've been checking this thread intermittently and it's turn into quite a mess. I can't believe some people have so much ignorance about infertility just based on the fact that they were able to have a child. Infertility or ttc can be a painful journey especially if you have to take Clomid or Vitex (I wouldn't wish either on my worst enemy.)I knoweveryone here is trying to be optimistic but Who's asinine comment really rubbed me the wrong way.

Anyway, congratulations OP and like others have said I would move the wedding up if possible.

MNA.. I had a pregnancy that was not viable and it killed me. However, I do not take offense to her joyous "oops." Please do not lump everyone with fertility issues together.

Eta: I acknowledge your difficulty, and it sounds like the OP also had difficulty.

Wow! That is so incredibly exciting!! Like you said, God was listening and knew that you were ready (even if you didn't know it yet! Lol) I agree that having those babies come down the aisle would be too sweet <3 <3. Good luck on your crazy journey! I hope God continues to bless you and your beautiful family!

@Sarah, you're kidding? @mna implied that getting pregnant (ie 'life changing event') when one doesn't intend to is synonymous with "horrible"

From my experience, which happens to be the exact example she gave, it was not, in fact, horrible. Das all, girl!

No advice but congratulations!!!!!!

Congrats on your twins

@Who: No. I said it is that way to a whole lot of women. Like the frequent ones I see on BBC contemplating abortion because they can't handle another baby, or didn't want a kid right then.

Yeah, I'd say to them, it's pretty damn horrible. But nice try twisting what I wrote into a much broader generalization.

This thread will be hidden in 5...4...3....2... smh

"But nice try twisting what I wrote into a much broader generalization."

Hello pot, meet kettle!

Congratulations OP! Obviously she meant no harm. I usually don't comment on stuff like this but dang some of y'all are wild