Oops!! Pregnant and getting married.

Yayyyyy!!! How exciting! CONGRATULATIONS!!

Congrats! I would suggest moving your date up, like asap, but that's just what I would do BC I think if I had twins my world would revolve around them (both because you adore them and because it's a lot of work), so I can't imagine planning a wedding then.

Took it as a surprise too but personally just because youre struggling to have kids doesn't mean everybody should be restricted to not be happy about a pregnancy cause everyones life is different. geez, sensitive people lol.

for OP: definitely push the wedding date for an earlier wedding or one after the birth, totally up to you and mostly your budget! I am so jealous but happy for you!

@Leah you weren't even offended at first. Your comment was congratulating her but after other found it offensive you joined in.? Be snarky or be happy you can't be both. You might wanna wait for others to comment first next time so you can make up your mind

Op-I think it is extremely unlikely you will be able to celebrate on your current wedding date, for multiple possible reasons. You may be on bed rest, you may be practically immobile or extremely uncomfortable, or you may have brand new twins to be taking care of, among other things. I would highly recommend either moving wedding to much sooner (can you make it a small intimate affair and do a larger celebration later?) or put it off for awhile? Benefit of putting off-you can include your little miracles in the festivities. No matter what you do, congrats. I hope everything goes smoothly.

@Emery: Nobody said she couldn't be happy. That's just fine. She shouldn't make it sound like some horrible accident though.

@Ruth: You haven't even been here long enough to really know the community. How TF would you know how other people felt? Most of us, who actively belong to the community and have formed friendships sure AF stick up for one another.

But then, you haven't been here long enough to know that, and with that statement? I doubt you'll get to know it, either.

Congrats!! Definitely agree to push your date back if you can, tho a majority of twins come early thats not always the case, I have friends with twins that went 3 days past their due date.

@Nikki: I know a whole lot of women who like to refer to unwanted pregnancies as "Oopses," and I'd say if you don't want kids, accidentally having a live changing event happen that will alter your life permanently is s pretty horrible thing to them.

Oops is usually used to convey an accident or a mistake. I've heard unintended pregnancies referred to as "oopsies". So, yes, in this case, the intention was clear, The colloquialism is common.

@MNA oh I've been here long enough to see how you guys "stick up" for one another. Just because I don't post or comment a lot doesn't mean I haven't been around. And congratulations on being an active member of this oh so great a prestigious WW community!

Once again @OP congratulations and I hope that everything turns out perfect for you and your little ones

Sounds like 3 people are terribly offended .. others get the connotation. Personally I'm more offended at a few people ganging up on others when they don't like what is being said.. then all of a sudden it's a violation .. seriously!

FFS. Some of you are way too sensitive.

This is a wedding forum. Not a pregnancy forum. Yes, sometimes they go hand in hand...but getting pregnant while planning a wedding...for most people...is an "oops." A happy oops, but an "oops" nonetheless.

Obviously OP is very happy with this surprise. Cant we all just grow up and be happy with her?

Oops

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exclamation informal

used to show recognition of a mistake or minor accident, often as part of an apology.

@mna that's a stretch. My son was completely unplanned and a huge fuckin oops when I was 20, but I never considered the life-altering event a 'horrible thing that happened' to me. I'm pretty sure the OP didn't connote that. Everyone is different, and every poster is not going to consider the feelings of every reader from every perspective she/he can imagine. If I have a traumatic experience with butterflies, even the subject of those could be offensive to me and then I'd be fucked seeing all those terrible cake toppers

Why victimize yourself (when OP obvs had no ill-will towards those struggling to conceive in the first place) and make it more painful for yourself by re-hashing the subject with so many people who don't agree with you nor find offense?

What is it everyone says when someone accuses them of being insensitive/offensive/rude on here? It's the internet where you're going to encounter all different kinds of people and to grow a thicker skin? So, to you, she said something offensive. To me, getting 'knocked up,' is just another term in the world of pregnancy related terms. Her saying, 'oops' registered as surprise to me and more she wasn't expecting to be pregnant because she's forty years old and has had fertility issues in the past. Maybe she had resigned herself to the idea that she may never have kids and then to suddenly become pregnant? With that said, I was an oops baby. Does my mom think I was a complete accident? No, she thinks I was a lovely surprise which is how I took OP's 'oops.'

You found what she said offensive. Fine. No one can tell you how to feel about something someone said. However, OP knows how you feel now and there's not really any point in continuing to tell her how offensive what she said is. Especially since it seems, by her latest post, that she is not coming back.

MNA- The OP never said it was an "unwanted" pregnancy. Yes, I understand that sometimes that is the reference but she was clear in her post that she DOES want children.

Unplanned pregnancy is different than an unwanted pregnancy. OP literally said "I've always wanted kids".....and in no way did I pick up on anything that hinted that this was a "horrible accident." IMO "Oops" does not = horrible accident. Oops is something I say when I spill coffee on my shirt.

I'm 37 years old & have never been able to carry a pregnancy to full term, not even close. Change your dress & embrace what many women never get to experience.

Congrats on your twins! Yes, you should probably move the date up so you csn dedicate your time to them after they arrive. Best wishes!

I can't believe I came back here and people are still arguing about whether or not it's okay to call a pregnancy an "oops."

OP make sure you update us! If you move the wedding later you could have someone carry the twins down the aisle as your flower girl/ring bearer and it would be the most adorable thing ever!!! Congrats!