Oops!! Pregnant and getting married.

@Sarah - If she had left out the "Oops", the post would have been fine. The "oops" reads like a mistake. There are several women on this site who would be very happy at this point with an "oops" because they have had to spend a lot of money and time to get not even a positive pee stick. Maybe lurk the TTC boards at Babycenter to see what some of us are talking about. Or the Loss Boards on Babycenter.

Congratulations!

Better ways to say it was an accident:

- Just found out I'm pregnant!

- We weren't trying, but feel so blessed

- We were happily surprised to find out we're pregnant

@SH Oops is offensive because it implies both that getting pregnant was unbelievably easy and that is was a negative occurrence. While that ISN'T what OP was trying to say, that is how it comes off. Think about other reasons we say "oops!" Oops! I knocked my glasses onto the floor. Oops! Sorry I bumped into you. Oops! I forgot to bring my gloves.

Congratulations!!

Congratulations! I carried my twins to 38 weeks so it's definitely possible if you follow doctors instructions and take care of yourself.

As someone who has experienced this, it is a heavy toll on your body. I would really suggest moving up your date. The stress of planning a wedding could definitely lead you into preterm labor, which you're already at risk for.

ETA: I just want to clarify that I think you should move your date solely to, for lack of a better term, get it out of the way before you get too close to your due date. By the time I was 28 weeks pregnant I was measuring the size of a 40 week singleton pregnancy, and by 34 weeks I could barely walk. By the time I was ready for my c-section (I never went into labor) I was very swollen and uncomfortable. Best of luck with whatever you decide to do!

@OP- Congratulations! If I could suggest one thing, this could possibly be solved if you changes the word to Surprise. I understand that is what you meant but unfortunately that is not the way some took it. If its really not that big of deal and you don't mean to further possibly offend changing the word won't be a big deal.

I commented earlier that I will look into moving the date. Thank you ALL for you congratulations and well wishes. This forum has really turned me off from wanting to post anything any further. I wish all you the best of luck with your weddings.

@Lisa in no way did I mean it that way. I actually know a lot of people who carried their twins past 36 weeks. I just said it was possible, I didn't mean to imply that that was the only way to do it and that anyone who didn't make it that far only did it because they ignored everything their doctors said and took horrible care of their bodies. I meant it as a way to encourage OP because, from my own experience, a lot of women who have twins don't think it's possible to carry that far.

@MNA - I am sorry, but I have no idea what "vioing" means

Vio-ing, violations. You're violating the CGs by telling people to move on, ie, not comment.

Congratulations, I actually just found out the 25th that I am pregnant and will be 5-6months along by my wedding. I kept bouncing back and forth about dress I wanted so hadn't ordered my dress yet which is a good thing I guess. I went and talked to a bridal shop along with a bunch of ladies from here told me to go up a few sizes from what you normally wear & make sure it isn't tight around tummy area.

Samtoine hmm... I had no idea that was considered violating CGs )) lol thanks for the explanation.

@MNA, @JessieJV, and @Holly, I think I understand a bit more. Especially the different connotations that 'oops' vs 'surprise' may have

Congratulations @Op.

Why can't people just be happy for one another why doesn't have to turn into I hate thread. If you're struggling with infertility issues I'm sorry but you shouldn't have clicked on this post it's not offensive at all she's sharing her news and she's happy about it and I'm happy for her. That doesn't mean that she's offending anybody what do you think that a pregnant lady on the street is being offensive because she's showing off her belly? The fact that others cannot conceive does not make the people who can disrespectful or insensitive that's just ridiculous. But of course on the internet you cant be happy without somebody else and coming to rain on your parade I'm sorry about that OP but 'I'm really happy for you!!

Congratulations OP!

Aww congratulations!!!!!! It'll all workout

For most people, getting pregnant in the middle of your engagement would be a big "oops." This is common sense. I understand that some people find this fact insensitive for their own personal reasons, but that doesn't detract from the fact that most women do not intend on becoming pregnant while engaged and therefore find it as an "oops."

Op Congratulations and I'm happy for you

@Ruth & @mzj: Op claims she struggled with infertility herself. She therefore should have known firsthand how shitty her post would come across to anyone dealing with it.

Had she just said she was pregnant, or left the oops off, I wouldn't have even clicked it. But purposefully using a triggery subject line? Yeah, that's something else altogether, especially when you've "been through" it yourself.

I've seen WAY more insensitive language used on here by others but that never seems to bother anyone. Unless its about someone sharing some actual good news then its offensive.

Congrats @OP!!! I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy! It looks like you're taking the advice to move the date - yay! I genuinely think that's the best route to take. Most of my vendors would move the date without us loosing the money and I'm optimistic yours will too. I love reading about these happy surprises!

Seriously.. I took the "oops" as a surprise not as a mistake. Some of us who have had: are having issues conceiving don't take offense OP.

Congratulations!