Objection!

Tell him a little too late to profess his love to you and don't invite him!

Also, maybe take away his Taylor Swift cd.

@ S@BMrsSmith- I am totally with you there. Two of my closest friends were guys and then I met FH and slowly distanced myself from them out of respect for my relationship. When I announced my engagement, both of them ended up admitting falling for me at one point during the friendship and it was AKWARD. FH had a female student teacher he was mentoring a few years back and I admit I was a little bent out of shape about her, turns out I had good reason. She started confiding in him about everything and calling him at home. I just have a really hard time with the concept of men and women being just friends. Usually one or the other has some sort of "hidden" agenda or feelings..just my opinion.

Ashley,

I really don't think he should come to the wedding. It's going to cause drama. Consider your FH's feelings as well. How would you feel if a girl that was in love with him showed up at your wedding? It would make for a very akward situation.

You might think he's your BFF but you're not his. He's a man that's been very close with you because he can't get over you and hopes you'll make the first move. If he really was your friend, he'd be the first one to congratulate you on getting engaged with the person you love. This whole thing is bad news.

If you love him very much do you truly love this other guy? It sounds like theres some issues going on here, maybe hes objecting because he knows youre not doing the right thing!

I know its your best friend, but I wouldnt invite him. I dont think I would feel very well about my FH inviting his best friend that has more than just the normal best friend feelings. It takes two to tango yes, but why be apart of somehing that could turn drama filled really fast. You dont want that on your special day. Maybe too late for that now if he knows the details and may show up anyway. He sounds like he could be wayyyy too much drama which is what you dont want on you & your FH special day. I dont think he is a very good friend putting you in that situation. I think this is your warning to not have him there.

If it's just "I'm in love with the bride!" Everyone looks at him funny and there's a pause, than you marry your FH anyway because that's not a valid reason for you not to unless reciprocate his feelings in which case you shouldn't even get to the altar. It's not a romantic movie.

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I don't think we'll be friends anymore.. all very interesting point of views ladies. and lol at the Taylor swift comment. I think the reason hes saying these things is cuz hes unhappy in his life. i have everything I'll ever need with my FH and I'm happy. ;

I didn't want it said but my offciant convinced me it was better to have it said. he made a joke out of too to help ease the mood a little. It ended up working out fine but if he really feels this way, you need to sit down with him and tell him that if he wants to continue his friendship with you, he needs to respect you and your marriage.

I grew up with a guy I considered my best friend. My friends knew he had not best friend feelings towards me, we dated in like grade 7 then again 8 then again 9. YEARS later when i got together with my last ex who had been his friend since age 5 my ex asked him if he minded if we dated before dating me. (guy code) 3 yrs later ex and I broke up and BFF was single. I was chilling at his apt, my and FH had just started dating and BFF at the end of the night was all you can sleep down here or you can sleep in my bed with me. Also made comments that night that he always though we would end up together.

I have always vauled his friendship, but I have always been aware that he did have other ideas besides friendship. He is now freshly married, and thus he and his wife are invited to my wedding. He would have been anyways, but that is because even though he always wanted more the only time he actually voiced that is when I wasn't really committed in his eyes.

We can continue to be friends be

Because and only because, I like his wife. She likes me, she does not Im sure know that he voiced these things to me while they were broken up. He likes my FH and even if he was single he would NEVER EVER tell me his feelings again because he actually respects me and my relationship and is a good guy.

Unless you have given your BFF a reason to believe you are marrying your FH for a bad reason then he has no reason to object except that he is a miserable sleeze who doesn't actually care about your feelings. Not good friendship material.

I am sorry you are loosing a BFF out of this but you and FH need to meet couple friends and you need to find a SAFE female best friend. Much more healthy. Can you imagine going on a tropical vacation with your male BFF alone sharing a room? Cause I can imagine going on a vacay with my BFF and sharing a room, if it was a male... T-R-O-U-B-L-E not appropriate

You need to speak to this guy and tell him to sort himself - I'm sorry but no one would want to intentionally ruin their best friend's wedding, it's an utterly selfish thing to say/do and certainly isn't how you'd treat someone you love. I'd no longer have that person as a friend if it were me to be honest - he's clearly being disrespectful. At the end of the day it's your choice but if it were me I'd realise that no 'friend' would ever say that, and would no longer choose to have them in my life.