Objection!

Can you get someone to have a conversation with him before the wedding to feel out if they think he really will? Unfortunately, even if he is your friend, if it is a good possibility he will, I think he shouldn't come to the ceremony

I've got a good question: Why do you have that line in there at all? It doesn't need to be. If nobody ever asks for objections, perhaps there'll be no good time for him to do it. But if he does... I suppose you just have to stop and say, "I'm sorry, but I don't feel the same," or something, or scowl at him, I don't know. Or just impress upon him beforehand that ruining the day for you isn't going to win him any points with you.

Technically they are asking for a legal reason you can't get married, to cover the officiants butt in case there is a legal reason.

What our priest said is that if someone objects, they are held at a $10,000 bond. The wedding stops, and the matter is seriously looked in to. If it's legimate (bride and groom are sister/brother, one is already married, etc) then the bride and groom pay the bond. If not, the objector pays that money to the couple.

I would not invite him. Plain and simple he may be your best friend but he doesn't want you to marry this guy. He doesn't belong there on your day.

I dont think the officiant HAS to ask if any one objects to the marriage. So unless he yells out STOP in the middle, I think you are safe. I would still talk to him and be like I like you as a friend and such and i want you to be there on my special day. if you really do care for me you wont object at my wedding, otherwise FH and I will have to ask you not to come.

Yea, he needs to move on. Either dont invite him or cut that part. My officiant told us most people dont do it anyway and it is not required. I have never heard of what Judith said, but according to our officiant all that needs to be said are the declaration of intent, the vows and the pronouncing husband and wife. Then the license of course.

I echo others, that line does not need to be in the ceremony and, as mentioned, it was in there to cover any legal reasons the couple could not wed.

Are you sure that he wasn't just kidding?

I didn't even realize that that line was still used in weddings today. It is usually just seen on tv and movies. We did not ask if anyone objected at our wedding and there is no reason your officiant needs to ask giving him an opportunity. If you think he will actually object on his own, I would make sure that he was now permitted at the ceremony.

If you're certain he was serious, you shouldn't invite him. Imagine if the tables were turned, and if a girl in love with your FH were at your wedding? You probably wouldn't be comfortable with that.

I plan to cut the objection part out just cuz I don't wanna deal with it. I wouldn't invite him either. That could put you and FH on a bad leg before you even get to start your day. That'd be bad and it could cause issues btwn you and FH w/ this friend after the wedding. You shouldn't even have to wonder if you need to have a discussion w/ him and try to convince him not to object. If he's supposed to be your best friend, he wouldn't wait til you're about to move on in your life to express his feelings.

If it's upsetting you that much, cut it out, cut him out. NO ONE deserves to be upset while planning their wedding or getting married. The day is about you and your future hubby and no one else. This should be the best time of your life. Find a way to nicely explain your feelings and move on. Enjoy and good luck!

A) Cut that part out of your wedding ceremony

B) Don't invite him

C) Tell him to not be a jerk and that if he were a real friend he would respect you and your FH. If he can't do that, then this person isn't a friend.

Do not invite him. End of story.

Said again, will say now.

Males and females can not be best friends unless they are married. Why cause one always either loves the other or would sleep with the other if given the chance.

Clearly this is the case here and you are dis-allusioned to your relationship.

How does your FH feel about the fact he has said this?

if your FH hasn't been told by you, hiding things for your "BFF" isn't going to help anything.

Do you want to have an affair with this BFF in the future?

Do you want your special day ruined?

if the answer to either of these is no don't invite him.

What will happen if he does object? You will look like a fool and your FH might kick the shit out of him.

You are not his BFF you are a potential lover for him. If you were his BFF he would not object in your wedding he would swallow his feelings, why would you even want to continue a friendship with this "boy"

Cut it out and dont invite him. You have a past so what. Your future is with your FH

If you invite him you are just asking for trouble.

I say: don't invite someone that is in love with you! That is so uncomfortable for them and not something you want to be thinking about that day no matter how close you may be.

If you do decide to invite him, I agree with the other ladies here. Just leave that line out! Crisis avoided...

I'm seeing alot of people suggesting to just cut that part out of your wedding or don't invite him at all, although they are all good ides, what about just sitting down and TAKING it out with him first?. Just tell him that you care for him very much as a friend, but you are in love with the man you are marrying and if he objects to that, then he should make the decision to not come to the wedding. If you make it clear that, if he shows up and objects or makes a scene infront of everyone, he will be escorted out and you will no longer be able to have him in your life. I just think he needs to hear this from you.

I agree with Jennifer K. If it were just a random guy saying he would object, I would tell you to un-invite him.... but it's not. It's your best friend. If he's not receptive when you talk to him about it then definitely, definitely do not invite him!

Wow - I understand how hard this must be for you. My best friend is a guy who I have grown up with and he has a special job in my wedding.

my advice to you would be to sit down and have a serious chat with him. You need to explain to him that you love him but not in the way he may think. I don't think you can just no -invite him without talking to him 1st. Especially if he has been a major part of your life. After your talk if you don't feel any better or comfortable with the situation then I would tell him you feel that it is best if he doesn't attend the wedding.

This is just my advice and opinion.