NWR: TATTOO PARTY (Ladies : Shannon plz chime in)

Normally money is to pay or food that is being provided and to help with the costs of the tattoo artist in case enough people do not come to get actual tattoo. Everyone has their own reason.

I could not imagine demanding a cover charge AND a bottle of liquor from my guests before they can celebrate my birthday with me. Wow. I would decline the invitation. I imagine lots of other guests will decline as well, which will hopefully teach the greedy birthday boy a lesson.

The $10 usually goes the the tattoo artist

I've been to one... in a tattoo parlor. There were 5 of us that wanted one for sure, so we contacted a place that let us have a private party. There was a charge by the parlor for each person attending (whether getting tattoo or not), but they also provided the lunch for the day too.

My questions for this party would be is it sanitary to have it in their home and who is the artist he choose to come do this? If birthday boy wants a tattoo, he should use the $ in the cards and do it on his own time instead of making his guests pay as a fee to get into his party where he will most likely be otherwise occupied.

I feel that if you are hiring someone you should pay them out and out! Not count on your guests to help cover the tattoo artists fee.

Yes Shannon, I so want to decline, but hubby wants to go. I tell you what! I won't stay longer than 1 hour. It's better things we can do tonight!

I have had 4 tattoo parties...so I will give you my view.

I charged $5.00 entry fee. That was because the artist charged me a set-up fee and I also had to provide him a box of gloves & paper towerl.... and since I wasn't the only person getting tatted I don't believe I should have to pay for the fee myself...no one had issues with it, and at each party I always had about 20 people getting tattoos.

I always provided snacks and drinks...and the Jello Shots!!!

Yeah, I would stay for as little time as possible. I'm sorry, Ednabugg, it is just not okay in my book to slough expenses off onto guests. They're GUESTS and having them shell out for anything is an abuse of hospitality.

Now, if someone was raised right, they'll offer to bring a beverage or a dish, but it should never be expected for them to do so. (Let alone pay an ADMISSION CHARGE.)

I have to say I loathe all "buy stuff!" parties, whether it's Mary Kay, jewelry, or now tattoos. It takes a wonderful evening at home with friends and family, and warps it into something crass and commercial.

I'd decline too. It doesn't sound sanitary and it does sound greedy. sorry.

The guests who have no idea what these parties are about will have a fit about the fee. The guests who have been to them or have hosted them will see no problem with it. I have been to two tattoo parties and paid $10 to get my awesome nautical stars on my back. Usually that would have costed me almost $100 to get both of them done.

And it is just as sanitary in a home or studio. They use unopened packs of needles and gloves. Studios don't have cleaner air or anything. And they also spray down their chairs after each use at tattoo parties and in their studios.

At the tattoo parties I have been to, you still end up signing a consent form and you get after care instructions just like you would in a studio.

If you know your guest list, you know if they will be snobby or cool with it.

It's not "snobby" to be offended by a surcharge to attend a birthday party, Miss Tattoo. Kinda felt like I had to point that out.

It's sad how etiquette is so often written off as being priggish or "snobby." Usually, the people who do so are trying to justify their own rudeness.

No need to apologize to me..your opinion is yours and mine is mine.

So I guess pot luck dinners are bad taste too?

And we will also have to agree to disagree on the "buy stuff" parties..because I'm a passion parties consultant and thats how I make noney

My fiance wants to know if these opinions about the hosts responsibility to pay for everything....what if a man can't afford to pay for his daughters wedding, should she never get married?

It is standard to have a "cover fee" for tattoo parties , if you've never been to one you wouldn't know but usually its not also done as a bday party so the guests coming are there to be tattooed and understand the fee... i think the confusion here is that it is also his birthday. I've been to a few most often I don't get tattoos there but I did meet my artist there and he comes to my home when I want them done... as for sanitary they are very sanitary.. Everyone gets a brand new never opened needle and tubing to do their tattoos (this is part of the cover fee) and he never uses the same ink on anyone they use tiny disposable cups to hold the ink they use on each person. If you are considering getting a tatto make sure you check out the artists work first ... and bring your design to the size you want it done.

The daughter should pay for her own wedding. I never understood the brides parents paying for the wedding thing. They paid for all of your things you needed and wanted for minimum 18 years (in most cases, obviously there are exceptions) and in many cases paid for a college education or at least part of it. Why is a wedding also expected out of parents?

Shannon, I didn't say YOU were snobby. I said those who don't understand what a tattoo party is may be snobby about the fee. No need to sugarcoat it. If you are going to stick your nose up about it and say that it's rude to charge for a tattoo party, when in fact it's standard, then yeah, you are being snobby. And I mean you as a general you and not you directly.

If this was a straight bday party, then yeah, it would be rude to charge a cover. But this is a tattoo party and you are basically paying for the artists supplies.

The daughter should pay for her wedding, and you can get married without a wedding.

As far as charging for me to go to a birthday party or tattoo party, if I was getting one, fine, if I'm not oh heck no.

And yes, if you can't afford to host a party (and by host I mean handle ALL costs) then don't host a party or cut the guest list.

There is nothing wrong with charging for a tattoo party... if you dont' want to pay don't go.. as for bring a bottle...I've been to plenty of BYOB's and I don't see anything wrong with it most provide beer and food.. if you want to drink something else bring it.. I don't expect my friends to keep a fully stocked bar in case I don't want to drink beer. And this is her DH's brother if he wants to go and take him a gift that is up to him I would never tell my husband we could go to his brothers birthday but we are only staying an hour.

I've been to BYOB's before too, in college, I'm an adult and I find a BYOB party beyond ridiculous and insulting.

Again then don't go... I personally understand that my friends have better things to do with their money than to stock a bar in their home... and if I'm in the mood for Patron with my beer, I would not be insulted if they told me to bring my own poison. I hope you don't choose your friends by how well their bar is stocked.

Then you should probably stay away from the ridiculous and insulting parties then. Problem solved.