Not excited about dress shopping

What part of the experience is giving you anxiety or stress?

Can't say I personally experienced this...dress shopping was first on my to do list after picking my venue.

It's not anxiety or stress I feel at all. It's just lack of excitement or enthusiasm. I thought I would want to go get my dress right away, but I've just felt kind of apathetic about going.

Just because you have two X chromosomes doesn't mean you are automatically going to like everything about weddings. The real issue is whether you don't want a wedding dress, or don't want to go through the process of shopping for one. If you don't want a wedding dress, you don't have to have one. You can wear a bridesmaid's dress, an evening dress, a day dress, a pant suit, or whatever else you feel like. (Just remember, if you decide to get married nude, consult the forums for how not to invite kids first!) If you do want a wedding dress, then that desire will sooner or later overcome your lack of interest in shopping.

This sounds like me exactly! I loved everything about planning and then once it got closer to go dress shopping, I totally dragged my feet and was dreading it! My issues were body/self conscious related, but I just made the appointments and went for it. I was really nervous, but I did fall in love with a dress! And so will you!

I'm only excited because I'm taking my daughters and NO ONE else. I really hate mixed opinions and people wanting me to do things their way.

Eh I wasn't super excited about dress shopping. I went to three stores on three different days, and probably tried on 15 dresses in total, which felt like a lot but probably wasn't. Even when I found my dress I loved it but I was over it pretty fast. It's all kind of cheesy, I think. And tiring.

I can't wait to wear it on the big day though!

@julesieeee I know how you feel I get anxiety the first time I went in and have not been back since. I tried a few but my bridesmaids canceled on me each time. I don't know what it is but I feel like it a chore more for me then anything I enjoy the other stuff not really sure what it is. I love FH and know I want to marry him. Hope it changes for you.

Also when I went with my sister and best friend, they were the only ones in the store giving real opinions (dress looks like a cupcake, not flattering, too princess, etc.) and all these other women were just lying to the brides, "you look beautiful" even when the dresses were clearly ugly or not flattering.

Three days after getting engaged I found my dress. It was the third dress I tried on. Now maybe you just need the right timing to get yourself excited. I can be a daunting thing picking out "The dress". Just get a good mental image of how you picture yourself on your wedding day...when you are ready get out there and start trying them on...

Based on what 2d said, I didn't want to go through the process. But I don't really like shopping in general. So I went to one store, found a dress that fit me well and that I liked. I didn't cry, I didn't ooh and aah, and I didn't faint. But less than 2 hours later I was on my merry way to the rest of the planning and the rest of my life.

If you're not excited, that's OK. Take it just like any other wedding-related task.

Thanks everyone! I do want to wear a dress and even know what styles I gravitate towards. The whole process of actually just going and trying them on seems oberwhelming and blah to me. I dont like shopping in general. im sure once im in my dress i will be excited about it. Glad I'm not alone here!

I felt the same exact way. You'll be fine. I had to view it as something on the checklist that had to be done. Everyone around me thought I was nuts for looking at it that way, but when I tried on the right dress, in the right store (third shop), I got really freakin' excited!! You'll get there!!! Our culture inundates us with bridal gown shopping now. I have not watched a single "Say Yes to the Dress" or any related spinoffs since I found my dress because I realize they created that sense of dread and paranoia of conflict. Go by yourself to go dress shopping (like I did when I found the dress). It's more fun because the salon girls all want to make you feel special, and they're better at it than opinionated family members. Good luck!

Yeah, I'm not big on any kind of shopping and I don't wear dresses very often so excited is not a word I would use either. I did go and I too found a dress that fit well and that I liked (I did tear up but I believe it is because that is when it became "real" to me that I was indeed getting married). I paid for the order in full and the bridal shop never ordered the dress until I filed claim with CC company =( So I did what any sensible woman that doesn't like to shop would do....I hit the internet, found a dress in the style I liked and ordered it online from DB =)

I had the exact same feelings. To make sure I did it, and because this was super exciting for her, I had my mom research and make the dress appointments.

I looked online for the styles I was interested in and that I thought would look good on me, and brought them to my dress appointments (4 shops in total). That helped the stylists see that what I was interested in was across the board and definitely helped guide me to finding a dress I ultimately loved.

I, too felt this way! I def thought there was something wrong with me. Since I have been enagaged, dress shopping sound stressful. Doesn't help that I have way too many episodes of say yes to the dress and bridezilla's. I felt anxious and stressed. I went this past Monday. It was very intimidating didn't help that there were so many family members there of the other brides shopping that day. To me it felt like I was modeling in front of 15 people. Eeeek!

I tried on about 5 dresses and I am so RELIEVED and HAPPY to say: I found my dress in ONE day, took about 2 hours. I def didn't have that overwhelming and teary feeling, I was happy on the inside!

Good luck!

I had so much fun dress shopping! I found my dress without any problem and since I picked it out and we paid for it have not regretted it one bit, can't wait until it comes in,but it's the other 5 zillion other things that has to be done! it seems like a never ending list! okay maybe not 5 zillion but maybe 5 million...lol!