No Wedding Card/Gift from Boss - Is this normal? Is it time to move on? Anyone else?

Why was your boss invited to pre-wedding events?

Why does it matter if they're wealthy or not?

Should they have at least have given you a nice card, yes. However, I would let this go. Personal life and work life are completely unrelated, and being a good employee doesn't equate to receiving a large gift for your wedding. Also, his finances are irrelevant. ETA: Also, not taking vacation and working overtime without pay is totally on you. If your boss is allowing you to do that, he probably doesn't respect you that much so I'm actually not surprised that he didn't give you a gift. A good boss would at minimum pay you for overtime.

I think that really really sucks. Especially since it's sounds like you do a lot. But I would never expect a guest (no matter how wealthy) to get me anything. It's not a reason to go looking for a new job, IMO.

Who cares if he's rich. They spent time and money going to your wedding. Making that effort should be gift enough. I doubt they would have done this for just any employee.

I understand your feelings but i think you need to separate your personal life from your work life. He should have at least gotten a card but he doesn't have to. Maybe he figured that just showing up was good enough. Maybe he expected his wife to buy the gift. Maybe he just forgot. Who knows but thinking about quitting a job because you think he should have done more for you on a personal level is not a good option.

But if you two have a real personal relationship...ask him why. But prepare yourself for an answer you may not want to here. Oh and stop working overtime without pay. You should be rewarded with payment for your job performance. Breathe hun. Good luck

Definitely move on from the whole wedding thing. I had family not show up and not acknowledge anything at all about it and I've gotten over it, just shows how they really feel about me. Whatever. I'm an adult, it's what you do.

Now, if you're unhappy in your job in general, then you should look for another job. But never expect things from your boss like that, he already pays you. Wedding or not be thankful for anything outside of that that you get.

I'd be upset too, but even so, if you are otherwise happy in the job, I'd stay. It's hard to find a job you like. If you're unhappy at work and then this happened, yeah get out.

Honestly, without the questions answered, my instinct is to say you view your relationship with your boss one way, him another.

I'd let it go.

It's a shame you didn't get at least a card though. I find that to be rude.

Take vacation time and stop working overtime without pay. Obviously this isn't good for you but it plants the seed for a toxic work environment for everyone where working overtime without pay becomes expected. Please stop.

Let it go. Your boss was wrong but I wouldn't leave your job over it if you like your job. And don't invite your boss to future events in your life.

Also take vacation time and don't be taken advantage of at work if that's what's happening. That has nothing to with this imo.

I think a lot of times supervisors feel like they are invited just to get a gift. i dont think what he did is right, but someone once told me "they didnt get rich by paying people like you more money". That was in relation to the owner of the company when i asked the CFO for a raise.

I have a similar situation. It's been over a week since my wedding. My boss was invited with a guest (non-spouse). Nothing. Not a card. We do not have a large office. Just me my boss and myself. I have worked for him for 7 years. Really hurt and disappointed. Not sure if I can continue working for him. I was not expecting $$$$ but something. Should I say something? Am I wrong for feeling hurt? Help? I did find this website that offers some good advice - https://www.brides.com/story/guests-who-never-sent-wedding-gift

View Quoted Comment Hi Tom!

I’m so sorry to hear you’re having the same experience as I did. It’s bizarre and hurtful and despite what anyone on here meanly would like to shame you into thinking, you are not wrong or bad or selfish or greedy for having these feelings. Feelings are just that, feelings, and I myself don’t hold mine in a glass house of perfection.

All that said, here I am 3 years later and still working for the same boss. Still never received a wedding gift, haha, but life has dealt me some really big curveballs, including a devastatingly serious illness that is deadly (rhymes with dancer). My turd parents were less than helpful to me and my husband when we needed aid for non-covered treatments, and without even thinking about it my boss stepped in to help me, even though I wasn’t comfortable asking him for help (especially after not receiving any sort of wedding of wedding well-wishes and thinking that our relationship wasn’t all that great). He ended up donating over 10k anonymously to my various treatments, something that to this day makes me cry if I think too hardly on it.
So I guess I’d have to say some people just don’t value gifts for things like weddings or birthdays. My boss just isn’t that guy. He’s also not always the best mentor and can be pretty oblivious and self absorbed at times, but I’ve learned first hand how big of a heart he has, and our relationship as colleagues has vastly improved on both sides. Funny how illness can do that to you.
Sure, not all bosses who don’t give wedding presents are going to go ahead and do what my boss did, but my best advice is to look at your relationship as a whole - are you appreciated at work? Are you paid a fair wage? Is it time to ask for a raise? After learning of my boss’ generosity and after coming into remission, we signed a big new contract and I put myself out there for a raise. And guess what? He said OK. I was floored, but I also knew my value to the company, and I think he now does too.
And if your boss truly is a ding dong to you, maybe it is time to move on. I know first hand, life is too short to spend 8+ hours a day interacting with someone who makes you miserable.
Good luck!!

Your first problem is working overtime with no pay and not taking vacation. Working like a slave will not give you more recognition at work, it will only make them take advantage of you. As for your boss , I would say if you feel unappreciated move on. But hey maybe that is the millennial in me, my mental health and happiness comes before anyone/ anything else. I would never allow a job to take advantage of me like that.

Sorry didnt realize how old this post was hope everything is great in your life now.