No Stamp on RSVP?

I'm stamping my RSVPs. I've gotten a few not stamped and it's like ummm... are we not supposed to send these back or what?? Or I've also gotten an RSVP card once with no return ENVELOPE... I was like really?!?

I think etiquette-wise you are supposed to provide the postage for mailing back your RSVP.

Personally though, for .45 cents (or whatever it is now) I wouldn't get my nose in a twist.

Hence using a website for RSVP's don't have to worry about any of these issues! lol

I put stamps on all of mine any but lots of my guest hand deliver them back to me

Stamps for sure! I think that's kind of tacky to not provide a stamp. You're inviting people and you're the one who wants to know who's coming or not, I think it's the proper thing to do IMO.

Allison - No evelope?? Wow....

I'm not putting postage on the RSVP's as I am encouraging guests to RSVP online or via email. Most of my friends are more likely to toss me an email than to put something in the mail...so a lot of stamps would be wasted. If someone wants to mail the RSVP, it will be addressed...but not stamped. I know it's not what is "expected" or whatever, but I think that the times they are a-chaaaaaaangin'! =)

Jennifer - That is a great idea! LOL!

I may or may not put stamps on my RSVPs.Just depend on our budget at the time.you don't have to send it back you could call and let them know if you are coming or not.

Yeah.....I think sometimes people just slap those things together and they don't think it through.

One of my BFF's didn't send her core group of friends invitations. She figured we were just coming. I was like, "friend, I know I'm supposed to be at your house early to help with your hair but can I come to your wedding?" lol.

We only put postage on the response cards of elderly family and a few select others who we know do not have internet access. Everyone else had the option to pay their own postage or (we hoped) reply online. Technically speaking, etiquette (according to Miss Manners) doesn't even dictate the inclusion of a response card. The recipient of the invitation is supposed to write up their own response and mail it (with their own postage) to the host.

@Jennifer are you stamping the RSVP envelopes going out to your older guests? I'm stamping all of mine, but I feel like anybody my mom's generation or older would be totally befuddled and clucky about an RSVP with no return postage.

Personally- I even find it easier to check a box on paper and slap the whole thing in the mailbox, rather than pulling out my phone/laptop to look up an RSVP site or email the bride. But maybe I'm an old lady in a young body.

I like the fact that you gave your guest the option of rsvp online. In this case the guest did not have the option to reply online which I have a major problem with. And their email address was not listed on the save the date or invitation.

Its VERy tacky to not stamp your RSVP. I got an invite from a co-worker (different facility but we bounce between 2 offices) and I was SHOCKED there was no stamp. She apologized profusely cause I was just missed...

I hate the idea of wasting stamps though so I wont have any online-ness...

Future Mrs. F -- you are exactly correct... even in this digital age - it still unacceptable to provide an RSVP without return postage. absolutely not okay.

every bride is on a budget -- but really?

@kris...no, my oldest guest is my great uncle Jimmy. And he is super internet savvy. I don't have anyone in my guest list that doesn't have and use email. So it's more for those who prefer the wedding invite to be "old school" =)

Edit: Oh and my great uncle is 87!

While I am highly techie I don't' assume everyone else is so I using postcards RSVP's, online and email. As far as stamps....I think that If you can't afford the $$ for stamp then you probably can't afford a wedding. Blunt but true!

If you don't stamp the RSVP, then stick to online digital only!

It's not that I can't afford it. I'm also not going to just wad up a $20 bill and throw it in the trash! =)

Hmmm another idea (not sure if anyone said it, didnt read thru all the comments) but if you are planning on stamping your RSVP envelopes, and since a lot of people either will call, text message, send an email, see you in person & tell you or just go to your website, so instead of just completely wasting the stamp on the envelope for RSVP (which is most likely a small envelope) why not just put that stamp in the envelope, & not stick it to the envelope.. so if they dont send it back the RSVP & just call or text or go thru your website, at least they can use that stamp on something else so it will not be completely wasted.. just an idea that I just came up with...

I've wondered about this myself. It's not that I'm trying to be cheap but I feel like it's a waste since it's so much easier and quicker for most people to do it online or tell me through facebook. It's not that I mind paying for the postage, but I don't want to buy stamps that aren't going to be used.