No Sex Before Marriage

Head desk.

God doesn't care if you're having sex. And if you've had it before? Not having it now proves nothing.

You've mentioned the wedding night being "awesome" on a few posts now. Just a heads up, most of my friends who are married were too tired to have sex and those that forced it came out feeling blah about it. It's a long day and the booze won't help. Not saying it will happen to you but try not to put so much pressure on one night.

FH and I stopped having sex this month and wont again until our wedding night. Not for any religious reasons or things of that nature. We arent having sex because we want to want each other more than ever before on our wedding night and the delayed gratification makes for one kick ass orgasm.

Nope...i made him wait 20 years already! Lol we dated in H.S. and then ran into each other at a Halloween party and here we are.

We'll probably abstain the night before but only because we'll have to be up early and I'm cranky on little sleep.

I don't buy a car without test driving it first.

Yes, Celia God does care. It's part of the Ten Commandments and all over the Bible.

I'm not asking to get into a theological discussion, I was just answering the OP's question. I know it doesn't make sense to most people but it's important to us and there's no reason to be rude about it.

It's definitely not one of the 10 commandments.

But I respect your religious beliefs. I really think sex before marriage is a personal decision. I'm in seminary, FH goes to Bible college. I get it.

Lol @ no sex being one of the 10 commandments. I guess I missed that one. Or maybe it's the 11th commandment? I'm a heathen atheist and even I know the 10 commandments.

You can't unring a bell, girl...

No. i dont understand why anyone would do this unless you are virgins. Sex is fun and a stress reliever.

I don't need to look them up. It's part of not committing adultery...

Exodus 20:14 You shall not commit adultery.

It doesn't say anything about sex before marriage. Yes, it's in the Bible, but not the 10 commandments. I get it. FH and I aren't having sex because it's our personal conviction. But if you're going to back yourself up, know your facts. Otherwise you just look silly.

Exodus 20:14 "You shall not commit adultery"

Where is the reference to premarital sex? You can't just say, welp I'm gonna include that in there because I say so.

For religious reasons, my FH and I are not having sex until marraige. Is it difficult, of course! But is it worth it? To me, it is. I'm no biblical expert, but from what I have learned and know in my own heart, I believe God does care about who we have sex with. Not just the physical part, but the fact that having sex is an incredibly intimate, soul fulfilling thing, and can really break your heart if you throw it around like a toy. I believe, and so does the bible, that sex was created for a man and his wife, after claiming themselves to each other in front of family and the Lord. Marraige was created in the bible to be symbolic of the relationship between Christ and the church. A holy, and righteous relationship, where sex holds a special place. If you want to wait, wait, knowing that God is blessing you in your waiting. If you're not religious, and are waiting for the anticipation factor, great! Or if you're not waiting, that's fine to. But, the OP isn't alone in waiting.

While all my healthiest relationships came about from waiting to get intimate...the longest I went before doing the dirty with a partner was three months. I think it's healthy to wait. I don't think it's healthy to wait until marriage.

No. If you've already had sex what's the point of abstaining from it until you get married? I couldn't do it. I'd be too sexually frustrated.

My FH and I didn't start having sex until we dated for more than a year. I thought I wanted to wait until marriage, but I knew that I deeply loved him and wanted him to have this part of me. Sex is very important for any relationship. But waiting isn't bad at all. That is your personal choice and I applaud you for that! Just know it's going be quite the night!

Adultery is sex outside of marriage. I'm not just making things up. Sorry this is such a touchy subject for y'all!

If God didn't want people having sex, why do we have orgasms?