No Sex Before Marriage

To me, sexual compatibility is an important part of a relationship. But that is a personal decision for you and your FH to make. However, I don't fully understand your reasoning. I highly doubt having sex before marriage was the cause of your previous divorces. In thinking of my previous relationships, there were things that worked and things that didn't. If I did the complete opposite of what Ive done before, I probably still wouldn't be happy because I would be losing that aspects that were functional and enjoyable.

Absolutely not. I don't believe in any man made restrictions towards purity or any of that nonsense. I do what feels right. That includes donating, volunteering, and throwing down on any given day.

We aren't doing this, but I think it's fine and sweet if you do. People shouldn't judge either way. There is no right or wrong here. My BFF did this (both virgins, Mormon) and it worked out well for them; they haven't had any major issues, though of course there were awkward moments at first. I think if you truly love each other, that physical intimacy will come as well.

Instant sexual chemistry doesn't mean a good marriage or that the sexual excitement will last. Nor does waiting ensure a good marriage or that the sexual excitement will last. In fact, of the many divorced couples I know, not one of them divorced for this reason. (In fact, I've seen 3 marriage dissolve even though the sex was really good. The guy was just having super good sex with everyone.) I can't imagine ever divorcing someone because the sex wasn't as exciting. The sex is always more exciting in the beginning because it's new.

Summary: Do whatever feels right to you. Sex before marriage won't ruin or make your marriage and waiting won't ruin or make your marriage.

My FH and I are waiting as well. It was something that was important to the both of us to do and I'm excited that that's something we will share with just one another.

The 1 time we did it I was 6 weeks post reconstructive surgery (bilateral mastectomy) so he treated me like a China doll. We are compatible sexually and just think our wedding night will be even more special.

Or awkward.

Or really short, which is okay too.

Oookay so you've had sex, you're just abstaining until married for now?

As for me....I think I've been bugging him for more sex lol.

Stop hiding posts!!!!! It's RUDE AF

Yes, the product has been tested, after we got to know each other.....and it was awesome because feelings were involved. It's not like we don't have sexual chemistry we just are looking forward to an awesome wedding night.

I would feel uncomfortable knowing someone else had been more intimate with my partner than I had been. I don't think no sex will prevent a marriage from failing... I think it's your mind set and communication that will take care of that for you

Know who also had an awesome wedding night? This chick right here. Even after consistently and enthusiastically boning her FH for the past 6 years.

I'd blow like a geyser. Not appealing for most....but do what you need to. I'd hate to buy a car without driving it first. This is the same concept, but a more personal spin on it.

Op you already had sex with him. This is pointless.

I think this is one of the "hot topics" here on WW.

I'm in a similar situation! My FH and I have been dating since 10th grade. Fast forward to our senior year of college.. we really started growing in our faith and decided to abstain from any kind of intimacy (other than kissing) until we get married. It's been super hard, but we know that it's right for us to do. When we get married in December it will be a little over 2 years since we've done anything!

If you've already had sex, this is a moot point.

FH grew the idea in his mind after i told him that my super religious aunt advised that we abstained before the wedding. I wasn't for it, but he insisted that we wait. I am a little pissed because being in 2 different states we only see each other every 2 months or so and now I can't even touch him . I can't wait for this to be over. I have to admit we are not on the same page sexually

To each their own. If it's important for you two to wait, that's great. What works for someone doesn't work for everyone. I know plenty of couples who waited to have sex till marriage and it worked out just fine. I know plenty of people who didn't wait and are no longer married. So whatever works for you two.