No Sex Before Marriage

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Nope.

Absolutely not. 1) we love having sex with each other, part of why we're getting married.

2) If there's no chemistry in bed then there's a lot more difficulty in your marriage IMO.

Sex is important.

I did not make that choice.

Out of curiosity, what made you decide abstain if both of you aren't virgins?

My fiance and I are waiting...rather, he is waiting, therefore I have to wait. It's kinda killing me...

Charlene, have you already had sex with each other and are choosing to take a break before the wedding or have you never had sex together yet? Sexual compatibility is so important to a marriage, to the point it can cause divorce, so please make sure you're doing this for the right reasons and are OK with being incompatible.......

No. FH is Catholic, but disagrees with abstinence.

He believes that if he's in a relationship, he should not withhold any bit of himself from his partner; he understands it, but he doesn't agree with it, personally

I, on the other hand, am just a heathen, haha.

No.. We are doing the whole wedding day different from our firsts. Both had a court house /mayor office firsts w/ no honeymoon. This time a "big" wedding and awesome honeymoon! You know, things we didn't do or have the chance to the first time. I don't see how cutting sex out would make a difference of the marriage. We couldn't ever do that.

We didn't wait. We live together as well, but sexual chemistry is so important. I'd be so afraid to wait and find out we don't click in bed.

Hell To the N.O! We have been intimate from pretty much our first date. We have amazing chemistry together and honestly, each time we are intimate, it feels like the first time. Never gets boring, never old. Why are you looking to refrain...you must come back with more details.

Nope... I am of the belief that you should test drive before you buy. You don't want to get stuck with a lemon for life. But truly I think that is a huge part of having a relationship and I wouldn't want to give up that part of the connection or intimacy that I have with my partner.

I mentioned waiting to have sex until the wedding night to FH (as a joke) and he laughed in my face.

ETA- someday I'll post and not have to fix any typos

We are not avoiding sex, as we aren't religious and we have a child together already. However, I think it's a sweet idea, and something I've thought about myself. It makes your honeymoon more exciting.

@futuremrsP, "test drive before you buy" is now in my personal collection of WW-isms. Thank-you.

My FH and I are waiting. It's based on our religious beliefs. I have had sex before, he has not. We feel it would be special. Don't get me wrong, we fool around all the time, but we are waiting to have sex. I think the choice is really up to the couple.

Nope. I can't imagine waiting, it's a critical part of your relationship. I hope it works out for ya though.

Nope we have never held back! I honestly believe he would go into cardiac arrest without it, I wouldn't want that on my conscience. Most importantly we had to make sure we were sexually compatible. I couldn't marry someone that I didn't have an intimate connection with.

DH said he thought we should not have sex before the wedding right after we got engaged. I told him he was crazy. I do know plenty of people who chose to wait until marriage, and it worked for them. If it works for you, then it's the right decision for you.

That's a hard no for me.

It's not for us. I wouldn't marry someone unless I lived with them first and have "tested the product" a few times. Those were 2 non negotiables for me. I see no benefit to waiting, especially if you aren't virgins.