No ring, no bring... what's your thought's???

Yep. It's discussed almost every other day on here.

In an effort to cut down my guest list, that is exactly how I am doing it. I have some family members that change boyfriends a little too regular. My feeling is, we are not paying for the plus one, who won't be around that long anyway. So for consistency, if you're not married or engaged - come alone.

Some people do go with this policy, but bend it a bit to include long time girlfriends/boyfriends, not just spouses or soon to be ones. It eliminates those random people you have never meet being at your wedding.

I followed it to a certain extent...because just as FutureMrsHicks stated to cut down the guest list I had to because I had some folks wanting to bring their boyfriend, plus their 3-4 children and an extra friend. I said absolutely not. Especially when I am paying per plate and we are on a budget so...."No ring, No bring" is how i did it over here. Heck before I was engaged i attended weddings and they only alloted for me to come no plus one, and i was ok with that.

Yeah I'm doing that. If they aren't engaged married or been together for a year or more or if they aren't coming from out of state alone they can't bring a guest.I'm on a budget. So I had to cut my list some how. Most people don't mind.

That's pretty much what we're doing. We have a few exceptions that have been together for YEARS and just haven't gotten engaged yet and we are still inviting them and their SO, but for example cousins who go through boyfriends or girlfriends right and left...no guest for them.

Oh okay, I may have to rethink this then... thanks. I'm on a tight bidget too & was thinking about the single person not being lonely or bored vs. the per plate aspect & overall the fact that the person would be a stranger, lol. I'm glad I asked.

We are doing the same, well kind of. If someone hasn't been in a relationship for awhile then we are not giving them a guest. Our guest list was suppose to be about 65 and we now are near 85. We have to cut costs somewhere. I think it will be okay because most of the people who don't have a guest are friendly with our other guests, so they will have people to be with. I think it is crazy to guest everyone, because then you have people you may have never met before at your wedding and have to pay for them.

We're letting our single guests bring a plus one. I think there are about 3 single girls attending my wedding and 20+ single guys, so to avoid the girls being bombarded with drunk men looking to hook up, everyone gets a plus one hahaha

Yes,

We have a few exceptions for those who have been dating forever and we know them then it's John Smith and Helen James.

But if you just started dating a week before the invites go out it's just you. Even more so because ours have to go out in the middle of July so anything can happen between then and October.

Hehe-- I never heard it put quite this way before We're planning to do long-term relationships only, too-- no blanket "plus ones". I don't want to pay for anyone's (excuse my language) f-buddy!

If they are in a serious, committed relationship, they are getting a plus 1. I have two different close friends who have been with their SO for years, they just aren't married or engaged - so, no they don't need a ring to bring a guest.

I'm not letting people bring plus ones. Everyone will know at least one person, so they can just buddy up. Make a new friend or something.

It isn't a new trend lol

I'm letting single people bring a plus one if they want. If I have someone who is single and doesn't know many others at our wedding, I don't expect them to come and feel alone and uncomfortable the whole time they are at my wedding.

Dina, I have a couple of exceptions. If it is someone that doesn't know anyone and you don't want them feeling out of place, that can be an exception as well. But in general it does help cut down the list.

We're letting people bring plus ones. We don't have a lot of single friends so it won't add too many extras, but also because I went to an out of town wedding where I was not allowed to bring a plus one and didn't know a single soul there except for the bride and her mother and 2 sisters. I'm a pretty social person but felt very much like an outsider and by myself

I didn't follow this rule and don't really like it. If our guests were in any sort of relationship I invited their significant other, whether it was one month or one year. Who am I to judge how serious someone else's relationship is? We also planned on giving a plus one to people that were single, but wouldn't know anyone else. We ended up not needing to do that because everyone knows each other.

We gave a plus one to all our single guests, I would personally be offended if my DH was invited to a wedding with the no ring, no bring rule, I mean we had been together for 7 years when we got engaged, that invite would be declined quickly!!!

I'm with Samantha. Anyone in a relationship at the time invitations went out were invited with their significant other's name also on the envelope. Truly single guests weren't given "plus ones," but when we get more "No" RSVPs we might extend those to them.

If someone is in a committed relationship, he/she should be invited with their SO. To do otherwise says that you want them to come celebrate your relationship even though you don't think theirs is important. It's disrespectful and unkind.

We are sort of doing this- spouses and fiances are invited, and if we know your SO we're inviting them. Basically, our wedding day is not one we want to spend meeting new people!