No One Showed Up To The Bridal Shower!!

SMALL CLAIMS COURT!!!!! I am sorry this happened to you. There are really shitty people out there.

@Jennifer she has blocked me, my FH, my best friend and my brother (which she blocked years ago. They never got along).

I'm kind of offended people would believe I'm lying. I don't know her guest like that. I have reached out to those whom I believed would talk to me or at least give me an explanation of what was going on but like I have said several times, they will not talk. I have done nothing to this woman! If I was out of line for putting celebration of the couple, my fault. But I was very upfront with it with her never thought twice about it because like I said before SHE KEPT IN CONTACT.

I don't use social media very often. I'm rarely on it to keep track of who is my friend on there and who isn't.

I didn't sit there and make up or over exaggerate a story. Literally every single detail is given up until the present.

Not sure what she told her family and friends. I barely knew more than half the people on the guest list. I thought I was doing the right thing....

I'm not avoiding questions. I been answering them and trying to clarify whatever confusion people may have. But the last thing I have to do is lie.

Nobody said you're lying, OP. I believe you did sit, alone, at a shower. I believe you lost a lot of money. However, how it got to that point is troubling. Are you saying that you did alter an actual wedding shower invitation to make it say "Celebration of Couple", because if you did, that's where she declared war on you.

Holy shit!! That is terrible. It sounds like a made up story. Why would she do that? Afraid you'd spoil their secret??

I'd never speak to her again. What a selfish bitch. You should've cancelled the shower as soon as you found out she was married.

Fascinating... Wow.

I'm not sure why people would think this is a made up story, not sure what OP has to gain from making up something like this. And if fabricating something like this is how some people get their jollies that's pathetic.

Omg what happen

@Centerpiece the invitations were simply e-vites. I sent it to her before emailing them and texting them to her guest. I did express to her grandmother that out of the kindness of my heart I was still willing to throw the shower and she was already married. The grandmother said nothing Daisy does surprises her anymore and she believes she's "hidding" more than just a marriage. Daisy and her husband moved in with each other shortly after announcing their engagement and Daisy had told her grandmother that she needed her to keep her daughter until they got settled in. She never got her daughter from her grandmother after months later of moving in. She changed after meeting the guy but didn't change towards me. The other bridesmaid that I did know (we are going to call her Lacey) known Daisy longer than I did, she was upset Daisy had given me place of maid of honor and clearly showed it towards me. We all knew Lacey was mad. So with her taking Daisy's side in not talking to me and telling me what's going on, I'm not surprised. I didn't think it was appropriate to contact her guest questioning them as to why they didn't show or if they knew why Daisy had cancelled it. I didn't know those people that well, so the people I did know, I attempted to contact with little to no avail. My honest opinion was that Daisy was back on drugs (she had been clean for 12 years) with her husband and acting out. I had taken her to her wedding dress appointment and before we got there she said she planned on buying a dress. She told me her budget was $500 but during the appointment she told the consultant her budget was $2000. Once she picked out the dress she didn't have enough to put down on the dress and asked me to front the deposit for her and she'd pay me back. That was a "red flag" that she might have been on drugs because she couldn't even put $200 down on her dress in which I asked beforehand if she had enough for the deposit. During the appointment her husband kept calling her, rushing her home in which I didn't understand because we had only been there for 30 minutes. Her actual wedding plans were all twisted....her FH picked a Tuesday after Christmas because it was his "grandparents wedding anniversary" in which he believed was good luck. She wanted to self cater the wedding with several frozen lasagnas, grocery store bought chicken, family bring sides and her family friend make her wedding cake. I tried to explain to them several times that it wasn't a great idea, tried to help them find an affordable caterer but they were stuck on their plans. Their entire wedding was planned out very tacky. Even my best friend Jessica and her mother thought I was joking about it when I told them their plans. FH even said to me "they can't be serious. Are you fucking with me?!" But literally was dead serious. I'm no one to throw shade or judge folks....I will give my opinion and that's it, especially if I'm not paying for it. I still have my bridesmaids dress I was supposed to be wearing for their wedding hanging behind my closet door. I thought maybe she was jealous of my plans for my own wedding vs hers. But because we were friends I didn't want to believe it.

I'm trying to paint you a bigger picture of the situation and the stuff leading up to the shower.

I did ask Daisy when I picked her and her husband up from the courthouse wedding why didn't she have enough money to get back home and she said "they didn't know their was a ceremony fee for the JOP. They thought they just go in, judge marries them, the sign papers and leave. She wasn't aware of the additional cost. Which did not make sense to me but I wasn't tripping because it wasn't my problem. I asked them both why so suddenly and why they didn't wait until December, they said "they were ready to be married, it just felt right!" I'm guessing it's something more to it, hoping she would tell me later on but she never did so I took their word for it. So somewhere after the courthouse wedding day until the shower in November I have no clue where it could have gotten to this point. I even blamed her FH for this happening that he had her thinking about me in a certain way because I always put my thoughts and opinions out on the table. But shit I don't know. She no longer works at her previous place of employment, her grandmother won't give me any contact info on her and the people I do know refuse to speak to me. So I'm forced to just leave it alone. But I did my part. Sucks it happened but I'm definitely not going to ever deal with anyone like that ever again!

Wow op! This girl is a wreck and sounds like a black hole of bad decisions. The story probably sounds fishy because it is so extremely bad. So all I can say is that you should let it go and move on. Violence or even ill will is wasted on this wreck of a person. Be glad you aren't friends anymore.

Her invitations were

Wow

Just reading pissed me ofd. Sucks this happened to you

What the fuckin fuck!?!?

Wow. Just wow. She had many issues that you cannot help her with. Leave that where it is.

Wow! Seems like there were red flags all over and you were giving her the benefit of the doubt. Love the invite by the way. Nice colors. I just feel like this is one of those things that you will never resolve and always be in the dark about. It will eat you alive. Don't let it.

On different note: Obviously violence isn't an answer. I do think more people say "kick ass" than actually mean or intentionally do. I know I said it, but I dont do confrontation and I hate fights. I'm a lover not a fighter. So I apologize to those who took my comment and others as "crazy fighting violent bishes!" who approve of violence.

Wow what the actual fuck.

Gotta say, that was the longest reply from an OP that I've ever seen...'preciate ya and sorry your friend is an a**!

Ohhh helllll nooooo

I would send a letter to everyone you sent an invite to (hopefully you still have addresses) and let them know Daisy is a bitch and already married. Then I would find Daisy and kick her fuckin ass.

No No Helllll No.... this is just the Worse!!!

Im soo sorry this happened to you,,,,, just horrible! I cant even comment on why she would do something like this other than pure HATE and anger at your opinion of it being rude to not tell folks..... she is childish and I seriously believe something might be wrong upstairs....

I agree with the suing her but really would it make a difference.... she probably wouldnt show up or pay you back..... Unbelievable!