No one offered to throw me a bridal shower.

Are you on the virtual registry here?

I don't see how is gift grabby you are spending 1,500 or more on a bridal shower and your lucky if you make that back in gifts. Again if you really want one, do it. Have a cousin say she's throwing it and problem solved. Your the secret investor and your cousin will get all the credit.

It's basically just an opportunity to get gifts and play some silly games. Noone threw me a shower also. Sometimes circumstances are what they are. I was thrilled to just have everyone celebrate with me at our wedding and reception. I didn't need something else to focus on.

They may be trying to surprise u last minute.

I say move on.

"I don't see how is gift grabby you are spending 1,500 or more on a bridal shower and your lucky if you make that back in gifts." That right there is the whole problem - thinking of it like "making back" what you spent

Sorry girl :/ don't throw your own shower. Think about the reason you're getting married!

Yea I'm not having one neither..My baby sister asked if she had to but us a gift...See this is why I chose not to have a wedding party couldn't deal with the drama and attitudes and opinion

I'm sorry you're disappointed but, you didn't have a wedding party so, there really isn't anyone who would throw one. Please do not host your own or a luncheon!

@Nas - I didn't have one & I still think it's something that you just have to "get over." I did & didn't die over it! The wedding still happened & that was the point.

@Jennifer R - Seriously!? A wedding is about marrying the person you love & hosting the people who support your relationship, not how many gifts you can "make back."

Make that back in gifts?! The hell? This isn't a for profit event! What a disgusting attitude to have.

No bridesmaids no bridal shower. Emily Post says "one of the attendants( aka bridesmaids) duties is to host a shower. traditionally the bride or groom's immediate family members do not host a shower, doing so can appear self-serving a shower guest list is made up of close friends, attendants, and family members. normally anyone invited to a shower should be invited to a wedding

Not to say that you shouldn't have a bridal shower but it makes sense that no one has offered to throw you one. If you and your groom are paying for all of your wedding expenses I don't see the harm in asking your mother, his mother, a sister to throw you one.

Nobody is throwing me one either. I'm fine with not having one. Just one less thing to stress over before the big day.

Sorry that this happened! I got engaged in December and not a single person has mentioned throwing me a shower. It is SO not about the gifts. It's about the tact or lack thereof. It's about the lack of support for the marriage. Somebody ought to be there beating the drum for you and they're just not. It really sucks and I'm sorry that happened to you. As for me, I am cometely fine not having a shower, but I am 100% annoyed that not a single person has brought it up. I get married in April. It is a huge slight in my opinion and it is fine that you feel bad about it.

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I agree, Mallory!! Sigh. All we can do is look forward to get married on our special days!!

You can't be the type of person who isn't going to have a bridal party "because the drama" and also be the person who is doing a destination wedding (which is typically considered notice to the world that you're keeping it small and making it a vacation (which is fine)) and then ALSO expect someone to throw you a traditional party like a bridal shower.

Not about tackiness or anything, I hate that and people can do whatever they want. Ask someone to throw it or throw it yourself for all it matter to me. ...But if you SPECIFICALLY set yourself up as a no-fuss/no helpers type bride, well then yeah no one is going to offer.

No one is throwing me one either but I dont really care. His mother asked if I wanted one and I said no. We are not really doing bachelor/bachelorette either because our friends are not local. I'm focused on the wedding and that's plenty for me. I would put it out of your mind as insignificant. Who knows- maybe will surprise you with one unexpectedly but I wouldnt count on it. Some people just dont think about that stuff especially if you dont have a bridal party.

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This was a dead thread.

You're not getting married for another 6 months. It's early for anyone to talk about throwing a shower for you. Also, supporting your marriage =/= paying for or planning a party for you. Even if nobody ever offers to throw a shower for you, it's really not a slight against you. A lot of people don't have the time and/or financial wherewithal to spend hundreds of dollars throwing a party in someone else's honor. It doesn't mean they don't love and support that person.

View Quoted Comment I disagree somewhat. 6 months isnt early for talk these days. I understand what you're saying, but on some level, if you really love and support a person you know enough about them to know that theyll appreciate even a small inexpensive get together. "Thought that counts" and all that. And anyone including the bride can throw a shower imo. No one ever asked me who threw my shower....and if they did I'd tell them straight up my sister and mom did because my MOH is a self-obsessed, poor, unmarried, soon-to-be spinster type who I love very much but has never been a socially knowledgable person. You do what you do. I'm still getting married *shrug*