No one offered to throw me a bridal shower.

I understand your disappointment. I am not having a BP and am having a DW in FL. I planned to host my own bridal brunch with no gift giving to still have something. My sister has since stepped up and is super excited to plan it but I was totally ready to forge ahead on my own (and pay for it on my own.)

I am very sorry you don't get to have this part of the experience. I agree with PPs that this ship has sailed and it's time to focus on the other great memories. You can also make sure that your friends and family aren't ever left without a shower. You can be the bridal shower throwing lady for the rest of your life.

Does it suck? Sure, some people probably would feel disappointed about it.

Does it make you any less married when the day comes? No.

Does it make anything less special? No.

Take a second to be sad; take the rest of that time to focus on what's really important about your wedding.

I have asked my family and fh's family not to throw me a shower. So far, they are respecting my wishes.

Instead, my mom and sisters and I (and possibly FH's mom) are going to do a murder mystery dinner night!

Do Something special that you can host!

LOL oh boy... no one is throwing me a bridal shower. You need to get over it. You're a big girl.

OP - I am sorry that no one offered, since having a shower was clearly something that you would have liked.

There's a couple things that I'm thinking about when I look at your question:

1.) It wouldn't be okay to suggest to someone that they throw you a shower. Throwing a party in someone else's honor can be expensive and it's just not okay to put someone else in a position to feel like you expect that of them. If someone is going to host a shower, they should offer on their own, not because you asked them to and made them feel like they were obligated to agree to do it.

2.) You shouldn't host your own. I think that's pretty much covered by a lot of posters on here, but it's a gift giving event thrown in your honor. If you host your own, that looks incredibly gift grabby.

3.) Bridal showers should only be attended by people who are invited to your wedding. Do you have a small guest list because you're having a DW? If so, it would be really bad etiquette to invite a bunch of local friends who aren't necessarily invited to your wedding to a bridal shower.

Another thought that popped into my head is that by having a DW, it's probably expensive for your guests just to attend your wedding. You might not have a BP who has to shell out money on attire for your big day, but your friends and family are paying for a vacation to attend your wedding. They may have decided the added expense of throwing a shower just wasn't something they could swing on top of the cost of the trip.

While some may think it is silly to feel hurt or disappointed about no one offering, I totally identify with how you feel. It's not that I want anyone to spend a bunch of money on a bridal shower, it's really just the thought someone else would care about you enough to go through the trouble of doing it. Even if just a small get together with a few people who love you, means a lot.

I was unsure if anyone was planning on throwing a shower for me. Everyone on my family plans things last minute where I am a planner by trade. Because my work schedule is so crazy, I spoke with my mom and simply asked if she knew of anyone that was planning a shower because I would need to make sure I was off for work. It was an good way to get information and ease my mind a little bit.

I didn't want one.

my job did one at work and 2 coworkers took me to eat

Is "move on" or "get over it" probably the best advice? Yes. It probably is because ultimately that's all you can do.

However, I totally see why you're disappointed and I'm sorry you're feeling that way. No not everyone has a shower, but they're pretty common. If you really wanted one it's understandable that you're bummed about not getting one.

My advice is to focus on your wedding and your marriage. The disappointment about the shower will eventually fade!

I'm not having a shower either, for the exact same reasons as you, up to and including Florida. It's fine. I'm moving, I have a kid and I'm planning a wedding. I don't have an afternoon to sit around eating finger sandwiches and opening tea towels.

Most showers are death, honestly. Don't sweat it.

I get it, it is disappointing -- not because of the gifts but because you thought your squad would want to celebrate a little bit extra with you. My only advice is, like PPs, to keep your eyes on the prize: you and your FH getting married.

I had a small DW and I didn't have a bridal shower or bachelorette party. (Didn't want either honestly.)

Yes, I understand the sting of not having one. But trust me, it's okay. Because at the end of the day you still get to marry the love of your life and that's what matters. Not the party, not the gift, not the oohhh and ahhhh about the big day. It's your marriage that's most important. All the days to come after the wedding date. I promise you, it will be okay.

I actually had some friends from send me gifts the week of my wedding without me even knowing it was going to happen.

Yes bridal brunch or luncheon !

I understand your disappointment. I'm sorry. I honestly have not thought about it the way everyone else has. My MOH lives in another state so I just talked to everyone about a date. Never thought of it as throwing myself one but helping line the ducks. lol I'm sorry sweetie. On the bright side your getting married next month!! Try and keep your chin up.

Move on

OP- I'm sorry that there are so many people giving you rude comments.. I would definitely be upset if I wasn't having a shower, specially because of the experience and memories you get from it (not all about the presents) you could drop a hint to someone that is close to you.. you could also host something similar to a bridal shower but not ask for presents? I'm sorry that you are sad about this but don't let it ruin anything!

My FMIL wanted to throw one near FHs hometown for their family. It is his first wedding so they are excited. I'm rolling with it. I'm previously married and had one before so we are opting out of anything with my family.

I think you can be sad, but you shouldn't be so upset that it ruins anything.

Not having a bridal party does play in to no one offering to host one for you.

Have you considered that, perhaps, someone is planning a surprise shower for you? Mine was a surprise. I thought I was going to a friends house for dinner. I walked in to 20 people yelling surprise.

I do understand why you are disappointed - every wedding I have ever been to has had a shower and they were always a blast. Buuuut you decided not to honor your friends, so why should they have to honor you?