No one offered to throw me a bridal shower.

@QueSera I think that may be a little dated. Most bridal showers I have been to have been hosted by the brides mother, and I personally don't think that's strange. My sister (MOH) and my mother will be cohosting my shower (they've already offered to do so closer to my wedding).

As long as the shower isn't hosted by the bride herself, I see no issue.

Bridal shower, wedding or any event for that matter. No one puts a gun to my head to attend, I choose to celebrate with the person being honored. I never in my life have asked who in the room is paying for the event. Why should it matter who's paying for it? how would people find out who paid for it?

Jennifer - the host should be pretty clear! It's the person who sends the invitation, the person you need to RSVP to, and the person welcoming you to the event!

The reason you would not host one yourself is the invitation would come across as "please come to an event celebrating me and please bring me a gift" (since showers are gift-giving occasions).

I think you shouldn't have to ask.. whoever your MOH is suppose to offer and do it. But if you want to know then just ask if there will be one... then go from there move on.

I didn't have a bridal shower either and I didn't mind.

I like the luncheon idea for your nearest and dearest friends.

I'm sorry I'd be upset too. I think it's probably a by product of having a destination wedding though and not having a bridal party. I don't think you should throw yourself a shower, but I think it would be ok if you asked a few close friends to get together to celebrate your engagement. Maybe a nice dinner out or something, so you get that "celebration" feeling if excitement? I'm lucky enough to have my mom hosting my bridal shower. I couldn't care less about the gifts but I do look forward to a few hours of celebrating. Whether or not that's the primary purpose of a bridal shower lol.

I have chosen not to have one because I don't want people to spend money on me for gifts I don't need/ won't use. You say you don't want your friends to spend money on you and that's why your not having a bridal party, but yet you want them to throw you a shower where gifts are what is expected at a shower.

First, I'm sorry because I do see how this could be disappointing. However, I do thinkthis is a side effect of both not having a bridal party and having a destination wedding. I do think you need to move pin and get over it. But, have you considered signing up for the virtual shower here on WW?

If you ASK for a bridal shower, than there really much of a difference than you holding a party to get gifts for yourself.

They should be offered. Otherwise, it's just kind of gift grabby.

"Yes u can and u can throw it urself if u wanted to!"

Times have not changed to a point where people make a list of things they want and then throw themselves a party so they can ask people to bring them gifts.

And so using a smartphone instead of a keyboard on a pc is now incorrect. If I were writing a paper for a college course than I would give a damn about your thoughts of my writing skills, since it's not that serious.........

Quick, somebody get Babydoll to her special safe place!

Bridal shower is not that big of a deal. Don't stress over it. Be more excited about your actual destination wedding.

Disappointing yes but not the end of the world. I'm not having one and I could care less but this is also my second marriage so it's not important to me.

Weddings are "your day" to marry your spouse, not your day to rake in cash and gifts. Focusing on the latter changes a romantic event into a material transaction.

I think that more then the gifts it is the experience of a girl party to celebrate that fact that you are getting married. I didn't want a shower because all our friends and family live far away (we don't have a lot of friends where we live and we haven't lived here very long). My mom insisted on throwing me a shower. I'm glad she did because it was very sweet even though it was small with people I didn't know well. I definitely second the advice to throw an engagement or (come up with a creative name) ladies luncheon/dinner to celebrate. It's also not uncommon for moms, grandmas or FMIL and FSILs to throw a BS. My dad's family had a BS for my mom before their wedding. So maybe there is still hope someone will do one? In the mean time plan an alternative party for yourself to relax and celebrate with your friends. It's hard to just "get over it", if it's important to you then it is important. Sorry we aren't friends... I'd love to throw you a BS!!

I think there is too much judgement. A gift is going to be given regardless of who throws the party. No one will know who is throwing the party unless, you say so. The invitations can be worded in a way in which no one will be announced as the host. Where I come from, we look for any reason to party and spend time with friends and family. Etiquette says the brides family should pay for the wedding, in reality more and more people are paying for their own wedding. Get with the times!. When I get an invite in the mail, i get super excited and start planning my outfit. Some brides act like the no Fun Queens no cake for you! Your uninvited, your not worthy enough for my wedding. We love people asking if they are invited to our wedding.

@Jennifer R - uhh, everyone? Showers were created to "shower" the bride or couple with gifts. Throwing your own bridal shower is literally having a party so people will give you stuff. I'm not a fan of the term gift grabby, but it applies to this. It's not cool to have demand gifts from people.

Yeah, this sucks, but it kind of comes with the territory of not having a bridal party and having a destination wedding. If you didn't feel like you should honor your family/friends by including them in the BP, I can kind of understand why they wouldn't feel the need to host a shower for you. Plus, they're likely already shelling out a bit of cash to attend your actual wedding. BTW- this is nothing against those who decide not to have a BP. Just a suggestion of why no one has offered to throw you a shower.