No one offered to throw me a bridal shower.

Wow these responses are super rude. I’m in the same boat right now and while of course your wedding will be great with your partner, this task is about your friendships so understand your disappointment that they don’t care enough to take the time to plan something for you. I’m working on those feelings as well as my other friends are getting bridal showers around me and I’ve vocalized I’d like one and nothing. I guess just learn that maybe your friends don’t value that type of event but if you do, try to be vocal on how much it means to you and go from there. Best of luck.

View Quoted Comment It is considered rude to throw any party for yourself where people would bring you gifts
Birthdays, baby showers, wedding showers and Anniversary parties.
Any female friend or family invited to the wedding can give a shower, it is not a bridal party responsibility. Since people choose bridal parties from your closest friends and family, often they volunteer. But bride, No.

Do you have a mother, sister, best friend, or aunt who could throw it for you?

Y'all, this is from 2017. 😂 We all are getting REAL bored in quarantine.

View Quoted Comment While true, Covid is driving us all nuts, Weddings are still happening and having these types of problems are timeless.

I am in this same position..and with postponing the wedding now TWICE and being engaged for 4 years, I’m just melting in sadness. I feel like none of my family or “friends” care. I see Facebook friends having it ALL and I can’t even get people to commit to being a bridesmaid. I’m just really bummed how did it end for you?

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I agree! Then you can have what you want anyways!

I get it, I am in a similar situation. I actually found this thread by google “everyone wants to be at my wedding but no one has offered to throw me a shower.” While I’m not terribly upset that no one has offered, I do find it ironic that I’m expected to shell out a ton of money (about 30k all said and done) for a big party for other people to enjoy and everyone wanting an invite but not one of those people have offered a shower. I’m not trying to be rude but the amount of money spent in a wedding would never equate to the amount anyone could “shower” you with.


Instead we could just soak up the fun we’re getting to have by not having a wedding (stress free and with a vacay!) and know that weddings/ showers etc are for people with large social circles and family money.