No one offered to throw me a bridal shower.

I like how so many people are telling the OP to "get over it" but if it happened to you, you would be just as disappointed.

OP, you probably shouldnt throw a shower. But you're still a month away from your wedding, right? Who is to say you won't have one next month?

@Jacks, I've been to over a dozen showers and, I've never ask who's hosting. Nor has it even been announced xyz is hosting. You can make someone in charge of RSVP etc. and fund it yourself. It is a big expense to have someone other than your Mom, or close family finance. In my area bridal showers start at 1k. I am lucky to have my mom host and finance mine. But, If I really wanted one and no one offered I would do my own anonymously.

I'm not having a bridal shower, not too familiar with them, and also don't have a bridal party, some co workers asked me if I was but I just told them no that I dont care about gifts dont need any. Im not sad about it though i don't care for it

The only thing more tacky than asking someone to throw it is throwing one for yourself. I understand you're disappointed, but sounds like you're not surprised

I wouldn't be surprised that no one is planning one.

Yes, it's sad and it sucks, but you kind of made that decision when you decided to not have a bridal party and then have a destination wedding

The same people telling you to "get over it" are probably the same people that had showers and can't relate to your hurt feelings. I'm sorry you're feeling hurt by this, I would too. No matter the size or type of wedding, showers and bachelorette parties, etc., really help you get in the spirit of being a bride! Why don't you and your FH throw an "i Do BBQ" sort of like an engagement party and shower wrapped into one. That way, you can both celebrate with your friends and it won't be like you're throwing your own shower. Grill some burgers, have some sides, beers, desserts, and play different games and just enjoy

I can think of worse things.

It's a little late now that you're 38 days out, it would be really short notice for someone to plan something. I'm sorry you missed out on this experience, just focus on your marriage and be excited for that!

I think this is tough because without a bridal party it is unclear who would host a shower, and no matter how cheap the shower is - there are some unavoidable hosting costs!

I like Goldfisch's suggestion! If you want a fun pre-wedding event, then host a bridal luncheon and treat your friends to a great lunch or brunch!

Normally its someone in the BP that throws the shower. Since you'd decided to forgo this because your friends are dramatic then There is really no one who would throw one.

I don’t really like people having showers for DW. You are making people shell out a lot of money to attend, that’s the gift IMO.

Sorry your feeling down but I can only assume part of this is due to your decisions. Try to get over it and move on. It doesn't really matter in the end.

I'm sure your disappointed and I understand why. There's really nothing you can do. Your about a little over a month away. I think you should move forward and focus on your big day

You shouldn't expect anyone to throw you a shower. Just let it go at this point... especially given all the contributing factors noted in the opener... Lack of a bridal party is a contributing factor as well...

Y'all calling people out for being rude, but come on. This is childish.

I already know I won't have a shower. Because of where we live, this whole thing is a logistical nightmare because none of our families or the WP live near us, and they'll all have to travel and get hotels for the wedding so I don't want to cause any extra expenses. I would kill to have a "local" wedding where everyone could go to their own beds at night.

OP chose not to have a wedding party, when you trade off not having any drama, you also trade off those close friends feeling invested in your wedding.

When you chose to have a DW, you limit your guest list and add a ton of expenses to your VIPs and any other guests that can afford to attend. If I was your family, I would be choosing between the money to throw you a shower, and the money to attend your wedding.

OP, if you were having a local wedding, and/or a BP, I'd probably feel a little bad for you that no one decided to throw you a shower, but I'd still suggest letting it go.

As it is, this the wedding you chose to have. You have a wedding that will be costly for your guests to attend. You didn't want drama by honoring your VIPs, so don't even think about asking them to take on the extra effort and expenses to throw you an unnecessary party #sorrynotsorry. ETA:spelling

I didn't get one either, my family doesn't even seem to care that I am planning my wedding, so I understand. I know it's hard to do so, but move forward and be positive. No matter what you are still winning and will be blissfully married soon. I'm sure you won't still be thinking about what kind of party/shower you didn't have years down the line. Keep your head up!

@Nas - I didn't have a shower and I'm still saying get over it. Don't assume things.

Your mom or FMIL didn't offer? I'm surprised on that. Don't throw one for yourself though. Maybe once word gets out more, someone will offer.

Julia- Its a month away, I was say that ship has sailed.

I read somewhere the moms aren't supposed to throw one either because it's family asking for gifts.

I'm sorry :/

@OG Kathryn: Thanks, didn't see that.