No one is coming to our wedding!!

Give um the week, i'm sure there are more people coming, they are just procrastinating. breathe. think about the people you've invited- do they ever do anything right away?

There's nothing wrong with contacting them after the deadline has passed...when did you send out your invites to begin with?

We sent them out a month ago.

It's not uncommon for people not to respond, but it doesn't mean they aren't coming! If you don't see their response in another week or so, call them up and remind them that you really need to know whether or not they will be coming.

Donna, in this technological day and age, you should be fine to get responses from the majority of your guests, even if they don't get back to you by the deadline (which, don't get me wrong, is SO ANNOYING!) Out of the 180 we invited, we still hadn't heard from 100 a few days before our deadline. We sent out a mass FB message a couple days before the deadline, just sending a 'friendly reminder'. over 50 of the guests got back very quickly to us. The others got back to us over the next few days after our deadline after we tried to contact them other ways and with a more forward "hey, if you don't get back to us, you won't eat" approach.

I wouldn't worry just yet, although I do realize it's anxiety provoking..Personally I've had instances in which I didn't mail an RSVP til the last possible moment so it would reach them by the date..for various reasons, schedules being up in the air, etc. I kinda know how you feel though, I'm like "OH I only got one person to sign my wedding website guest book, Humph!" But rationally I do know that doesn't mean people don't care, it just means they don't make a habit of signing guestbooks, and in your case they just suck at RSVPing, nothing personal! Good luck! keep us updated! :-)

I definitely wouldn't start worrying! I had to personally contact about 75% of my guests to get their RSVP answers.

Just because they haven't answered, doesn't mean they aren't coming!!

Some people forget, others lose the paper/website/phone number, etc.

Every one else has something going on in their personal lives, so definitely don't take it personally at all!

They still have time, but to give yourself peace of mind, go ahead and start calling/contacting the non-responsive!

Give it some time I am sure more people will rsvp. Normally some of them usually wait until the last minute.

Chill Donna! I've experienced this as an associate pastors to young families and singles. An rsvp deadline doesn't mean as much to your age group as it used to in the past. Your friends are probably writing it on their calendars and talking to eachother about going--they just haven't told YOU yet They will, and all will be well. And if not, a smaller, more intimate crowd is an awesome experience if you and your beloved keep your hearts focused on your love and future life together. Don't let stress steal your joy!

Agree, don't worry about it! My FH's family is all about the RSVPs and pretty much all of them have RSVP'ed. My family, on the other hand? Almost nil had sent the RSVP back, but they TELL me they're coming at my grandpa's 81st birthday. Lol, I just decided to accept the verbal RSVP.

I agree give them to the 4th and after that start calling. people SUCK at RSVP. what bugged me worse is the ones that rsvpd yes then didn't show or bother to tell me that they were not going to be there. Tempted to send them a bill. If you have to call people explain you just need a head count for the caterer. Good luck =)

Give it some more time. I am finding out people just don't pay attention to the RSVP date. Mine was May 27th and I am still getting people saying "Oh yeah I am putting it in the mail today". Also, make some followup phone calls because I discovered 1 or 2 never made it to the people, two others lost theirs and have forgotten to tell me. But this is one reason I mailed more than I expected because I knew some wouldnt be able to come. One other thing...June is a big graduation month so there may be people who have graduation commitments and in most families...that will come first.

If your deadline is the 4th, wait till after that then first thing on the 5th, start calling to confirm everything, I know everyone said not too worry but there's only 2 weeks till your wedding, you should've given them an earlier deadline. call them on the 5th and see what happend then, good luck, I'm sure they will come

I agree with @patricia

We have the same date. I sent out over a 100 and got back 20ish RSVPs. Not gonna worry about we are palnning on 200 people and whoever shows up is ment to be there.

Don't worry about it. Give them more days to answer you. I think some people will come on that day. Your families and friends must care your wedding very much. With the blessing of guests, both of you will be much happier.Just relax yourself.

Deep breaths... Over 90% of the people that attended my wedding did not RSVP. It is extremely annoying but nothing to panic over. Give them a week and then get out the old roledex (aka contact list in your phone... gotta love 21st centruy technology) and start calling these bums up. Be nice but firm about needing a decision. It isn't that they don't care but that people don't realize that leaving an RSVP unanswered is as big of a deal as it is. Just remember this for the next invite you get

Remind them. I had to remind some people.... the ones I thought I wouldn't have to. It was disappointing but they listened to me! lol

I agree with Jen; even though its a pain, i plan on sifting through the no-replies myself and calling them.

Well I was right because only about half of the people that I invited came. Well I should have known that it was going to be a terrible start to our honeymoon and the rest of our married life but we are making the best of things and dealing with things as they come along. We've been together for 9 years so nothing can be so bad that we can't work out together.