No kids... How to say it nicely?? And how to include it on the invites?

"You are invited to the adult only reception at..."

On the RSVP's put __seats have been reserved in your honor

the __ being the number of how many you're actually inviting.

I made the cutoff age for my wedding 12 just because I feel like children over 12 know how to behave themselves and will still eat a full meal. I would suggest either paying for a nanny service or helping people find one. FH and I could not afford a nanny service (we are getting married 2 hours away from most people) so I just wrote on my wedding website to contact us if you need help finding someone. I also included a note in my accessory card which is included in the invitation about the age limit and we are spreading the word by mouth as much as we can.

I put adult formal reception to follow. Straight to the point.

If the invitation was addressed with the kid's names, then they are invited. If not, then the kids aren't invited. I didn't write anything else on the invitation.

We put: "Adult only reception to follow" at the end of our invitations.

Adult only reception. Simple and they will get it hopefully haha

Adult reception to follow.

Thanks everyone. I just don't want people to think I am being rude. I know some people can get offended by an adult only reception. If it were close to home, I guess it wouldn't be as difficult. But being far away, I know it poses a whole different problem!

I would never suggest putting this directly on your invitations. There are reception cards that can be ordered for this, and you can also make sure that your wedding website clearly states no kiddos.

I put "adult only reception" on ours

I put it on our website and only addressed the envelope to the adults. I only had two people complain. 1 was my cousin who has tried to invite a whole bunch of people (not just kids). And the other just asked if she could bring her daughter and was fine when I said no.

At the bottom of our invite I put "Adult Reception to Follow"

Putting adults only anywhere is very rude. You address the invites only to those invited. If people call or RSVP with their kids you say "I'm sorry the invite was for you and xx only. I hope you can still attend!" Being a weekend you may get a higher decline rate but having no kids is you eight

We put " We have reserved x amount of adult seats in your honor" I think that is tactful and lets them no exactly how many we reserved for them .

I have seen so many people on here have people try to add extra people and invite their children and extra guests. Even if they put "we have reserved x seats in your honor" and only put the names on the envelopes of who is invited. And when I say "so many people" I mean A LOT!

I am typically one to follow etiquette but it is very important for FH and I to not have kids invited b/c of liability reasons that we decided we didn't care about it being tacky and wanted to make sure people completely understood the situation. At the end of the day you have to think about if you care about people complaining it is in the invitation or not. In my situation, I didn't. I personally think people will get over it and in 2 years they aren't going to remember what I had in the invitation and what I didn't.

Make sure you address the invitations only to the names you want invited. If John and Jane have little Suzy and Jim, then you only put "Mr and Mrs Smith" on the invitation - not sometime like "The Smith Family".

If you think some people won't get the message or don't understand proper invitation etiquette (i.e. only the people named on the address line are invited), then you could call them individually and say "My cousin (or whoever...make it up) called to inquire about bringing their children so I thought I would call around and remind people that only so and so are invited so we can avoid any confusion."

I put on my RSVP " we have reserved ____# of seats in your honor to our adult only affair" and put "____# attending" next to graciously accepts. That is a polite way to tell someone exactly how many people you are inviting and that their children are not welcome! (:

I don't see how putting adults only on an invitation is rude. People need to stop being so sensitive. Seriously.

If it's a "tacky" thing to do then fine...whatever but rude?...I don't see how. I have children and I wouldn't be offended at all.

I would be pleased to be "forced" to get a sitter for the night so I can party it up a wedding. Too bad my wedding is gonna have tons of kids there I know I would catch hell for not allowing the chitlins

We put "X number of adult guests attending" on RSVP, wrote that the venue is 21+ on our wedding website (it's not! Lol), & told a few aunts in the family to spread the word. We will see what happens!