No kids... How to say it nicely?? And how to include it on the invites?

Its rude because you're telling people that they AREN'T invited. Telling someone they aren't invited is rude. Most people are smart enough to realize that an invitation addressed to "John and Jane Doe" does not include their children. If it said "John and Jane Doe. Sally Doe. Harry Doe." then the kids are invited. If people throw a fit or ask you simply say the invite was only for those listed on the invitation. End of discussion. If they choose to fight you over it that's their problem, not yours.

I plan on having the fam spread the word and just make a note on my website. Then just to cover my bases I am puting the __ seats are reserved in your honor. But that is not just because I worried people will assume their kids are invited but because I have friends who WILL bring a crap ton of people unless I tell them otherwise. It's not a frat party people...it's a wedding, you can't just bring whomever you like.

We wrote on the rsvp cards who specifically we were inviting and then wrote how many were attending and then under it left a spot for not attending and if they were not coming then they were to check that box and send it back

On our invite I clearly wrote "Adult reception to follow". I remember at my MOHs wedding the kids were such a handful. I think providing a baby sitter at your reception is very generous and many parents will appreciate it

Just because no one tells you they were offended (as tht would be rude of them) it doesn't mean everyone was okay with it.

We have an infant son. At the time of the wedding, he will either be about 15 months or nearly 2 1/2 (we may change the date). I am tempted to have a sit down dinner afterwards for adults only. My only concern is that we know so many people with kids. It is just a big expense if we include the children. We are also making sure to put on the invites that we have X amount of seats reserved for them. We don't want more people than we can afford.

I put "adult only reception to follow" on the invite, then on the response cards I put

_____# of adults attending.

I also put a section on our wedding website regarding the adult only recepition:

"**Please note that due to space limitations we will be having an adult only reception. We know how important your kiddos are to you and they are important to us too but we hope informing our guests in advance will give everyone time to hire a sitter for the night and enjoy an evening out with us!"

This worked great for us....we had no issues with anyone bringing their kids or trying to bring their kids and we had a total of 225 people at our reception, all adults! (minus my 3 flower girls).

Thanks everyone! @Melissa. That sounds

Great and might just have to use that on my site. Space is very limited for us and that gets the point across without sounding rude. Thanks!!