No Invite, No Entrance?

View Quoted Comment My plan was very similar to yours. The RSVP date was tight, we communicated with people who did not RSVP close to the deadline and of they still didn't RSVP then their name was dropped off the list. If your name was not on the guest list you were not allowed in.

View Quoted Comment I completely understand. Myy husband and I tried to accommodate everyone who absolutely needed a plus one but ultimately we were paying so judgement calls had to be made.

View Quoted Comment I like that idea of a trade-off.

View Quoted Comment I completely understand and agree.

View Quoted Comment The worst part is I try to communicate and they never respond all my friends respond just our families (not immediate family) are horrible at it and these are the people who demanded an invite, I spent money on the invites and since they DEMANDED them I would expect a fast reply instead I'm still getting ignored. I'm a petty bride so if they reply a minute after 11:59pm August 1st, I don't mind telling them that if they want to come they can sit and watch from the parking lot. I'm already losing all my hair before the wedding I don't have time for people's inability to figure their stuff out.

Ours will be invite only, but I don’t foresee any family or friends bringing extra people. We are accommodating them well so I’m hoping minimum issues with RSVPs and uninvited guests. Guests will be responding on our wedding website so that should help cut out any extras.

View Quoted Comment I hope so and that's a good idea am going to RSVP thru the site. People will get mad but until it's there turn they will not understand. Unless you been saving since you was 18yrs old(😂) or have family that's willing to help then respect your wishes and there will be other parties they can come to.

View Quoted Comment My wedding planner said at least 10% of the guests who RSVPd won't show up and she was right, so keep that in mind too.

View Quoted Comment I found that allowing guests to Rsvp on my website was very helpful. Hopefully you don't have any issues with extra guests.

View Quoted Comment I completely agree that people won't understand until they've planned and paid for a wedding themselves. Until then, you have to do what is best for you.

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately my FH and I are running into that right now. We’ve had multiple people just comment when they rsvp on our site telling us they are bringing more people. One of my moms cousins tried to tell us she was bringing 4 kids with her! So you may want to be prepared to have the conversation with people anyways.

View Quoted Comment My now husband and I had to have a few tough conversations. I suggest you call them and explain the financial and spacial issue that determined why they can't bring additional guests. They will either understand and delete additional guests or not understand and delete their RSVP all together.

View Quoted Comment Well our wedding is super small. Maybe 45 guest and that if I dont cut anyone. So I know we wont have a problem. Plus my fh and I dont have a problem being mean to our family members and telling them they cant come in and McDonald's is over there lol.

I saw this earlier and it made me laugh. It probably won’t make me laugh if it happens, and I say this now but with our small guest list I can’t imagine anyone pulling this.

I'm doing the same. I have a very large family and financially unable to invite them all. Only married or engaged couples get a plus one. My reception is a plated dinner with table assignments and my DOC has my permission to turn away guests that didnt RSVP or were uninvited. IF seats are available after the RSVP'D guests are seated they can let them in.

Our venue doesn't charge extra per person. And we don't mind having extra guest. I hope we have extra so that all the food is eaten since we are going buffet style. Whatever is left we will take to a local shelter. Most of the extra guest seem to be kids so far. I also told people without significant others they can bring a friend.

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My husband and I wanted a guest list of 50 or less but that didn't work out.

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I love those table labels.

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I love the idea of making sure the guests who RSVP'd are seating first and if there is extra space then extra guests can attend.

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That sounds like an awesome venue.