No Invite, No Entrance?

My family is odd in a way that the more definietely means the merrier. So, I figured that I would budget for a few extra. I invited 170 - 200 people and I only really expect 130 people to show, but that means that other people in town, if they decide to stop in to say "Hi!" I can say "Come, sit, eat & be merry!" Then again I'm doing a kinda self-catered thing and I ordered more than enough, but I did it on purpose.

Its crazy to think people actually rock up uninvited or without RSVP`ing

We are being very strict on your guest list, our venue will only hold 130 we have 125 coming any more would be tight. We are asking for no children (except the ones in the bridal party and local family only and they are all small, I don't have enough room for all my friends invited children, I had to even cut my own out of state family bc of children and space).

My coordinator is working hard with us to keep out unexpected guests or unwanted ones. I have a few family members who told me, "well if my kid is in your wedding and I am too then you need to invite my friend so and so" IN FRONT OF THAT FRIEND. I nicely had to reply with "I'm sorry we are booked solid and its a small intimate family wedding only" my uncle will more than likely bring his "entourage" as we call them...we have made it clear to our coordinator that they are not welcome....and if he wants to bring them he can sit at the local bar next door with them and not attend. They have made comments they will be coming, I have been very strict as to who will be coming through those doors bc of this issue. So I am being a little more hard on this subject bc I know what could happen when those "crashers" show up. My uncle invites them to family functions and Christmas's and they sit and stare at us and have in the past mocked us or stared at us like we are monkeys in a cage, not gonna happen at my wedding or I will be one pissed off bride LOL

Our wedding will definitely be invite only! I don't understand how people think weddings are just like a regular party and that they can bring anyone.

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Let's hope for the later.

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I made my website on The Knot and it was a lifesaver. theknot.com/us/courtnee-and-richard.

For our guests who were not technology savy, they were able to RSVP with my wedding planner and she informed them of how many seats they have.

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I actually think its really disrespectful for people to show up to your wedding uninvited. The money aspect is just the icing on the cake to me.

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Wow! You budgeted for a lot of people. I invited 80 people to my wedding. If my family could have it their way 500 people would have been there.

View Quoted Comment 👏 I agree with you! It's mind-boggling.

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I love that you know exactly what you want and you are not budging! It's your special day and you desire to have whatever you want. 👰

View Quoted Comment 🤦 I completely agree! Weddings are fun and people dance but that does not mean it's a club that anybody can walk into.

I am doing invite only for the same reason - it can get pricy very fast! I am also not allowing any plus ones unless we need additional guests to meet our food and beverage minimum after the main guests have RSVP’d. I’m also not allowing any children.

I would probably let them in because I’m a pushover, but I’d be upset because of food, seating chart, etc. The seating chart is already tight.

I have a list if your name is not on the list you get booted home and some of these people are coming from way across country, they have till August 1st to RSVP, if they don't reply they're not my problem, so far only 3 rsvp have come back and everyone who demanded an invite is telling me that's not enough time for them to figure out if their coming, invites went out on May 1st.

I agreed, no invite, no entrance. It's too expensive to have plus one. My fiance n I are going thru that right now in narrowing our guest list.

View Quoted Comment Love this idea

We don’t want additional guest. We plan to have enough food for the people there as well as seating and considering the venue can only hold so many, we may have to politely decline people. If someone rsvp and don’t show and someone who didn’t comes instead, we’ll think of it as a trade off and no harm no foul. It’s nothing personal it’s just the venue can only hold so many people and I’d hate for the fire Marshall’s to come

No RSVP No Plate. I'm so serious about it. I already put my team on alert.

View Quoted Comment I think invite only is a great idea. I also did not have children at my wedding for a variety of reasons. I have a discussion about that of you want to check it out.

View Quoted Comment I would hate for you to be upset on your big day...