no groomsmen

Can he maybe use his dad, or someone in the family? I don't ever remember seeing NO men, but maybe like a cousin or just at least one person? It definitely doesn't have to be even, but I feel like having no one might be more uncomfortable?

His family doesn't like me and mentioned they aren't coming to the wedding, nothing but drama

I am with heather, I have never seen no men unless there was no party. We are only having a MOH and BM because neither of us have a lot of friends. Maybe he could use a brother or dad.

OH :-( Sorry to hear that, well whatever he feels comfortable with. Like people always say, your wedding, your rules. If he doesn't feel comfortable asking his friends, would he let you? Is there someone maybe you like the most? hehe, just thinking, of course it's not needed, but I don't think I would want my FH to have an empty side... but that is just me!

Could you maybe put 2 girls on your side and 2 on his?

I dont either thats the problem. he planned on asking his BIL to be BM but after fights on top of fights with his family hes not going to anymore. it was to the point that i was calling everything off but i wont let his family ruin it for me. we have plenty of time so im not too concerned but now would be a good time for him to start talking to his closest friends more lol

Yea, i have never seen that done. But groomsmen dont have to be men, if he is close to the girls too, have them on his side. My friend did that. Honestly if it were me, I would just have a very small bridal party if he doesnt want to have anyone. It would seem strange having 5 girls behind you and no one behind him.

If he can't think of anyone he wants to ask just split up your bmaids during the ceremony. Some can stand on your side and the others on his. Some people don't even have a wedding party at all so it's not the end of the world if he doesn't want to ask anyone.

Vanessa,

This is interesting. Does he not have any best friends that are females? I mean, you could have attendants instead of bride maids and groomsmen. Are your brides maid friend you met together, then I don't think it would be awkward to have a couple of them stand on his side.

Personally, as long as you don't have like 10 brides maids, I don't think it's a big deal if he doesn't have anyone on his side. Keep yours to about 2 or 3 and it would be fine.

My partner and I decided not to have any wedding party. Not necessarily because we don't have anyone really close, we just wanted to have it really simple look at the alter. Maybe your brides maids could seat on the front row? and only your maid of honor stand with you.

IDK, I certainly would not force your FH to have groomsmen.

I could split the BP as he is friends with my friends as well...I feel bad because I see that it bothers him that he isnt too close with his friends anymore...this is also his 2nd marriage and for his 1st he had about 6 guys in his BP so i can tell it is bothering him.

Like you said he should start talking to his friends more LOL. You don't have to pick anyone right away. My friend just got married in June and her brother's girlfriend was supposed to be a bridesmaid, until they broke up 2 WEEKS before the wedding! She just asked a girl she worked with to be in the wedding and she said yes, got the dress and everything pretty quickly. Obviously I wouldn't say force him to have someone, but he has time to think about it, who knows, maybe he will make a best friend like in the movie "I Love You, Man" hehe.

If you're really getting married in 2014, he has a lot of time to figure it out. It's possible that he would re-establish friendships or make new friends in that time.

If he has friends he's grown apart from -- I think now's as good a time as any to rekindle the friendships! He could just say something like, "I'm getting married in a year and a half and you've been such a big part of my life... I want you to be part of this too." But maybe less cheesy, I feel like boys don't say things like that.

You have a HUGE amount of time left. I wouldn't worry about it. You never know.. he may meet an awesome guy friend at work... so when it gets closer to the end of next year, then re-evaluate! Right now, don't stress it. If the situation is still the same and your friends are willing to stand up for your marriage, do what blair said. 2 on your side and 2 on his! Its fine! and i think that would look kinda cool

My Fh will have his mom as his best woman and his GM are my friends and family, just because he moved to VA after his divorce and isnt really close enough with anyone here to ask to be in wedding. I think it is a great idea to have your ladies stand on his side. Things don t have to be even and liek it was was traditionally.

Do you have any male relatives that myabe you can ask?

If you don't mind me asking why don't they like you?...do you have any male friends?

Does your FH like your bridesmaids' significant others? Can you cultivate some friendships there?

Vanessa R., we went through something similar with my FH. After high school and college, he really lost a lot of friends by them drifting apart. He decided to have his brother, cousin, and close friend since elementary school. I really like Alec M's idea, if your FH has close female friends, that could work. It really made my FH upset as well, I see how it is hard for guys to stay friends, since they do not text and other ways of connecting as much as girls do to keep in touch. You do have PLENTY of time though, like Sabrina K said. Guys do not have as much responsibility being groomsmen as women do being BM's, so I would say wait for it. He could meet someone new from now until then who he becomes close with

I wouldn't worry about this at this point. You have over a year and a half until your wedding date. You say that his family is not supportive. That can certainly change in a year and a half. He might also rekindle old friendships (which might motivate him to if he really is bothered about not having any guys to ask) or make new friendships.

I agree with Mrs. A - tell him that he should take the time to start reconnecting with any of his male friends that are important to him. Not just for the wedding, but because it's good to have friends. What about at his work, any guys there he gets along with enough to start hanging out with? Encourage him to go out and have a guys night once or twice a month. You still have plenty of time, so I wouldn't start worrying about it so much now. Also, as much drama with the family there is now, you never know, things could settle down and they could start warming up to you.