No children weddings- what is/was your "cut off age"??

Well, I understand how you feel about it being a no kid reception. However, in my state(AZ) at age 16 a kid can drive. She may be bringing her because she plans to have a couple of cocktails and wants to have a safe designated driver. Although she is very young, she is not at the age of tantrum throwing and running like a maniac through the dance floor. More than likely she will sit there bored to death texting on her phone all night and stay out of the way until it is time to drive home.

I think 16 would be acceptable, but it's completely up to you.

Our cut-off age is 18 (unless your flying out for the wedding and want to pay for your kids flights as well). I know of at least 1 person who will be bringing his 17 year old son as his +1. I honestly don't care because it's not as if we actually invited him.

Our cut off age is that of our youngest children 14. There will only be 5 people (out of 150) there under 21 so like Jennifer mentioned above, they will either be all together or texting somewhere quietly. But if it were not for them, our cut off would have definitely been 21+!

But I am sorry you are going through this. I am having a similar issue but the kids are under 14. The mom wrote me a terribly polite email asking me to allow her kids. But if I allowed hers, I would have to allow all my other cousins kids. That would take that 5 to about 20! No thanks!

We put it on our website that due to capacity, which is true, only specifically invited children are allowed. Those children are our nieces and nephews and my first cousins (FH has no children first cousins). Then we put on the RSVP "___ seats are reserved in your honor". Plus word of mouth---and so far no problems. I think people just understand we are paying for it ourselves...which I am glad they are understanding!

Just tell her that no children are allowed. If she doesn't come because her 16 year old can't, then that is her choice. Why do people want to bring their kids to weddings? They will probably complain the whole time, disturb the ceremony, and then the parents have to be "parents" during the reception. I'd be leaving my kids at home, I'd want some "adult" time. I just don't get it.

15 I have a few cousins in their teens that I really love and want to see there

We had to have a cut off of 12. FH's family is flying up from FL with their children. Their youngest is 12.

Our cut-off is 21. I really want everyone to have a good time. Our only exceptions will be our kids, who will be 6 and 2 (and will be leaving with a babysitter about halfway through the reception), and my younger brother's girlfriend who will be 20 at the time.

I had kids at mine, but my gf is not having kids at her wedding and her cut off was 21. This way there is no underage drinking and she is not responsible in case there is.

13, but she's very mature and her cousins will be there that are 16.

For us no kids meant little kids running around.

We arent allowing any kids at all. My sisters are 16 and 17 and they will be the youngest there and only because they are immediate family. My invites have how many seats are reserved in their honor and in most cases the names of the ppl those seats are saved for to avoid confusion. Mine also says ADULT ONLY RECEPTION, so hopefully I dont get any of this.

I think you should just be polite and let her know that you consider 16 a child. Sounds like a simple mis-communication. Most parents probably think their off spring are capable of acting appropriately at a wedding by the age of 16, so unless informed otherwise wouldn't assume that they would fall into the child category.

Actually we said no children also but we said no children under 16. I think 16 would be fine. We didn't want little children that would be bored, crying or running around disturbing the wedding. 16 is a teenager not really consider a "child" persay. You shouldn't make a huge deal about it. But if you are saying no children because you don't want kids/teens taking up plates and you rather reserve those spaces for adults....well that's different. Honestly...if she is the only one bringing a 16 year old, you may want to just leave it alone. I don't think it will matter especially since it is your FH cousin.

Our cut off age is 13, but that is because some of my first cousins are that old, and my FH has a few on his side that we may invite (their youngest is a handful), so we are talking maybe 6 under the age of 21, 3 from each side. I am going to have a table for them with cards and games so they can get to know each other.

Thank you for all the replies! I really didn't put a lot of thought into the "age range" but it's bound to happen-everythings bound to happen when planning a wedding lol.

Maria- I wasn't making a "huge deal" about it, I was simply asking what everyones opinion was on the whole age thing. And also the fact that she hasn't even RSVP'd and it's less than 3 weeks til the wedding. So you have to understand how it was all presented to me- "No RSVP, then to say btw I'm bringing my kid" ...

My personal cut off is 16, as long as the kid has a license and can drive home inebriated parents.

You can't drink, you can't come

Jenny!! Hahah I love the way you think! That's EXACTLY why I said "No children"--- I'm having OPEN BAR! Hellloooo?! Lol ...

I would say the average age is between 16-18.

Cut off Age: 21

We're having an open bar and don't need anyone being kicked out for underaged consumption ;o) Because the cut off is 21& we have an open bar fulling expecing people to get hammered we are providing transportation from the hotel to the venue & back.