No Alcohol?!

Yes I've been to several. It's ok to not have alcohol if you can't afford to do so.

But I would expect people to leave early, I know we did.

No. I've never been to one, and I'm verging on 1200+ weddings.

Even my couples who are in recovery or have recovering people in their family have at least a limited bar.

My reaction would be, "WTF??" but that's just me.

I'm not a big drinker but I do enjoy a glass of wine or two at a wedding. I would imagine it would quiet down earlier due to people going to find beer.....

Yes I was a BM in a wedding last summer where the couple is in recovery, the bride is my best friend so she told me I could sneak some alcohol in if I wanted to so we did. It was still kind of boring though because there wasn't any dancing either.

Sure you can do that. But expect there to be less of a "party" atmosphere, less people dancing, and more people leaving early.

I went to one last summer it was a girl from church so it was kind of expected. My cousin had a cash bar at hers and honestly, I preferred the no alcohol at all over the cash bar. So if you can't afford it I guess you can't afford it.

One of my cousins who is a really bad alcoholic just got married and there were at least 3 tables of AA, and they had alcohol at there wedding. One of my friends who got married has never drank due to her father's drinking, and she had alcohol at the wedding. I don't think it's up to you to decide who can and cannot be allowed to have a drink, but that's just me, but i've never been to one so i don't know how guests would act differently. You're pretty close to your wedding, why are you just now realizing it's not in the budget?

I went to one recently. It was nice but I know there was a lot of wishing around my table that there was alcohol. We left after the cut the cake. Quite a few people left around that time. I probably would have stayed longer if there had been alcohol.

I have never been to a wedding without alcohol. I Agree No alcohol is better than a cash bar, but maybe a limited bar?

We had a full open bar and we have at least 4 alcoholics at the weddign including my dad. They did not drink but enjoyed other beverages that were available.

I have been to one, and nobody knew going into it that it was a dry wedding. It was a bit of a shocker when we went to get a drink and they asked what type of soft drink we wanted (?!). That being said, we still enjoyed ourselves, but it would have been nice to have had a glass of wine or something.

Been to one and it sucked. Southern Baptist church reception hall so no music and no alcohol. We ate, sat around for like 15 minutes and said goodbye. What else was there to do?

I was invited to a BYOB wedding that had a money tree and a dollar dance. Had I known it was BYOB I would have brought some booze, but I was a "D" list guest (newest co-worker) and did not even get a proper invite, just "I am getting married next week, here is the address"

I did not get them a give, but thank god I had a couple 20's for the money tree to make up for it.

Money tree AND a dollar dance?!

@onawho wins tackiest wedding award. Money dance & money tree & byob & B list. Crap!! You're a saint for staying lol

Neither FH or I drink, and there are alchoholics on both sides. We're doing a full open bar. But, if you can't budget it, then you cant.

What's a money tree? I've been to a cousin's wedding that did not have alcohol. She is a different religion as me so I had no idea when attending the wedding. It would of been nice to have a glass of wine or two with dinner. Can you work out having a bottle of white and a bottle of red on each table or will your venue allow you to bring in our own wine and get the cheaper brands?

Was it in the budget when you started? It should have been.

While I get that alcohol is more or less considered a luxury... I don't know. It's a party for goodness sake, live it up a little. We have recovering (and not so recovered) alcoholics in both our families, so I set the following rules that FH got on board with after he saw the price tag: only beer, wine, and a champagne toast, and the bar closes at 8 (we leave around 9:30, it's a Sunday wedding). We'll still provide water and all of that until we close the venue. I think it's a good compromise. Not that people can't get as smashed off of beer as hard alcohol, but you aren't going to do shots of wine at the bar.

I agree with e=mc2, its not up to you to manage other peoples drinking. Never been to a dry wedding. Alcohol is a good chunk of my budget, in fact it was one if the first things brought up when we were booking our wedding. We reduced our guest list to 100 guests to have an open bar.

We aren't doing alcohol and every wedding/reception I've been to was alcohol free. Most of the people in our circle don't drink. I have more fun when there isn't any alcohol but that's just me. Everything turned out great and everyone was on the dance floor. No one really leaves early, either. I don't understand the need for alcohol...