No Alcohol Reception

Oh Good! Delaney's back!

@Leslie: Sure. Except alcohol is expected at weddings. I don't know what kind of "events" you're attending, but I have a hard time believing that nobody gets bored and leaves because it's dry.

Unless it's a kid's birthday party. Then I can understand it.

Celia, it's a joy.

I think I'm actually more annoyed about the implication that people that aren't teachers aren't busy

Airplanes deploy on a schedule in the Airforce. If you plane is scheduled to deploy, you go with it.

I totally think there are situations where no alcohol at a wedding is appropriate. I have a very close friend who is a recovering alcoholic, she's been sober for almost 2 years, and she will be having a dry wedding. We love her and support her so there will be no issues. I also know that she's informing all her guests that this is a dry wedding.

On another note, I don't think money is the best reason to have a dry wedding. I would try your best to make cuts elsewhere or host a cash bar, which, personally, I see no problem with. I've been to plenty and have no issue with them.

@blairwaldorf that was not the point I was making

Ok first yay MNA is back! And second...

@Lillian it doesn't matter if that was your point, you still said it. Many of us are very busy and we still find the time to use the search function

Gotcha.

@Blair: Why thank you!

Just putting this out there: you could absolutely move the wedding if you really wanted to. Although he's being deployed, he will eventually come back.

Personally I'm not having alcohol at my reception . It was due to the fact that the venue I completely loved does not allow alcohol only a champagne toast however we plan on having the reception end early and then are opting to rent a home near by for the party drinkers after the early reception ends we will have alcohol and finger foods for our guest to keep the party going.

I'm doing a dry wedding because I'm Mormon (and don't drink alcohol or tea) and all my guests are except for like 10. So we have decided to do a lemonade stand with a few different types, some pop and coffee and tea for the 10 or so that are not Mormon. EVERYONE knows it's a dry wedding and is ok with it. I would suggest to tell your guests that it will be a dry wedding or have a cash bar which ever you decide

@Lillian, I will be having a dry wedding whether people like it or not. My wedding is scheduled for a Thursday evening (the date is special for us) on FH family farm. We are having different types of homemade lemonade, sweet tea, and warm apple cider. My family and alcohol combined just creates more problems than it's worth.

I'm sorry that you have to hear all the hateful comments. Some people don't know when to keep their opinions to themselves.

I always suggest alcohol due to the fact that if you don't have it, there WILL be guests who sneak in flasks or pregame and that generally leads them to being more drunk that if they just had a few drinks at the wedding and had a bartender to cut them off.

Since you said that you are having a late afternoon wedding, my suggestion would be to serve wine and beer and to skip liquor. Also since you said your group aren't big drinkers, to have a consumption bar since this will cut down on your costs.

Your mom seems to be pushing for some type of alcohol because she knows that it is proper etiquette to provide it.

@Lela, I don't understand why you said people don't know when to keep their opinions to themselves when that is the point of people posting questions, so they can get others opinions and advice...

Oh God:

Just because you can do it, it doesn't make it right.

Cool, ladies. Don't say we didn't warn you.

Dessert reception in the early afternoon. Only way to cut the drinks.Even then....consider a toast.

For those declaring you're not having alcohol, I hope you have really, really good insurance or really, really deep pockets.

If guests bring flasks or have a "trunk bar," (and they will), and they get drunk, (which they will), then drive home, YOU will be responsible if they cause an accident. You will be responsible criminally and civilly, because it happened at YOUR event, whether you knew or not, and you didn't have a bartender.

Those claiming your guests know and are okay with it: your guests are lying to you. They're called white lies, and people use them to keep from hurting your feelings. These are the people who feel relieved because they now know to bring said flask or trunk bar.

There will be no party atmosphere. It will be pretty dead, and you should all fully expect your guests to leave as soon as they've had cake and it is polite to do so, because nobody wants to be at an adult party that is treated like a kid's birthday party.