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Jessica
Expert October 2019

Night Before The Wedding

Jessica, on April 22, 2019 at 12:20 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 140
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Ok, so this is actually to discuss a tradition but that wasn't a group choice so I figured Family and Relationships might be the closest.

We have our venue for the wedding weekend. They have little rooms to stay in there. The "honeymoon suite " is the last in the group and has two rooms, with a bed in one and couch in the other. I'm semitradtional so I had mentioned to FH that it would be perfect because we can each stay in a different room the night before the wedding. Now we've lived together for almost two years now. So the not sleeping together until marriage thing is out. But I do like the tradition of not sleeping together the night before. He was baffled by it. I still think he'll do it, though, lol..


But coming to the question of this post. How many of ya'll are honoring this tradition?

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  • Kelsey
    Dedicated August 2019
    Kelsey ·
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    We’re spending the night before together. Our venue is an Airbnb. He’s my little comfort zone so I want him right by me for as long as possible lol
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    We’ll be sleeping apart the night before.
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  • Jasmine
    Rockstar February 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    We're having a DW and I rather not stay alone somewhere neither of us have ever been. PLUS I highly doubt I would get any sleep knowing the next day is going to be huge and he's not there to calm me down lol. We'll be in an Airbnb so we're definitely staying the night before together.

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Us too! At our DW, we went to the house my family rented for a welcome dinner but after so much DIY planning, our 8-hour drive, venue walk-through, we couldn’t wait to relax in our own suite together (and we practiced our welcome wedding speech).

    Lol. We were actually given a two-bedroom bungalow. It didn’t even dawn on me to sleep separately until now! Naw, we were tired, stressed & exhausted. Neither of us would want to be apart that night.
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  • Rebecca
    Rockstar August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    FH is going to stay at his parents' place the night before. It's 4 blocks from the church, and we want to be semi-traditional and not see each other from midnight on. We do have a place together, and my parents will be staying just a few blocks away from our place, so I'm going to stay at home.

    We'll probably be together until the very last minute, though.

    Also, I give myself a 100% chance of needing him to call me to wake up... I'm TERRIBLE at mornings.

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  • Nafisah
    Super May 2019
    Nafisah ·
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    We've lived together for almost 3 years. We're sleeping apart just because our venue is an hour away from us and we dont trust the groomsman to be their on time the day of. So he's going to get a hotel sweet with the for the night.
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  • Samantha
    Devoted December 2019
    Samantha ·
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    My FH was baffled by this too! We will be staying at our venue’s hotel in separate rooms the night before.
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  • C
    VIP January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    I got a hotel for the night before for me, my mom, and my sister! My bridesmaid also stayed at the same hotel.
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  • T
    Dedicated May 2019
    Tori ·
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    We got our hotel room for 2 nights (the night before and the night of the wedding) so I'll be staying there alone the night before with my BMs down the hall while FH stays at our house with the groomsmen. He totally does not get the whole "you cant see the bride before the ceremony" concept. We've had multiple conversations about how that means no he won't see me that morning, or during pictures beforehand, or in the 5 minutes before the ceremony... After he himself said he didn't want to do a first look! Lol
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  • alicia
    Dedicated May 2019
    alicia ·
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    Right now we’re planning on staying together but getting ready separately. Both my mom and his parents have rented cabins with extra bedrooms so we could separate at the last minute if we wanted to. I feel like we might actually get some sleep if we are together as it will feel more like a normal night rather than *omg tomorrow is the big day this is so weird why is my bed so empty*
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  • Mrs. S
    Master November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    We live together and we’re staying at a bed and breakfast, but we’ll stay apart the night before
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  • Nona
    Expert November 2019
    Nona ·
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    We are having a DW so we are going to be staying with each other the night before but then come in the morning he will go to another hotel where his family is staying at to get ready with them and my BM will be coming to my room to get HMU and get ready with me.
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  • Alyssa
    Super September 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    We are spending the night before separate. By the time our wedding gets here we will have lived together for almost 2 and a half years, own a house together, etc. However, decided to honor that tradition and sleep separate the night before. He will be staying at our house with his groomsmen (since we have 4 rooms and a pull out couch) and I will be staying at the hotel we will be getting ready in with my bridesmaids.

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  • Kat
    Expert September 2019
    Kat ·
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    DW but we're still staying separately. The "destination" is his home town, but we live in ks and he's from fl. He's staying at his parents and I'm staying at the Air BnB we got for my family (5 bedroom house by the beach). We live together and have for 3 years now, but we were both in the military and spent a lot of time apart in our relationship. I can survive one night without him and I think it'll give us time to decompress with our families before the big day. To each their own though!
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  • Hannah
    Rockstar July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    We have lived together for 4 years. I was originally thinking we would sleep separately but he was so confused by the thought. Plus, I sleep terribly when he's not with me, so I'd rather have him with me anyway.
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  • Rachel
    Super May 2019
    Rachel ·
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    We're not. This is my second marriage. I did this the first time around and that marriage failed miserably, so I'm doing everything a little different this time around.

    Also, I'm going to be a ball of nerves. I know the only way I'll get any sleep is if I'm with my FH. Plus, we're long distance (have been for 3.5 years and will be for another 1.5 years), so I want to spend as much time with him as I can.

    Plus, we are all staying at the wedding inn the day before & the day of the wedding (the whole wedding party & parents). And we're having a morning of brunch there, so we'll be seeing each other the morning of the wedding anyway. Spending the night apart just seems silly at that point.

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey Online ·
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    We will be staying apart. We have a bridal suite for the night before and the night after. I will stay at the suite with my BMs and FH will stay at our apartment with his GMs. I will probably want him with me because he knows how to calm me down, but I really want to do this tradition too lol!

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  • Summerbride77
    VIP July 2019
    Summerbride77 ·
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    I'm stating with my mom the night before. He’s still working out his plans but will likely be at the same hotel
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  • Nemo
    VIP August 2018
    Nemo ·
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    We spent the night before the wedding together. It felt silly to us to spend it apart since we would have each been sleeping alone.

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  • Kristen
    VIP April 2020
    Kristen ·
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    We will be apart because I am staying at my parents' house with my bridesmaids the night before and FH's groomsmen will be at our house. We didn't opt for this because of the tradition, but more for logistics (all the BM live closer to my parents, all the GM live closer to my house and we want to carpool as much as possible for the day of).

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