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Expert October 2019

Night Before The Wedding

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Jessica, on April 22, 2019 at 12:20 AM

Ok, so this is actually to discuss a tradition but that wasn't a group choice so I figured Family and Relationships might be the closest.

We have our venue for the wedding weekend. They have little rooms to stay in there. The "honeymoon suite " is the last in the group and has two rooms, with a bed in one and couch in the other. I'm semitradtional so I had mentioned to FH that it would be perfect because we can each stay in a different room the night before the wedding. Now we've lived together for almost two years now. So the not sleeping together until marriage thing is out. But I do like the tradition of not sleeping together the night before. He was baffled by it. I still think he'll do it, though, lol..

But coming to the question of this post. How many of ya'll are honoring this tradition?

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Evelyn · on April 27, 2019 at 8:49 PM
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Thank you so much Andrea! That's so sweet and I hope all the same for you!
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Just Said Yes April 2020
Hailey · on April 27, 2019 at 9:19 PM
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Live together already and will be staying at a BnB with the whole immediate family. Will be spending the night before apart with my sister staying with me in the "bridal suite" and fiance staying with my brother-in-law or his brother.
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Jennifer · on April 27, 2019 at 11:06 PM
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I plan on being with FH the night before our wedding. I cannot sleep unless I am next to/in his arms.
Maybe no sex, but I intend to sleep next to him.
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Savvy June 2019
Natalie · on April 28, 2019 at 6:23 AM
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We are sleeping separate the night before the wedding.
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Just Said Yes August 2019
Christine · on April 28, 2019 at 6:27 AM
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I told him that I am kicking him out of our house the night before and that he can stay up the street at his friends. He wasn’t too happy about it originally but he loves me so he will be okay.
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Sadie · on April 28, 2019 at 11:57 AM
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I couldn't imagine NOT sleeping next to him. Ever.
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Jessica · on April 28, 2019 at 6:58 PM
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I haven't really discussed it with FH yet, but my plan is to get two hotel suites - one for me and the girls and one for FH and the boys. We have lived together for about 5 years now, but since our WP is traveling about 2.5 hours (FH's BM and GM are coming from farther) and I wanted everyone to be there the day before for some prewedding activities and help setting stuff up I felt like it made more sense for us to pay for rooms for them to stay. I think at this point it's really just a matter of personal preference, but I like the idea of seeing each other for the first time the day of the wedding at the first look (or end of the aisle) rather than waking up next to them like it's just any other day.
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Rachael · on April 28, 2019 at 9:11 PM
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I guess we are technically following that tradition, however, we aren't doing it because its a tradition so much as I want the anticipation of seeing each other to make our day feel that much more special. Him and his groomsmen will probably be staying at our house, while me and my bridesmaids will either stay at my mom's or in a hotel the night before.
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Summer · on April 29, 2019 at 1:02 AM
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We are going to stay apart the night before. He is going to stay in a hotel across from the venue with one of his groomsman and I am going to stay at home.
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Mary · on April 29, 2019 at 10:58 AM
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My FH was shocked by this tradition as well! He asked why we would be sleeping separately, and I had no answer for him! The more I think about it, the more silly it sounds to me and I'm definitely leaning towards sleeping together as we have for the last 2 years.
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Just Said Yes August 2019
Stephanie · on April 29, 2019 at 11:10 AM
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We have a hotel room for both nights at our DW; however, my Mom asked if I could stay with my family the night before to have some extra time with them. My fiance and I have lived together forever, so it's more of a traditional thing. I don't really care either way, and she's pretty traditional so I'm fine with sleeping separately. I will definitely need a phone call the morning of from my fiance, though.
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Just Said Yes August 2019
Nicole · on April 29, 2019 at 11:30 AM
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I’m spending the night before in the same hotel as we’ll stay in on our wedding night, but in a different room with two queens, one for me and one for my MOH. FH is staying at home (in the house we own together, so also not like we’re normally traditional) with his two Best Women. We have such a weird blend of traditional/non-traditional, but we’re skipping the first look, so I want to completely amp the anticipation of seeing him as we walk down the aisle at our ceremony!
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Just Said Yes June 2019
Adeline · on April 29, 2019 at 11:42 AM
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My whole bridal party is going to be staying with me the night before. We are going to spend the day before getting nails done and timing last minute errands.
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Victoria · on April 29, 2019 at 11:48 AM
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So, my FH and I have been living together for almost 2 years now and I’ve brought this up, and we will spending 2 days apart before the big day, our venue has 2 houses, one for the bride, one for the groom, the day of we will both arrive on the property but at different times. He likes the idea of it because it’ll work his nerves up and make him even more excited to see me. Because he is as dull as they come 😝
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FutureOlson107 · on April 29, 2019 at 12:05 PM
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We're honoring it. Majority of my bridesmaids are actually going to stay at our house the night before to have a sleepover and my fiance is spending the night at a friends with most of his groomsman. We have an afternoon ceremony so he's going to golf with all of his guys in the morning while us girls get our hair and makeup done before the ceremony.
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Sierra · on April 29, 2019 at 12:08 PM
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FH and I have also lived together for the past 3 years so not sleeping together is also out for us lol. However, we will be sleeping separately the night before. He will be sleeping at home with our puppies and I will be with my bridal party in the bridal suite provided by the venue
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April · on April 29, 2019 at 12:40 PM
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We'll be in the same hotel, but separate rooms. We will be spending our last night as unmarried people with our BM/GM, as we are the first in our group of friends to be married.
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Megan · on April 29, 2019 at 12:41 PM
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My FH and I will be sleeping apart the night before the wedding (he will sleep at his house and I at mine). We won’t be seeing each other until I walk down the aisle 💕
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FutureMrsG · on April 29, 2019 at 12:56 PM
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This is a good question! For us we wont be together the night before but we live together too so we'll be together prior too. I've been thinking about not staying there the week of just to add some desire to seeing me again! lol I think the not sleeping together the night before just adds to the suspense and excitement.
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Nikita · on April 29, 2019 at 12:59 PM
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We did not sleep apart the night before. It just wasn't important to me. I also didn't care if he saw me dolled up before the ceremony (and not just for a first look). We only did that for family members.
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