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Expert October 2019

Night Before The Wedding

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Jessica, on April 22, 2019 at 12:20 AM

Ok, so this is actually to discuss a tradition but that wasn't a group choice so I figured Family and Relationships might be the closest.

We have our venue for the wedding weekend. They have little rooms to stay in there. The "honeymoon suite " is the last in the group and has two rooms, with a bed in one and couch in the other. I'm semitradtional so I had mentioned to FH that it would be perfect because we can each stay in a different room the night before the wedding. Now we've lived together for almost two years now. So the not sleeping together until marriage thing is out. But I do like the tradition of not sleeping together the night before. He was baffled by it. I still think he'll do it, though, lol..

But coming to the question of this post. How many of ya'll are honoring this tradition?

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Pirate & 60s Bride · on April 22, 2019 at 9:07 PM
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Right?! I didn't need to add more stress/excitement by NOT sleeping with my hubby that night. Enjoy your DW!!!
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Jasmine · on April 22, 2019 at 9:35 PM
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Thank you!! It's ssssooooo far out but I'm super excited as if it was tomorrow!!
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Shannon · on April 22, 2019 at 10:52 PM
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We're sticking with this tradition and each of us is actually staying at our parents house the night before the wedding. Our families happen to live about 20 minutes apart and my parents are about 5 minutes from the church, so it also makes life easy.
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Nicole · on April 22, 2019 at 11:03 PM
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We're still undecided. He and I are actually reversed. He thinks it could be nice to be separate that night. I would like to be with him the night before because I know our wedding day will be crazy and I'm gonna need those few minutes of pillow talk to get me psyched up.
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Jessica · on April 23, 2019 at 7:55 AM
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We've lived together for about 6 and a half years, so I think we will spend the night before together
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Evelyn · on April 23, 2019 at 10:26 AM
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Yes we are staying separate the night before! Even though we've lived together for 4 years lol. But I think it makes the moment he sees you come down the aisle that much for emotional.
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BecomingBecker · on April 23, 2019 at 10:39 AM
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FH and I will have also lived together for a little over 2 years when we get married next year and this is what we're doing, we'll be at the same hotel but he's staying with his groomsman and my bridesmaids and I are staying together
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Catlyn · on April 23, 2019 at 11:08 AM
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My soon to be husband is staying at our home while im staying in our Hotel the night before. He was completely ok with it but threw a bit of a fit with the fact that im taking the hotel and he cant have it for that night lol. Once i told him his friends have more room at our home he fit ended and was like yeah thats ok.
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Future Mrs. McCully · on April 23, 2019 at 11:31 AM
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I thought about honoring this tradition but my fiance was also baffled.
We also have our venue for the weekend and they provide two 'cottages' and I was like perfect, the night before the wedding we will have a house for the men and a house for the women...but I am not sure what we are doing yet.
It would be nice to honor the tradition so the first time we see each other all day would be when I am walking down the aisle....
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Sherry · on April 23, 2019 at 11:35 AM
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We are not. We will be together the night before and the morning of. We won't separate until we go to get dressed.
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ALYSSA · on April 23, 2019 at 12:19 PM
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We will definitely be spending the night before separately, though I have not officially worked out the logistics.
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Mrscolón · on April 23, 2019 at 1:46 PM
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We are not very traditional, but we will be spending the night apart following our rehearsal dinner!
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maryann · on April 23, 2019 at 1:54 PM
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I def agree even though me and FH has been living together for awhile... I still wanna honor that don't see each other the night before until you walk down the isle.
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Alycia · on April 23, 2019 at 5:10 PM
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On our wedding day, we will have been together 5 years to-the-day we met. However, we won't be living together until about 9 months before the wedding. Still, I want to be sleeping separately the night before the ceremony. I'll stay home and he will sleep at a local hotel. Our home will be the bride room (all the women are getting ready there) and his hotel will be the groom room. I know we'll miss sleeping next to each other the night before, which will make the honeymoon night more special.
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Lisa · on April 24, 2019 at 4:14 AM
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I am still on the fence about this. This is both of ours second marriage and we have been living together for 4 years. We have 5 kids (blended) who are all in our wedding party. It makes sense to stay in our own home with our kids. But I also like the idea of tradition too. I guess I won't decide til it gets closer.
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Jess · on April 24, 2019 at 11:49 AM
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We are definitely honoring this tradition! My FH will be staying at our house the night before the wedding (we have 2 dogs so someone needs to stay with them) and I will be at my aunts house with all my bridesmaids. We have never thought anything else. Right from the start of our engagement (July 2017) we both knew that we were going to be separate the night before the wedding.
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Gabriella · on April 27, 2019 at 7:20 PM
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We are spending the night together the night before. I just want to wake up next to him and have breakfast together. Do something relaxing and chill before the chaos of the day starts. We’ll go our separate ways once we start getting ready of course. My family is so against this because of tradition, but it is OUR wedding.
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Karen · on April 27, 2019 at 7:34 PM
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We already live together and will be spending the night together before the wedding ceremony. We already consider ourselves to be husband and wife, since we did an official Pagan handfasting (like a marriage ceremony) but next year we're doing the official thing.
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Shanna · on April 27, 2019 at 8:36 PM
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We live 362 miles away from each other so when we come into town to each other's house we sleep together. I am moving to his hometown where we are getting married several months ahead of time. We will be cutting it off LOL one to two months before the wedding. So the answer to the question is we will be sleeping separately before the wedding. I'd like to keep some tradition in this.
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Andrea · on April 27, 2019 at 8:37 PM
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That's exactly how we feel and are doing the same thing for the same reason! Sending you wishes for an exquisitely beautiful and perfect wedding!!!!!!!!
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