Negative stigma around wedding date

I say that's it's yalls day and if that day is special to you then you should go for it! And if you were really worried about it, you could always take time for a moment of silence before the ceremony begins in honor of everyone who lost their lives that day. Just a thought

Why not use the date you two met? That date would seem more relevant to the two of you instead of just the show. 2020 is also a longgggg way away. We pushed our date back a year due to wanting to save to budget properly, and I felt that an extra year was a lot, but Sept. 2020 is over 3 years away. I would also feel slightly weird just having a Sept 11 anniversary. I feel like most people would automatically associate it with 9/11 attacks rather than an anniversary. I feel awful for people who already had 9/11 anniversary and birthdays. Especially if you live in NY I would definitely stray away from this date if it were me. Do you have any other relevant dates you can choose from or that have sentimental value? If you are looking out that far I'm sure that you can find any venue at this point, but remember if you move up the date/year you do not have an actual date until you put a deposit down on a venue.

If you choose to use the Sept 11th date then I strongly recommend sharing the significance of the date with your wedding guests whether that be Save the Dates, displayed at the wedding, or both. You don't need to make an excuse, just share the story as though it was any other day.

I also would encourage using "September 11th" on any stationary or printed material instead of "9/11".

Hard pass.

9/11 is still too recent. If you have friends and family in NYC, DC etc., this will come off especially badly.

You don't have a date until you have a venue. Personally, I wouldn't want my anniversary on 9/11. It's still pretty recent and could rub others the wrong way.

Every year you'll be celebrating your anniversary while the images are being shown on TV because of the anniversary of that horrible event. I wouldn't do it, for the same reason I wouldn't have a wedding on Remembrance Day.

Yeah I wouldn't.

Unfortunately we can't stop living our life after this attack. This isn't the first and won't be the last.

I say go for it. But just don't forget that your day will always be remembered as it is. Also if you have friends or family in a military or uniformed job-thet will most likely attend services this day. Will be late or not attend a wedding. I know myself we have 4 services through out the day in my town alone.

My FHs parents' anniversary is September 11th, and it's sad because they were obviously married before the tragic event.

But. They still pay respect to the victims and to the day itself. Every year.

I would personally pass. I'd also make it the day we met if you want the date to be special. But if really want that date, you should still recognize the day. 2020 is also so so far away...you'll probably end up changing it once you start looking at venues.

I would not want to get married on September 11th. It's the nation's darkest day in recent history.

Personally I would not do this. I don't know where you are located, but I'm from Jersey so many of my friends go to graveyards and hold memorials on that day....definitely not my wedding. I also agree with previous posters that the sorrow that surrounds that day with all of the media coverage and public memorials may put a dark cloud over your anniversary date.

Pass girl.

It's your wedding and you should have it when you want. I let multiple people dictate what date I chose and it's frustrating that I wasn't able to make the decision on my own. However, you asked for advice, so take it or leave it. My fiancés birthday is 9/11. It is weird... the country is in mourning on that day. Like someone said there are sad things on tv, etc. it almost feels wrong to want to celebrate and be happy when it's a day of remembering something so sad. That's just my personal experience, but in the end make the right decision for you and you fh.

I think it depends on your crowd. Do you have family/friends that remember the day or do something special? I obviously believe the day was tragic & feel bad for those who lost loved ones but I honestly don't do anything special on that day.

September 11th will always be a hard day for America. That being said, if you feel like that's what you should do, go for it. But don't be surprised if people make remarks about the choice & maybe not even show up. It's totally your decision on this, just be careful. I would also say before telling anyone, to check with your venue to make sure that day is available. Best wishes!

I think if you are having to ask this question you should pass.

I'd pass on it also but if you're strong willed and set on it, keep it and explain it to your guests but remember what day means to a lot of people. Not many people choose to celebrate that day :'( so be ready

I have mixed feelings about it. Do I think you're gonna get a lot of questions? Yes.

Would I jump at the chance to celebrate something happy instead of talking to my former co-workers that worked in DoD about what happened that day? Yes.

Most of us have a solid stance about NOT letting acts of terror affect our actions because that is the ultimate goal...to make us afraid. I think every celebration proves we're stronger than that. The day has good connotations and significance to you. It would be a bright spot in what has become a dismal day.

It will be ok.

I personally wouldn't just because it hits very close to home for my family and FH family being from New York. But, I guess If you are stuck on it-have a moment of silence or something before the ceremony begins? Are there any other dates you can pick?