Kelly
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Necessary or Not: Wedding Cake?

Kelly, on February 19, 2019 at 11:05 AM

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Is it a wedding without a wedding cake? The cake cutting and cake face smash are classic wedding traditions, but many couples have been switching it up recently with different delicious desserts! What do you think? Is wedding cake a necessity or not? Photo from Sweetcakes by Bernadette Martin in CA...

Is it a wedding without a wedding cake? The cake cutting and cake face smash are classic wedding traditions, but many couples have been switching it up recently with different delicious desserts!

What do you think? Is wedding cake a necessity or not?


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Photo from Sweetcakes by Bernadette Martin in CA


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131 Comments

  • Abby
    VIP March 2019
    Abby ·
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    It's a necessity for us but definitely no cake smashing!
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  • Maureen
    Dedicated March 2020
    Maureen ·
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    We're having cake, but our venue does it differently. We won't have any cake smashing (it's gross anyway), but they have designed several made of foam cakes, and serve everyone smaller portions, that way no cake gets wasted, and no need to stress over any cake-falling or damages. It's unique and is saving us so much money.

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  • Mrs.
    Super May 2019
    Mrs. ·
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    A wedding cake isn't a necessity but I think some form of dessert for your guests are!

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  • SummerBrideInAutumn
    VIP October 2019
    SummerBrideInAutumn ·
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    Cake is one of my favorite foods, so it's a total necessity to us. We will even have a bigger cake than we actually need to serve our number of guests, but have you no worry, it will for sure get eaten!

    It's a hard NO for me on the cake smashing. I've already warned FH that our marriage license will not get filed if he smashes cake in my face. Feeding each other cake is meant to symbolize the first of many tasks you will complete together throughout your marriage...and is meant to be your first act of service to your new spouse. To make such a mockery of it is disgusting. Sorry, I'll get off my soap box now! Just something I feel strongly about.

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  • Lc
    Super September 2018
    Lc ·
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    Necessity!! We had a single tier cake for our elopement and ate it for 3 days and also shared it with our sweet, sweet, staff at the hotel we stayed at. No regrets, it was delicious! Plus I love the photos we took of our cake cutting 😍 (no cake smash though)
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  • Alyssa
    Super July 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    I think some sort of dessert is necessary but I don't think it has to be cake.
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  • Clara
    Dedicated August 2019
    Clara ·
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    Not a necessity for us and my FH hates cake. I've been to weddings where they did cake cutting and ones where they did not and I don't think they were missing out on anything. If you really want to cut a cake together then yes do it! For us that's not important so we are doing a dessert bar. My FH and I just prefer other desserts.

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    Not necessary. We had 3 different dessert options but no big wedding cake or cake cutting. Some of our family members kept telling us we had to have a traditional cake and when I asked why they said because we needed a cake cutting picture. That wasn’t a good enough reason for me to spend an extra couple thousand dollars.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    As a guest: YES! I rarely go to weddings and would love cake.

    As a couple: SURE! Our venue included dessert shots so we did a one-tier cake for cutting ceremony and for guests:

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  • Johanna
    Dedicated December 2018
    Johanna ·
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    Not necessary. I personally like the tradition of sharing a single dessert and what it represents, so we had one. It wasn’t anything particularly fancy, but it tasted good.
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  • Alisha
    Dedicated November 2020
    Alisha ·
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    This is necessary for us. I am excited to design and eat the cake Smiley smile

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  • Kelly
    Legend October 2022
    Kelly ·
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    Aww it sounds like it'll be awesome and so yummy!

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  • Kelly
    Legend October 2022
    Kelly ·
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    Totally agree! It's definitely becoming more common to have additional dessert options for guests!

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  • Kelly
    Legend October 2022
    Kelly ·
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    Wait that's so strange! I feel like if you are paying for the cake why do they care where it goes after the fact? I hope you get your cake!!!

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  • M
    Dedicated June 2019
    Mia ·
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    I LOVE cake so it's a necessity for me!

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  • FutureStephD
    Super March 2019
    FutureStephD ·
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    Dessert after dinner? NECESSARY

    Cake? NOT

    We're having cake supplied by/ included with the venue. We are not doing a cake cutting, though.

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  • Kristen
    VIP June 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Necessity-ish! We are having a small cake and a lot of donuts, but we still wanted that moment of cutting the cake

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  • Sarah
    Expert September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    For me a necessity! My wedding cake is is what I'm most excited for second to marry my guy.😊
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  • Victoria
    Dedicated January 2021
    Victoria ·
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    Oh for sure a necessity! Unless you hate cake, then no lol

    I plan on having a small cake for cutting and then a sheet cake in the back for serving.

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  • Kaitlyn
    Dedicated September 2019
    Kaitlyn ·
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    Definitely a necessity for me! We're doing a small one for us to cut, and then cupcakes for the guests.

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