Kelly
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Necessary or Not: Wedding Cake?

Kelly, on February 19, 2019 at 11:05 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 130
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Is it a wedding without a wedding cake? The cake cutting and cake face smash are classic wedding traditions, but many couples have been switching it up recently with different delicious desserts!

What do you think? Is wedding cake a necessity or not?


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  • Swtnss238
    VIP May 2019
    Swtnss238 ·
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    Necessity!! Cake cutting but no cake smashing.
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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    For my wedding, it is a necessity, lol. However, I think the way everyone is customizing weddings to their own individual styles nowadays that it isn't necessarily a necessity for everyone. People are constantly changing up tradition and doing their own thing!

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  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Cake was a necessity to us, but we're going with a small cutting cake and cupcakes for our guests. I've been to way too many weddings where they served beautiful 3+ tier cakes that mostly went to waste.

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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
    JustKidding ·
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    Necessity in my opinion. It can be on the smaller side and have other desserts, but I LOVE cake. I am thinking about cake when I am at your wedding. Not how cute you are. Cake.

    No cake smashing. That's nasty.

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  • Mrs. H
    Rockstar September 2019
    Mrs. H ·
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    I don't think a wedding cake is a necessity, per say; however, I do believe whatever the bride and groom are having for dessert for themselves should be extended/offered to the guests as well (whether that be cookies, cupcakes, etc.)

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  • Katelyn
    Savvy November 2019
    Katelyn ·
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    It's not necessary, I'm getting married this November and we're not having a wedding cake. In my opinion most of the time wedding cakes are super experience, dry and just don't taste very good. We decided to skip on a cake that might be half way eaten and do a nice little dessert table instead. It's really helped with saving money and we won't be left with a ton of cake no one wanted after the reception is over.
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  • M
    Super November 2019
    Melissa ·
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    I dont think cake is necessary at a wedding. Just an expectation.
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  • Danielle K
    VIP June 2019
    Danielle K ·
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    This was an absolute must for us. My grandmother was a very very talented cake baker/decorator and personally I am not so bad my self lol. Not only was it important to have one (I haven never been to a wedding without one and mine would not be the first!) but it was very important for it to look and taste perfect!

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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
    Tara ·
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    Unnecessary for my microwedding. Plus, I’m not a fan of giving sweets to people. My mom was a dental tech and she rarely allowed me to eat sweets. I’m thankful for her now because I love my healthy teeth.
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  • Kelly
    Legend October 2022
    Kelly ·
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    Lol!!! I'm the same way, I have the biggest sweet tooth so bring me the cake!!!

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  • Kelly
    Legend October 2022
    Kelly ·
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    Yes it makes me so sad! The last wedding I went to, they had a gorgeous 4 tier cake and I watched them pack up most of it!

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    We are having a small cake for the cake cutting, but having cupcakes with different flavors so there is a variety for everyone to enjoy...and for me to enjoy lol. Major sweet tooth.

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  • Brittany
    Super October 2019
    Brittany ·
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    Definitely necessary for us. We are so excited about the cake!

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  • Victorian Bride
    VIP December 2019
    Victorian Bride ·
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    Agreed!! 😊
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  • Chloe
    Devoted October 2020
    Chloe ·
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    We’re having a donut tower “cake” for our wedding. FH and I are not big on traditional wedding cake and don’t see it as a necessity!
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  • Monica
    Dedicated August 2020
    Monica ·
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    Dessert is necessary, but cake is not. We are having cake but I think it's totally fine for others to do donuts, cupcakes, whatever.
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  • L
    Dedicated September 2019
    lovE2019 ·
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    I wasn't going to have one. Our caterer includes a sweets table and cakes are too expensive. But in a conversation with my maid of honor, she was complaining about how her cousin's wedding didn't have a wedding cake, and I let her know our plans. She's decided to make a small cake for us to do a traditional cutting with, and I'm guessing she plans on having a slice of the cake. I've also had to request that she or her boyfriend cut the cake to serve, because the venue charges for that.

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  • Martika
    Expert September 2019
    Martika ·
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    This is a necessity for us. We will most likely do the cake smash too.

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  • Victorian Bride
    VIP December 2019
    Victorian Bride ·
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    I just have to chime in. I'm having the opposite problem. I'm going round and round with our baker. We want a teeny 3 tier wedding cake ( if she had smaller tiers I'd get them). Tier sizes 6-8-10. Very elaborate. Serves 60. We are having a private ceremony. The baker doesn't want to make this cake for us!! She said its too big and what are we going to do with it? I told her, " Eat it!" Our venue is an historic mansion turned Inn and we have use of their refrigerator. And we are mini-mooning wth them. We thought we'd send some home with family, give some to the Inn's employees, and munch on the rest over 4 days. Shheeeeh....let us have OUR Cake! 😂
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  • Alicia
    VIP August 2019
    Alicia ·
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    It's a necessity for me, but we are doing just a small cake to cut, and then cupcakes for the guests.

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