My **NEW** husband is not invited to my sister's wedding - 2 months after ours!!

Hell no. I wouldn't go. And i would let her know exactly why. It almost seems like she doesn't want you to go either, with all the trouble shes making.

And both his and her (your) parents are ok with this?

Here is another perspective to consider. If you give in and concede to all of your sister's demands, you are going to set a precedent among your family that you are willing to compromise your desires and those of your new husband in order to "keep peace with the family". A family that, in their opinion (or at least that of your sister, whom it appears everyone else in your family takes the orders from and bends over backwards to please), your new husband is not a part of. If you do it this once, they will ask it of you again. And again. And again. This is a very common family dynamic, and I've seen it happen. It's a terrible position to be in, and I don't envy you your decision.

However, you need to ask yourself: Is this really the way you want to start out your marriage? How does/will your future husband deal with having a wife that puts her unreasonably demanding sibling ahead of him? Only you can answer those questions.

Sounds as though she wants to elope w/o anyone.

Regretfully declines.

If he's not invited, you should decline.

Hell nah. I wouldnt be there. First off, I wouldnt travel that far without my husband. And if he comes along, I would not have him spending the damn entire day in a different city by himself. Your sister needs to get a grip. Like someone earlier said, she would be an imitation princess by her damn self. That's insane. No deal. I hope you don't go.

I most certainly would NOT spend my vacation time and money to attend a wedding of my SISTER that excluded her BROTHER IN LAW. Helllll no.

ALSO, the very second I heard "Its all about me, take it or leave it" I would have left it. Seems like she is getting married simply for the attention. I would NOT be a part of that.

As we speak my family is giving me shit about not attending and how I'll ruin this 'family'. I did choose my FH when I heard about all this, but with all the drama, he agreed that it wasn't worth it and we should just deal with it. The demands keep getting more and more and I'm at the end of my rope

By the time of your sister's wedding, you and your husband will have created a new family. He will be closer and more important to you than she is. Stick with him; don't attend. And hope each of you can find a way to have a long-term relationship with your sister after this insult.

You not attending with not ruin the 'family'. I think her being selfish and "all about her" did it all on it's own. Do not attend. Your FH is family period.

If my sister did this when she got married I would of not attended. She might of been a bridezilla but at least she invited everyone.

I'm pretty appalled that your family is giving YOU grief! They are completely encouraging her behaviour, it's really no surprise she has such outrageous demands if they support this madness!

I'm sorry you have to deal with this, but do NOT feel like you're in the wrong here! Stand up for yourself and your husband, and hopefully the rest of the family will wake up and realize how insane this is!

This is not ok and I would be mad! But she is your sister and I think you should still go to keep the peace.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this, I hope you stick to your guns and decline. Remember it's your HUSBAND who you will be growing old with.. not your selfish sister.

I would go to Florida, give her a gift, attend all of the functions surrounding the wedding WITH my husband, and not attend the wedding if he isn't invited.

I'm so sorry your sister and parents are putting you in this position and expecting you to just suck it up, while also threatening you with "tearing apart the family" if you don't meet their rude demands. It's pretty awful that they're doing this.

I honestly think you still should not go. As someone else said, it will become a continuing pattern of your sister making outrageous demands and your family expecting you to comply to "keep the peace". Your sister has a problem with you and it's almost like she is punishing you by not allowing your husband at her wedding. It's just wrong. You should separate yourself from her.

If my husband wasn't invited, I wouldn't go

Is there anyway you can talk to your mom about this? Explain to her and hopefully she'll see your side. I would want my husband to be able to come. She is being so unfair! Sorry you have to deal with this.

This is the perfect opportunity to send a message: we are a unit. If he's not welcome, then we're not welcome. You're expected to attend an event -- the highlight of which is marriage -- without your spouse? It makes no sense.

I completely understand the pressure you're facing if you don't capitulate. The refrains of "you'll tear our family apart" make an impact, and they put the burden on you. The truth is that you are a member of new family -- the one that includes your husband. Set the precedent now, or accept the fact that you will look back in ten years with regret (and some measure of shame).