My **NEW** husband is not invited to my sister's wedding - 2 months after ours!!

Now I find out that in order to receive a wedding invitation I MUST be available to her on the day of the wedding from 8am-10pm! Although that's a looong time, I would be happy to do that, if my poor husband didn't have to spend the day all alone while our family celebrated the wedding. I've decided that if I'm invited I have to go because she's family, but I need to know. Am I crazy for being upset about all this!?

That's crazy - will he be your actual husband during her wedding??

Ok now I see that her wedding is 2 months after this. I'd be pissed.

That doesn't seem fair at all. You're right, something doesn't add up here.

He is family... I wouldn't go.

And we've been living together for the last 13 months. It's hard for me to support this when it seems she doesn't respect FH and me.

I'd tell my own sister to eff off if she was being this stupid.

To travel that far, not have your new hubby be able to attend, and to not be able to leave early to join him -- I'd decline her "oh so gracious" invitation!

Way to make her new B-in-law feel like chopped liver!

I guess you should count your blessings that you made the cut, since her FH's siblings didn't. Seriously, WTF? This is messed up. I would be tempted to decline on the basis that the whole thing is rude and bizarre.

She is being unbelievably rude. It is wrong to split up couples, and your husband is part of your family. I would decline the invitation. If she doesn't respect your marriage enough invite your husband to a family event, why should you support her marriage by attending her wedding and being 'available' to her the entire day?

Is she normally such a spoiled brat?

They say they want their 'dream wedding' at Disney, but I'm not understanding how that's possible when you don't invite family. I'm at a crossroads of standing my ground and saying no, or tearing my family apart because I don't go.

Don't go.

Something is definitely up here...I would put my foot down and not go at all if my husband isn't invited especially if she has the space. Technically her fiance's siblings is considered immediate family...so maybe she doesn't know what that entails

@Emily - yeah, this isn't out of the norm for her. Totally nuts :s

Not to mention, she's attendig our wedding 2 months before (I'm guessing for the free food based on all of this)

I can tell you that I was left out of a wedding last fall that my FH needed to attend. It was his step-son who he raised and who still calls him Dad. We weren't engaged at the time. I understood because of the situation and I didn't get upset. He on the other hand is STILL upset about that. He didn't want to go and I told him to go that he needed to be able to see the son he raised be married. Ok I told you all of this so that you can see the dynamic of that decision. It had NO bearing on us at all as a couple. It did however make him look at the son he raised in a little different light. He also left right after the ceremony because he didn't feel right being at a wedding without me.

Good luck with your decision. It's not an easy one I know.

Don't go. avoid the disaster.

I would so not go. She sounds like a bridezilla. I don't have any sisters but I have a brother and I know that he would never not invite my hubby along with me to his hypothetical wedding (hope that made sense lol).

I wouldn't go.

It doesn't make any sense that FH's siblings aren't invited, but her's are? And you should NEVER invite half a married couple. I tell her either he is invited or you aren't coming, and tell her to get over herself. That's the price you pay when you have a DW, not everyone important to you will be able to be there.

Edit** I also have a drama filled trouble causing sister. It's better not to give in to their nonsense.

This is just a really weird dynamic. Why are his siblings chopped liver but she gets to invite hers? Why didnt they just run away and elope if they are going to be this exclusive? I wouldn't go, or I would tell her that I couldnt be available for her time frame and let her un-invite me and be the bad guy.