My **NEW** husband is not invited to my sister's wedding - 2 months after ours!!

Wow. I would be so mad. Fortunately my sisters wouldn't do that to me.

I did have a cousin invite me without my FH to his wedding, but I was in college and couldn't travel 6 states away, so I didn't make an issue out of it, but your own sister?!

I feel for you, and you have every right to be upset by this.

I wouldn't go. After I get married, my loyalty will be with my husband, not my sister if my sister does get married one day and pull this crap on me.

@DisneyNut - It's a bad situation, but glad to know that I'm not the only who has had to deal with this.

I'm not sure why his sibilings aren't invited (I think they might be half-silbings, but have grown up with him since he was 2). There are 5 of them, so I think they're just trying to save money. She told me it's all about her, so I can take it or leave it. She think's I'M crazy for calling her a bridezilla!!

What the what? That's bizarre!

If it's all about HER then she can have fun riding around in a Cinderella carriage pretending to be a princess by HERSELF! What a ridiculous comment. This is the type of self-centered, bridezilla attitude the wedding industry has produced.

Seriously - don't go! She needs to be taught that her behavior comes with consequences.

I'm curious to know how your parents feel about this. They are paying and if it's not about cost, why don't THEY stand up for your fiancé? Is there any bad blood between your sister and your fiancé?

I'd tell her that I am only coming if my Husband can come too.

I'm voting for showing solidarity with your husband, not your dingbat sister. Refuse to go unless he's invited (politely, of course). Just say, "I'm so sorry, but if "Bob" isn't invited, I just can't come. We're a unit, you know." You'll be forever glad you made it clear to your sister and all other spectators (especially your husband).

"She told me it's all about her, so I can take it or leave it"

Run, don't walk - away from this selfishness. She's told you what's important, and it's obviously not family.

I would not go - that being said, my FH has also been "not invited" to things where I have been invited by my family.

My mother does NOT LIKE FH AT ALL. She thinks he is weird because he is not outgoing and not a conversationalist. Because of this, for ANY holiday where there is a sit-down dinner at my mother's house, only me and my brother are invited. I threw a fit last Thanksgiving about it because she said if I brought him along, she would not eat at the same table and yet my brother showed up with one of his buddies and that was okay. Some people just do not know how to deal with someone they do not like. I suspect your sister does not like your FH and does not want him around - I cannot help but think there is something else going on other than cost or a venue limitation given that some siblings are being invited and some are not...it just does not make a lot of sense.

@Emily - The ONLY reason I'm even considering still going is because of my parents and my brother. My mom just breaks down if I tell her I'm not going and I'm scared that if I don't then this won't just be some arguement, but something that tears the family apart.

My parents are convinced that I should see it from her perspective and all the 'troubles' she has to deal with - fiances family isn't a walk in the park, but we all have our own issues to deal with. Doesn't mean you are rude to people!

I've never gotten along with her well, but she's so competative that she thinks everything I do is to top her - which couldn't be farther from the truth. I moved to another country to get away from this drama!!!

My sister has a problem with me, not my FH...but he's bearing being disinvited (yup, he was originally invited), which makes me feel awful

No....no.....and no. I would only go if my hubby was invited. If your parents and brother complain, let them know that all you needed to attend was the ability to bring your HUSBAND. If they still don't see your point, I wouldn't worry about how they feel cuz obviously they're missing the common sense flower in their garden

This just seems all kinds of wrong - and very demanding....

So to answer your questions - yes, you can be upset.

Your husband will be her brother in law, that should qualify as a sibling!

If I were in this situation I wouldn't attend. It's not like it's a local wedding, she's expecting you to either travel without your DH, or leave him by himself for an entire day in an unknown place. She needs to get over herself. I say you and your hubby go on a vacay that week (not in FL)!

Not inviting SOs is one of the rudest things a person can do. I would tell your sister that if your husband isn't welcome, then you won't be coming.

There's no way in hell I'd attend this shit show. Thankfully my parents would also (hopefully) never approve or pay for something this crazy (and my sister IS pretty crazy, so I'm sure a situation like this isn't too off-base). I'd give an ultimatum... you go with your husband or not at all.

I would be so upset! And like you, it doesn't add up or make sense to me. I looked into having my wedding at Disney World and can say that whether she has 10 or 18, it will cost the same amount of money. I can understand the time range to a certain degree because if you have a "theme park" ceremony it has to be outside of operating hours BUT your sister doesn't need to have the whole day. I wonder if she is hoping to get people to say they don't want to come so she can have the smallest ceremony (which only allows 4 people).

I wouldn't go and I would tell her if she doesn't support the importance of your relationship you're not going to spend all this time and money supporting hers.

Something is seriously wrong with the whole picture.....he is your hubby and not invited????what???

and her fiance's siblings arent even invited??? what the hell!!!!

bizarre....i dont even know what to suggest as im appalled! :s

That's just all kinds of weird.