My mother has a new boyfriend

It also sounds to me like he was just trying to connect and be excited with/for you. I'm sure your mom has shared info about your wedding planning with him. I'd say hold out judgement but agree on the social unit thing others have said. I was invited to my cousin's wedding but FH was not earlier this year and it was just sort of awkward. As important as your mom is to you, not allowing him to come may cause more drama and stress on you and her than it's worth as you get closer to the date

Your decision seems to be coming from a place of selfishness and you should be ashamed of yourself. Regardless of who you mother is dating, it's beyond disrespectful to the woman who gave birth to you and raised you that you would deny her the ability to have someone with her at her daughter's wedding.

My father died a three years ago. My mom only now started seeing someone. It's very new. So new that she approached me and said she's debating whether she would like to bring him to my wedding or not. My wedding is 120 pp. Do you think I started freaking out over someone so new because I didn't want to "waste" that money on a stranger?? No. I ENCOURAGED my mom to make a decision that was best for her and made her happy. I told her, as long as she was ready for family to know of this new person, then she should bring him. I would never deny my mom the chance to be happy just because of my own personal feelings on the matter.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

O Lord, Pepeto! Give me strength!

Pepeto is having a WW coronary in the WW pokey

OP just wants the day to be all about her and her mom's attention to only be on her.

What did you want to hear? How dare you mother go out and have a relationship with someone? How dare she make sure it was getting serious before bringing it up to you. How dare she make plans to bring her SO to her daughters wedding.

The world does not revolve and you. I'm sorry. For a second there reading your post I thought I was talking to my children. They also got me to themselves for almost 15 years. Then I met my DH. The week before we got married one of them came to me and said "mom don't marry him. You've changed too much". So I sat him down and we talked about what was bothering him. It was the fact that we were going on a HM and not taking them. He said before I always took them on holidays. It's not fair that I include DH on everything.

My response was this "you are leaving me to go to school or work in a year. I have met someone I love, and who loves me so much. I have someone who would give me the moon if I asked. But you want me to walk away so that I can sit and wait for you guys to have time in your lives to come back and visit me? That I need to celebrate your lives all alone for the rest of my days so that I don't change too much? I have given up so much for my children but my happiness wasn't going to be given up because they are jealous of a holiday. I may be a mother but I am still a person"

I will never understand the point of posting something for no reason and when people post to make a reason, aka trying to help you from committing a hurtful faux pas against your mother, they lash out.

Also, with three stars, I feel that there's been enough posting and lurking to know what sort of response these "x-parent has a new partner" threads get.

You sound really possessive of your mom since 'it's always just been the two of you' so I think you just need to step back. It's fine that you have all kinds of feelings about this - it's new, it's weird, etc - but they need to stay private feelings. Share them with your FH, cry about it at home if you need to. But you need to be supportive of your mom. You've not said anything about your dynamic other than that you and your mother were alone in this world together - you sound like you're jealous she has someone and worried you won't be her #1. Which is fine to have those feelings - but you need to navigate them on your own and she needs to have your support.

You're being kind of childish. If he is still around next year when invites go out he definitely gets one. I couldn't imagine telling my mom that she could not bring a date let alone her boyfriend. Be happy that she's happy and suck it up.

OP, your wedding is a long time away. You're not giving him (or your mom) a chance. I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you are still just surprised by everything. Which is understandable. But seriously, take a breath and forget about the wedding. Focus on your relationship with your mom.

Please tell me these very accurate responses have changed your outlook on this, OP.

Your mom has been alone for 15 years...she watched her daughter (YOU) date and get engaged to the man of HER dreams...you can't be happy for her starting to date again??

This thread is 4 years old, but I do have to say that out of respect , every guest that is in a relatationship should be invited with their spouse.