My mother has a new boyfriend

Your mom is an adult in an adult relationship. You need to invite her significant other. She is a VIP at your wedding so she pretty much should have gotten a plus 1 regardless.

I can understand where your coming from and how it would be hard to be thrown into such a sticky situation then he assume he will be at your wedding.

Have you talked to your mom about him? I think I would start there then decide how to go about inviting him.

He might be a cool guy! or he might suck, either way you should talk to your mom about it all

You have to invite him. They are adults in a relationship.

This seems kind of immature, sorry OP. Your wedding is well over a year away, who knows if they will even be together by then, and if they are-then obviously your mother cares deeply for him and it would be selfish and inconsiderate of you not to take into account your mother's feelings and invite them as a social unit.

Your wedding is over a year away. Give the poor guy a chance, you have plenty of time to get to know him. You mother is 100% allowed to bring her boyfriend.

I am sure that it is hard. It seems like he may have come off on the wrong foot and did not make the best impression. Sorry about that.

By the time you send out invitations they will have either broken up or they will have been dating for over a year. For the former there will be nothing to worry about. For the latter he needs to be invited. She is an adult in a relationship. He is not a plus one. He is invited by name.

I'm not understanding why you are so opposed to inviting this man to your wedding. And @Boudreau is correct. It's rude to any of your guests that are in relationships to not invite both members of the couple; it's even more rude to do this to your MOTHER. She's an adult, in an adult relationship, and whether you like/approve of this person or not, you need to respect that.

Wow, how is your mom going to feel when you tell her that she can't bring her boyfriend to her daughter's wedding? Sorry mom, your dude isn't worth the $100. That's not very nice!

Geez. I know how horrible this can be. My dad is dating a girl who bullied me in HS and took my cousin to prom. There's alcohol at weddings for a reason (jk jk!). It's good etiquette, sorry.

How would you like it if your mom approached your relationship with FH the same way. I am sure it was hard for her when you started dating your FH. All of a sudden she had to get used to this stranger with her daughter. Be as gracious to your mom's boyfriend as she was to your FH. You have over a year to see what happens. Play nice and move on.

I gotta jump on the bandwagon here, especially since if they're still dating at the time of your wedding they'll be even closer.

Try to get to know the guy at least. You may end up liking him.

I'm sorry but I agree with FutureMrsE. Don't you want your mom to be happy just as you are? You will be creating an unnecessary rift between the two of you if they're still together once your wedding day arrives. You're about to embark on a new chapter in your life, allow your mom to do so as well and support her. My mom is dating and she gets a plus one regardless of if she'll be single or in a relationship when our day rolls around. As long as he respects her, I could care less who it is.

You need to invite him. He has not done anything wrong to you. I can understand that it is tough to have your mother dating someone new, but you can't close her off from having him at the wedding. That would be incredibly selfish. Let her have her BF there, and hopefully, knowing that your mother is happy will be enough to extinguish the scorn of you having to pay an extra $100.

Granted, you guys of course are going to be following this "etiquette" and "he should be invited" mentality and of course don't know my family dynamic. If I choose not to invite him its MY decision and wasn't really asking for advice if to invite him or not. I just don't like the fact that this person I don't know and have never met thinks he automatically has a seat at my destination wedding.

You have like over a year. Aren't you a quick to jump the gun?

What if they are still together when your wedding comes around? I am sure you will be able to meet him before the wedding.

This is your mother.

If you didn't want advice, then don't post about it online where people are free to respond.

I mean if you don't want him there, then don't invite him but this may impact your relationship with your mother and whether she attends or not.

Just stop it. What are you even thinking? This is just mean spirited and petty behaviour on your part. Your wedding is over a year away; it's far too early to decide you don't like this guy for merely expressing enthusiasm for your wedding. Jesus.... if you are old enough to get married and your mother is old enough to be your mom, you should be happy that she found someone she likes. You did, right?

Your mother gets a guest, even if she meets him at the gas station on the way, Whether you're paying 2 bucks or 200 PP.

ETD; it's not just etiquette. It's about being happy for your mom and doing the right thing.

God, I hope she's not paying.

@Keisha when my mom first met my FH, she immediately asked him when he was going to marry me. At this point we were only dating for a year or so. She has been advocating for me to get married to FH foreverrrr

He's dating your mother so of course he would assume he's invited!

Also, OP you are sounding extremely childish. I can hear your foot stomping tantrum from here.

It's more of a common courtesy to your mother firstly before "etiquette". She'll have been in a relationship with him for nearly two years come time for your wedding and you're going to tell her she has to travel to a different state/country without her significant other, because you can't accept the fact she's an adult who wants to love another man?

First and foremost, even if she wasn't in a relationship, she is your mother and that entitles her to an automatic plus one. Parents (if single) and bridal party should always get a plus one, along with people who are in relationships.

I am with everyone else on this. Rude and disrespectful!