My mother has a new boyfriend

I try to be kind and empathetic but I can't. It's been mostly my mom and I for years. I wish I had your "problem." I would love for my mom to find a loving relationship. My mom is private so perhaps she doesn't want a relationship but I have daughter vibes that she would enjoy it. I just don't understand how you visualize your mother. Did you expect her to never meet someone? Get over yourself.

@OP No one is chastising you for your "decision." If you made the decision already to not invite him what's the point of posting this? I am paying for multiple people I have never met before because they are dating a family member or friend. That's how hosting works...

Dramatic exits only work if actually exit. You don't want any advice so I am not sure what you want from people. I guess you are just gonna 'do you and have a blessed day'

Grow up and be happy for your mom

You're throwing a temper tantrum over a wedding that's over a year away. If they are still together by the time invitations go out, INVITE HIM. FFS, let your mom be happy.

I would also like to add that if my mom found somebody that she was happy with I would be ECSTATIC for her. She has also been single for many years.

Are you jealous because she found someone? Because that's what it seems like smh grow up and be happy for your mother ..

That jealousy doesn't look good on you.

OP, I understand where you're coming from. My mom dated someone throughout my high school years and at first I did not accept him. I threw tantrums and was really shitty, but again I was about 13 and that's sometimes what teenagers do. They broke up, and when I was 19 she met someone else. She's been with her husband for 9 years now, and I'm happy she has someone who loves her tremendously, especially since she lives states away.

You, however, are a grown woman getting married, not a kid or teenager. Your mom has been nothing but supportive of you and FH's relationship. You are acting like a child. And yes, you are getting chastised because your attitude and behavior warrants it. You need to read the responses and really think about the damage you will do to your relationship with your mother. This is a situation where you need tough love, brutal honesty, and perhaps a moment or two of reflection. Quit being a baby and be happy for your mother. Your wedding is more than a year away. You will probably meet this man more than once. Get over yourself.

I didn't read the comments so forgive me if there's an update.

But seriously, your mom is a grown adult and your wedding is over a year from now. They may/may not even be together. Do you really want your mom to not have some sort of companion at your wedding? FFS.

You're exhibiting bratty behavior, OP. Hope your choice to not invite him doesn't come back to bite you on the ass.

^actually I kind of hope it does, she deserves to have it bite her in the ass.

Totally understand where you're coming from, but you have to invite him. He makes your mom happy and he's showing interest in what's important to her; you! You have time to get to know him, and like others have said, he may not even be the guy in her life in a year and a half. Regardless, mom gets a plus one. I hated my mom's now husband when they started dating and always said I'd never invite him to my wedding. After getting to know him, I realized he's a great guy who loves my mom ridiculous amounts. My horrible comments about not inviting him were basically me not being able to handle my mom dating again. You've gotta get over it and do the right thing.

Your behavior and attitude are gross. The man reached out to you to show his excitement and you turn your nose up at him because you don't know him? There were people at my COM that I hadn't met until the moment I walked in the door but I didn't give a fuck because they were there to celebrate H and I. They embraced me and treated me like I was family that they'd known for years.

You're not even giving the guy a chance. If you're clinging to your mother that much to where you're throwing a hissy fit about her dating someone, you need to grow the fuck up. Be sure to update us when you tell your mom that the man that makes her happy isn't invited to your wedding because you're being bratty. I'm sure that conversation will go well.

Haha watch how our comments end up saving her relationship with her mother because instead of not inviting him, she gets to know him and changes her mind because you know, you her mother is happy.

It's been you and your mom for 15 years.

Yet it took a year for her to meet your fh?

Now that you're getting married is she moving in with you two?

Or are you gonna lock her in a convent?

I hope if you ever have a daughter or son, they are more kind and considerate than you.

Sheesh, che palle.

If I was him I would assume being your moms boyfriend that I was invited.

And for your mom to finally find someone after 15years must mean she really cares for him and decided to take a chance on him. You need to be more open minded about him. And not for nothing to just be you and your mother for 15 years must have been incredibly lonely for her. The love of a child is not the same as the love of a partner.

From your mom's boyfriend's perspective, maybe he just didn't know what to talk about with you, since he doesn't really know you, besides the fact you're getting married. I know when I meet people who I don't know yet, they see my ring and ask if I'm getting married/about the wedding. It was probably just a conversation starter. He also probably didn't mean anything when he mentioned being at the wedding. It's a common thing for SO's to be invited to weddings, and since he's dating your mom, he just assumed he would be invited too. Don't be so harsh on him. Give him a chance. Maybe go out for dinner with him and your mom to get to know him a little better. Maybe you'll feel differently about him once you get to know him.

Maybe your mom has been gushing to him about the wedding and they are both excited for you.

Why did you post if you didn't want feedback about your decision???

Do you understand that this is a public forum and the point is to help people see the errors in their ways? I didn't read all of the comments but I truly don't understand why you are worrying about this now. What's the point of getting all worked up over something that may not even be an issue when it actually is important, like in a year when you have to send out invites.

You may spend time with him and LOVE him. Or they may break up.

Grow up.