My Maid of Honor Stop talking to me after my wedding!

That's horrible. I'm not sure there is anything you can do. If she won't talk to you, she won't talk to you. I am so sorry Maria!

Oh yes this exact thing happened to me but I cut her out before the wedding we are no longer friends anymore I think its a strike of jealousy to be honest

I have a friend that does that exact thing every couple years. She will quit talking for months or years. I think it is jealousy for sure, not sure what there is to be jealous of but it was when I moved or something. I keep calling and leaving messages. She will call someday or wont. It is on her.

Yup, very familiar story, My MOH appointed herself, but didn't want to do anything but show up at the wedding. My BM's are doing everything on their own because they know my background and want everything perfect for me. But then my MOH gets mad because they don't include her with the shower preparations, because she keeps telling them that she is "not girly". Ooops, got off on my own rant for a minute. Yes, I know what you are going through. It is too bad people act like that. I agree MJ. My attitude is "they will either get over it or they won't". It's on her.

Wow that is horrible! I was MOH in my friends wedding and she just kind of stopped talking to me, I got engaged and she kept asking who I was asking to be my MOH. I asked my cousin, just because I saw what she was like for her own wedding not really wanting to do anything and also we really hadn't talked. She is in my wedding but I haven't spoken to her since I asked her. They say you find out how strong your friendship is after a wedding.

I would say cut your ties. Clearly your friendship meant nothing to her. You deserve better!

Clearly she had a big ol' lesbian crush on you and now that your married it has shattered all of her hopes and dreams

I am sorry to hear that. I would just cut my ties. If she couldnt be happy for you during the most important and exciting time of your life, then how can she be happy with you on a day to day basis?

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My wedding planner told me that weddings tend to bring out the worst in people, especially friends. She said there is always a "big breakup" before the wedding (not the bride and groom of course). If you've been friends for that long, perhaps just give her time, and let her come to you. You've reached out to her, let her reach back. Until then, enjoy your new husband.

Wow that is crazy! Forget her! Obviously she has her own issues!!

One of my best friends from college has been acting super weird since I got engaged. She's a BM and she was supposed to design my invitations because she's a great graphic designer and she offered.

Anyway, I had a long talk with her and told her I'd rather keep our friendship in tact and she support me as a guest as opposed to us ruining our friendship and she be in the wedding. She said she wanted to be in the wedding still and she's done all the right things, it's just her attitude. Some people just can't handle other peoples' happiness and even though it hurts us, you can't take on others' issues!

Kristen a.- Best response ever.

I would like to thank everyone for all the advice I got from all of you! I have been feeling pretty bad these past three months and thought I may of done something wrong!

I was a super chill bride I did all my planning, let me bridesmaids do whatever they wanted with their hair/make-up/ shoes had to be gold one bought champagne shoes! I was like whatever!

To everyone getting married soon or in the future good luck! People change many will get upset but at the end of the day its your day! By the end of the night you will be the luckiest Girl because you married the man/women of your dreams! That's all that matters!

Good Luck with everything!

I’ve been in similar situations. One of my childhood friends that I thought would be very enthusiastic about our engagement hasn’t congratulated us or talked to me since we announced we were engaged.

I personally think its jealousy. People get weird about stuff. If they see you are in love, doing well, or successful they may get a hint of jealousy where they can’t even stand to be around you because they feel less of. I know a lot of people like that.

I’m sorry that she did that to you throughout your wedding planning and even on your wedding day. She turned your special day into something about her. What a selfish person.

Just know you’re the better person. I wouldn’t be surprised if the next time you hear from her she’s engaged and so happy. Then she will want to be your friend. And I would blow her off.

Sorry girlie!

My 2 (only 2) bridesmaids told me to not make any plans for a certain weekend, cause they were throwing me a small bachelorette party. That weekend came, and nothing happened. I mean no one showed up, no one answered the phone, nothing! I was so embarrassed that I sat there all weekend expecting something.

Then, those same bridesmaids didn't show up to my bridal shower (or stupid tea party thing, as they called it) because it wasn't in their neighborhood. It was 45 minutes away.

I told them to buy whatever black dress they wanted for the wedding, and they still complained. They love the color black, and nothing was expensive (I'm talking like $50 or less dresses) And then after that, they told me I shouldn't get married because they weren't set in their lives. Talk about selfish.

I ditched them days before my wedding. Best decision ever made!

Same thing happened to me, but before the wedding. My MOH backed out because of financial reasons and her sister steped up. Not more than a month later were both of them not talking to me because they said I all I thought about was my wedding. They decided this after I attended and brought a gift to a 1st bday party for one of their kids....weddings really do bring out the best and worst in people. I was really lucky bc I had 2 AMAZING bridesmaids that stepped up and made my day everything I dreamed of. Now, a few months after, I am starting to process the hurt from the first 2 MOH but I am happy to know that all the care about is themselves and they were clearly jealous of the opportunities that I have.

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. my sister showed jealousy after we announced our engagement. there was a non-wedding related disagreement in our family that i believe was blown out of proportion because she's jealous of us. she's just starting to come around now...it's been months. if she wasn't my sister, i'd have told her to take a hike.

I thought I was the only one feeling like this.... I also wished there was a like button to comment on everyone's comment.... Sorry that your friend showed her ugly side before your day I think one less monkey don't stop a show may your day be blessed

Weddings do bring out the ugly in people you never expect! My MOH left my wedding early to go to another wedding and then posted pictures on FB. She didn't bother to inform me in advance. She instead pulled me aside in the middle of the reception and asked me of it would bother me if she left to go to another wedding. Really!! I wish she would've informed me in advance of her plans, I would've have asked to step down and avoided the unpleasant moment for me. I have not heard from her since, not even a text. Not even a card for our wedding or for my tea party which was outstanding because I bought all the games, party favors, tea sets, invitations (you get the picture) . I expected things to go wrong and didn't allow any of it to ruin my day.

My only sister insisted on being my maid of honor in person and on social media, so I complied. After a few conversations about dresses, letting her know that she didn’t have to worry about a bachelorette party or bridal shower for me and approximately a couple months before the wedding she randomly texts me and complains that going to my wedding is a burden and that she would have to forgo her vacation that, for the first time in her adult life was finally able to afford (She is 30 years old). I felt bad and said that obviously it would be healthier for her to take vacation and that she should just do that. She never replied and I haven’t had a conversation with her since. It’s been like 4 months and nobody from my entire family has contacted me to congratulate me on my wedding. My mom died when I was 8 years old and my dad has never been around, so my sister was my only family left. Oh and to top it all off: My grandma started a rumor that she offered to have a wedding reception party for us at her retirement home. She says I just ignored her and never got back to her on planning that. I have no family because I decided to get married basically. It’s pathetic. Getting married or any other huge event in your life really helps you figure out who actually is there for you. The sad thing is that my cousin got married a couple years ago and literally the whole family got together and celebrated, helped and supported them through the whole thing. I guess since I don’t have parents nobody cares. My grandma wouldn’t even acknowledge that I got engaged from day one and when I told her where and when it was she said “I might be able to make it.” During the same conversation she also said she feels like my mom.