My Friend Wants To Get Engaged....At My Wedding

My man of honor told me if i let my friend do it in the morning before the wedding that his gf will be running around showing off the ring and it'll distract from the wedding which i guess is a point but im not too upset about that, and after im worried he wont get to do it on the date since our party is running late

I would be on the no side too on this. If FH had proposed to me at a wedding I'd have felt suuuuper awkward and would not have been happy with the situation.

ETA: If she is tactful she won't run around showing off her ring at your wedding. Is this something you really think she'd do?

Surfer he wanted to ask her in front of everyone since our whole show will be there and he wants the show to see the proposal

Lol maltese if i ever had triplets i think id die

Nikki his gf loves the spotlight (and it drives me nuts) so she wouldnt feel awkward

Ohhh...... idk i dont like the whole public proposal thing anyway so i would say no since i would feel like i was intruding on a private moment

Well if feeling bad trumps all of your hard work and money no longer being about you, then let him do it. Hell, bring him on the floor during your first dance. If it's going to be all about them, might as well make it ALL about them. Buy them an engagement cake, make sure she catches the bouquet, and make sure she wears white too, to tie it all together!

Id love to say his gf wouldnt run around showing off her ring if they got engaged the morning of my wedding, but she's an attention hog, she looooves trying to upstage everyone all the time, its annoying

Yeah, maybe not before because of the whole attention thing, but even if you're party is going later...like is it really that big of a deal that it's 12:30 and not exactly the same date...it's close enough! Or maybe have it at the very end of the evening when your wedding has pretty much finished?

Hmmm well there goes my theory that she would understand it's your day and not make it about her haha.

Km my guests are actually allowed to wear white since im not, ive always shared my big days with my crew, its rare i ever have had a special day be all about me so im not completely upset about having to share this one as well, i just dont know how to add it in without it being a complete stage stealer

I never said you had to tell him the truth! ;-)

Maybe a way to include you/your new husband in a quasi private proposal would be a good compromise? Maybe he could deliver the bridal flowers, and propose then, or you could pull you friend away for a quiet word during the reception, and her (soon to be) fiancé would be waiting somewhere private? That way the focus of the party, and everyone else, would be on YOU and YOUR day, but he can include you, and has the date he wants? I agree, the grand gesture in front of everyone, at YOUR wedding, would be full of nope for me, but it sounds like you might want to find a way to not totally say no....

I would also speak to him about keeping the exciting news to themselves for the evening, if you do facilitate this.

If you're not comfortable with him doing it then tell him no. As for me, I wouldn't care if someone proposed at my wedding. But that's just me.

I like chantels idea, it could be like the last thing close to the end of the wedding. I would feel bad for her to take over the show especially after all the planning you have done. if she had a quieter personality i wouldn't worry too much, or if he didn't want to do it infront of everyone.

Lol maltese true

allison in private might be cool near the end of the night, maybe dedicate a dance to them since he's my close friend and have him do it then since the night will be ending soon anyways

You sound a little bitter about never having a day to yourself. I got salty after having to share my birthday with two other people every year I was in college, I can't imagine having to share my wedding.

It sounds like you are leaning towards letting him do it at your wedding, so maybe you could look at your timeline and see what is happening at 11:59pm and let him do it as sort of a countdown to midnight thing where he does it right before the day changes. Then it's at the "end" of the night or at least not before the majority of your wedding and only gives her a few hours of showing off her ring.

What about at a specific time - like 11pm? That way you've had most of the day and she won't flaunt for long. And then you can take the mic and say you have a special announcement to make and he can then do it. That way you're controlling when and how it happens - since it is at your wedding.

Ruth im with you, i think its sweet i just dont want it to be the big deal of the day. i hate telling my friend no, id feel awful