My Friend Wants To Get Engaged....At My Wedding

Although I think the idea of getting hit in the head with a lantern is funny, last song/second to last song sounds like a great idea, keeps the focus of the day and most of the evening on you and your FH, and then at the end of the night its a bit like passing the torch to the next couple (haha get it, lantern, torch!!).

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Let's hope that works haha!! Keep us updated!

Lol ekab can i still throw a lantern at her?

fmp will do!

I know i would be tempted.....

Absolutely not! A friend just proposed to his girlfriend on Monday and he is the best man for his friend's wedding on Friday. I thought even THAT was a little rude!

Ekab i have wanted to hit this chick in the face with things ranging from a fly swatter to a log, she has that type of personality that can make someone violent haha

I would say no. I understand the reason behind it but I still think it's weird. My cousin got married on my dating anniversary and if my FH proposed at her wedding, I would've been upset- for 2 reasons- 1.i would be taking away from a moment that clearly belongs to someone else and 2. I wouldn't have that moment to myself. My proposal was so heartfelt and meaningful and doing it while celebrating someone else's love just doesn't sound appealing to me. So although I understand it's their dating anniversary, she really may not want that! And I think it's something that you really need to make sure about because I feel like the majority of girls don't want that! So instead of saying flat out no, i understand your sensitivity about it and maybe just have a discussion with him about how it's really not a good idea and I would recommend doing it outside of the 6 hours of your wedding. I wouldn't care if someone was flaunting a new ring at my wedding (especially since you said she only knows about 15 people) but I wouldn't want someone getting down on one knee during my time.

Nj its tricky because i know this girl looooves attention and loves to put on a show, and i know my friend wants all of us to be there when he proposed so its tough....i wanted him to wait til late oct when we were back on tour so we could work the proposal into one of the shows but he ditched that idea

My FH wanted to propose on our dating anniversary, but he had to work, so he did it 4 days before. I still said yes. It wasn't any less special.

And here's my selfish bitch comment: He did it the day before he left for his brother's bachelor party and 3 weeks before his wedding. I'm still bitter when I think about it because our engagement didn't get the same attention as theirs because of it. So my point is, that if she is such an attention whore, she's not going to be happy when her spotlight is gone and the day is still about you and your FH.

I'm impressed. I think all of you ladies came up with the perfect solution

Elyse good point.....this is getting tough to decide whats best to do....say no and maybe make my friend upset but maybe it'll be best for his girl, or let him propose late at my wedding i hate decisions like this

Ladymonk yes i got some great advice, thank you all, i still have to decide but i feel better and have a clearer idea of both sides of the coin

I don't understand the hype about dating anniversaries.

Tell him, hell no.

if you want to be nice go with @FMP answer lol.

Mrs pope i dont get it either, i dont even remember my dating anniversary haha

lol aww rosemary!!

Rosemary hahaha you win!

Oh heck no! It's your day and he should not take away from that. Perhaps he could take her someplace nice after for a desert or stargazing and do it then. Perhaps the day after their anaversary to totally suprise her.

Sassy i think my friend is used to me sharing "my days" so he thought this would be fine. i dont want to say no and be a jerk though

No SMH

I didn't read every comment, but is there a way you two could maybe set up a romantic little space outside of the reception area? Maybe with candles and roses or something sweet? He can do it there if he absolutely must propose on YOUR day? Nobody else would be around and it would be right before people start to leave, so she isn't annoying and showing off her ring. Idk. I would say hell no. Lol. But I think it's sweet that you're considering.

Devona theres no real space thats away from guests at the reception, if its not raining the guests will be all over the place in the tent and outside of it, so the only alone spot would be off in the woods or next door in the cemetery which im sure she wouldnt want