My friend got engaged after me.

I would totally be upset if a friend decided to do the same theme as me after I told them my plans. I would never do that to somebody, but don't let that get in the way of your friendship. If she means anything to you someday you might regret not standing up in her wedding.

Let it go, just because there's potential to have a similar theme, doesn't mean it'll be the same. This is your friend, don't forget that.

Am I wrong?

Answer: Yes

Being a bridezilla?

Answer: Yes

You get a day! You don't get to dictate her wedding theme. You especially don't get to dictate her wedding date because she got engaged after you. That's ridiculous.

While it sucks, you can't really be mad at her. It's unfortunately something that comes with having a long engagement. Being prepared to see my friends and others get engaged and married within my timeline was one of the first pieces of advice I was given. I also don't think that she was trying to copy you so much as she heard an idea and thought it was a really good one. Like a lot of the others are saying, the 20s are a popular theme right now.

You re not wrong

Wow these rude comments are a bit much for me to handle so I hope you're not too frustrated by them. I personally don't think that you are being a bridezilla, especially if she blatantly told you that she wants to copy your theme. I would however consider the relationship you want to have with her once the two weddings are over and have that determine whether or not you want to be in her wedding and how you carry the situation going forward. You don't want something to ruin a friendship that you will look back on in a year and say that wasn't worth losing a friend. Just my opinion.

Wait a minute... Did you just create a new profile with a different spelling of your name to defend yourself?

I don't see any rude comments here. Just honest opinions.

One of my BMs got engaged a few months after me and is getting married a couple months before me (this weekend in fact). Am I bothered by this? NOPE!

I always knew she wanted a short engagement, and it just happened to fall in the middle of my 11-month engagement. I'm honestly impressed she got it planned in 6 months.

Not everyone is going to have a long engagement like you. Just let it go.

I got engaged about six months after my twin sister and just got married.

My sister isn't getting married until 2020. I wasn't putting my life on hold because she got engaged before me.

Your date is in 2019. A lot of people don't want to wait that long to get married and apparently your friend is one of them. Complaining that she's getting married before you is silly. Oh, and you have similar taste? You're friends! That should be expected.

Why was this dead thread revived?!?!