My dad won't walk me down the aisle.

Whoa so the weddings are within 2-3 years of each other? I kind of understand his concern.

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@Kela, if you are uncomfortable directly asking him about it, could you ask your mom or perhaps another close relative? They may have insight into how he's feeling.

I know you didn't ask about this, but maybe he's apprehensive since you've been married and divorced fairly recently. And you are quite young, I assume around 19 or 20? He might be worried for you and hesitant about walking you down the aisle and giving his support to this marriage.

Did you ask him why not?

I've seen people walk down the aisle with their s/os. What about something like that? Otherwise walking alone is fine, just like normal.

Hmm, sounds like your dad might have some bigger concerns than your prior divorce. I think you need to have an open and honest conversation with him. I know it's harder for quieter people to open up but you should listen carefully to him and hear his thoughts on it. Hopefully the longer engagement will reassure him.

Both my dad and stepdad walked me down the aisle the first time around. This time? I'm walking alone, but with both of my children walking down at the same time in front of me.

I'm 20. The first marriage ended in abuse and my family actually signed for me to marry him knowing I didn't want to. I was able to end it when I turned 18 but they're okay with it now. They love my new fiancé so that's why I didn't think it was a problem. I've been with him for a year and already live with him. It all did move really fast but they're very supportive other than that one detail.

Soon to be Studdard I LOVE that idea! I may talk to my fiancé about my son walking in front of me instead of actually holding my hand or whatever.

Ya your kid is one now and will be two at the wedding ( in a year). This child is with your ex Husband that you were only married to for a year at age 17. So taht puts you at 18, and you just met this guy and are already engaged?? I think that your dads concerns are linked to this.

ETA: jsut read your comment.. I dont know then. Talk to your dad. Some people have strange opinions on second weddings

Dad's are protective and sometimes say and do things to protect us that we see as hurtful. Talk to him about it. Let him know how you feel but be ready for some possibly hurtful responses from him.

I am also divorced and getting married. I was married just a year as well and when I asked for a divorce only then did my dad's feelings about my ex come out. I didn't see my ex for who he was until my mom suddenly got sick and passed.

Fast forward to now....my FH and I have known each other for 3 years but dated just a year before getting engaged. My dad hasn't been involved in planning and honestly hasn't been as supportive on any level since my mom passed. I have talked to him about it because I was feeling hurt. I didn't even know if he'd be at my wedding. He assured me he would but still makes his snark comments at times. I think it's just him.

Anyway talk to him. Lay it all out there. Be open but be ready for responses you may not like.

I'm going to try to say this without sounding crazy judgmental...

So your family signed you away to your husband at 17, knowing you didn't want to be married? Now you're divorced, with a baby, and engaged again. How do you feel about your family after that? Do you WANT your dad to walk you down the aisle, or are you doing it because you think that's what's "supposed" to happen?

I agree with other posters, i think your dad's concerns probably run pretty deep and this is about more than just the wedding ceremony. my guess is that he's worried about the marriage in general but i'm just basing that on your timeline above. i think my parents would react in a similar manner if i were in your shoes.

parents want the best for their children and they want to feel confident that their children are making the best choices for themselves and their future. your best bet is to talk to your dad and really listen to his concerns - and address them or calm his fears where you can.

if he really won't come around by the time of your wedding, then you'll need to accept his choice and let it go.

marriages and family relationships last much longer than a wedding day, so always keep that in mind! while it might be disappointing to have him decline walking you down the aisle,the best way to prove to him that you're making the right choice is to live your life and be happy and successful way beyond the day of your wedding,

You didn't want to marry him, but they signed for you when you were 17....? And you have a baby with your first husband? Who's not even going to be 2? Ummmmmm.... Yea... I was married at 21 and very carefully waited another 11 years before making this kind of commitment to my FH. There's got to be something they're not telling you. I'm going to be the asshole (as usual) and tell you I'm siding with your dad on this one.

This is the timeline you've presented to us:

you were married at 17. Divorced by 18. you have a child from this relationship. Child will not be 2 on 10/15/16, so child is less than 1 today. You are engaged to someone else.

I assume you were pregnant when married in the park (as marriage lasted longer than child has been alive). In less than 1 year since divorce, you've met someone else and gotten engaged again? You do realize you DON'T have to marry every man you date, yes? I can see why your father would not want to take part in any of this. For some, marriage is a serious commitment, not something to do. Maybe get a part time job or volunteer in your spare time?

@Cheryl N. I have no idea who you are, but I love you lol

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At the end of the day, we are all just a bunch of strangers on the internet, but I can't help but agree with previous posters.

Are you SURE that you're okay with getting remarried so quickly and so young? Your timeline is concerning.

I am also concerned by this "The first marriage ended in abuse and my family actually signed for me to marry him knowing I didn't want to." Because you were pregnant?

ETA: Nicole you beat me to it!

Is everyone missing the comment that her parents basically signed a piece of paper to make her marry a guy she didn't want to marry that abused her? Because...yeah.

I am interested in getting more information about your current situation but, I will try and address your original question...

If your dad is open about planning to not walk you down the aisle, you have the opportunity now to ask him for further explanation and clarification on his decision.

If you are old enough to get married and have a family with your FH and the baby (which I understand is from a previous marriage), would you feel independent enough to walk yourself down the aisle toward your FH who could meet you there with the child?

Cheryl... Yes!