Mother of Groom to wear ivory to the wedding

Other guests will FOR SURE think it is tacky. It will look like she is trying to take attention away from you.

Is there someone like a close sister or friend of hers that could talk some sense into her? (so it doesn't have to fall on your or your fiances shoulders?)

Good luck!

You did what you can. If she refuses that on her. I think it's tacky of her.

Distatesful, no doubt. But at the end of the day, it's her lack of manners not yours. If she refuses to change it, I don't see there's anything you can do about it.

Just "accidently" spill something on her dress! LOL, I'm joking but you know what two weeks before you and fh's big day you dont need to be stressing about her.

So, just let it be and like Natalie... people will think that's tacky and especially since its the groom's mother.

Don't stress about it and enjoy your lovely day!

Put your foot down, tell her "You are not wearing that dress to my wedding. You have do weeks to figure it out! If you show up wearing that dress there would be hell to pay" She would think you are losing it and will find something suitable and you both will be happy. Don't forget to apologize later and blame it on the stress of planning a wedding. Good luck

I think it's rude and tacky of her to do that. It's your wedding day your are the only one who should wear any version on white. I wouldn't let my FMIL come to the wedding in any color of white. If she wants to come she can buy another dress.

I wouldn't stress it but then again I could be bias because my dress in ivory and claret red, I want both mothers to wear different shades of ivory like champagne etc... I personally do not see anything wrong with itt, it's very common for the mothers to wear colors matching the wedding colors, last wedding I attended a few weeks ago, the bride's dress was ivory and gold, both mothers wore ivory. It looked very nice and I didn't think it was tacky at all.

I think that it is very rude and disrespectful of her to do something like that and then refuse to change it. People will most definitely think it is tacky and tasteless.

Tell her you've arranged for a limo to pick her up the day of the wedding then have the limo driver drive her clear to the other end of town! LOL

But in all seriousness, don't stress about it. Gives her one up knowing she's getting under your skin and also it will look bad on her part, not yours at the wedding.

I think that is horrible and something spiteful my future MIL would do, I would just be blunt and say its very disrespectful and tacky and if she wants to be invited wether its an option or not she needs to obey the rules lol

Yeah I think I would have to put my foot down and let her know it's not happening or she's not to come. That is beyond tacky in my opinion.

Wow- sounds like something my FMIL would do- although she wouldn't do it to be spiteful at first- she is just that "out of it" then when we said something to her she would get spiteful- then all my fiance would have to do is yell at her and she would do what he wants- I hate him being such a momma's boy sometimes but other times i suppose it's useful....

I think the tacky part is her not respecting your wishes. If both Mothers were in ivory (planned) it would look fine, but she is the one that will look out of place. My FMIL asked what color she should wear, she wants to match the wedding colors. Personally, I hadn't thought about it, but I definetly would not have thought that anyone would want to wear a "bridal" color. Try not to stress. People will understand and think the worse of her and not you

Personally I would be a little upset with my FMIL if she attempted to wear ivory (my dress is ivory as is the FH's shirt and the GM). I think your FMIL can match your wedding colors in a different way. WHITE/IVORY/OFF WHITE/DIAMOND IVORY or whatever else bridal stores call it should be off limits to mothers and future mother in-laws.

Again just my opinion on the matter.

But with that being said I think you and FH have done everything you could to get her not to wear an invory dress. Now it just comes down to if she will have the respect for you guys as a couple to change it.

Good luck (and sorry you have to deal with this 2 weeks prior to the wedding).

Oh wow. Talk about being disrespectful! FH and I had an agreement, the only person wearing white or ivory in our wedding will be ME. He took care of his mother when she picked an AWFUL patterned dress that would have stuck out like a sore thumb in pictures.

Good for FH for standing up for you. He may need to have a hear to heart with her again, and make sure he stands his ground!

She needs to change her dress, period. Send her something in her size if she won't go get one herself.

I went to a wedding two weeks ago where 3 different girls (ages 18-21 - old enough to know better) all wore white or some shade of white. I would've been a little upset, but at that point, what can you do? I felt more respect for the bride for just rolling with it and from a distance, I gave those girls the evil eye (even though I didn't know them lol). If your FMIL has time to change it - I think she should, but don't push it at the expense of your future relationship. Just know that no one will look down on you - it's going to be a reflection on her.

OMG...my mother in law told me the same thing! Yes, totally wrong for wearing ivory. It is your day and you should be the only one wearing ivory. I think it is in bad taste. I haven't had the talk with my MIL yet, but will this weekend. I do not want anyone wearing IVORY except me, so yeah BIG problem. The last month before the wedding and I'm not holding back. Enough with the madness.

I am sorry this is happening to you. However it is the job of your FH to talk to his own mother and if she wont bend to him she probably wont to you. I agree with everyone who said she will be the one who looks disrespectful...not you! I dont have a problem with it myself, I know what etiquette states but I bought both of my daughter's IVORY dresses to wear at my upcoming wedding even though my dress is ivory. AND DONT WORRY, you will be a beautiful bride and all eyes will be on you on your special day.....the only eyes on your future mother in law will be ROLLING ONES!!!!

Dont worry everyone at the wedding will be talking about her behind her back. Its common sense that you dont wear white/ivory to a wedding especially the mil. She will look ridiculous because it will look like she is trying to upstage you.