Mother of Groom to wear ivory to the wedding

Honestly it depends on the look that you're trying to achieve. In England, it's very common for the whole bridal party to wear the same color as the bride. My bridal party will be wearing white on my wedding day. But, it is your wedding day. Calmly explain to here that you want to stand out on your wedding day and that you fee like it would take something away from the day if she wore white/ivory as well. Tell her you hope that she will consider buying a new dress, and if she doesn't you'll understand, but you'll be really disappointed that she couldn't see things your way on your big day.

Make her stand in the back of all of the pictures. Let your photographer know that you would prefer that Ok, ok. Maybe that is a bit much. Perhaps as a "gift" you could buy her some kind of colored shawl. The other girls are right though, all eyes will be on you and your FH regardless of what anybody else wears. For the next 2 weeks, just try to concentrate on what really matters for the wedding and the future the two of you are creating for yourselves

Your FH needs to put his foot down, isince this is really important to you he needs to do it, and if she can't respect his wishes, then it will be on her. I think people will notice, but don't let it take away from your day or your relationship with her.

It happens - MIL refuses to tell me the color of her dress; and purchases off white wedding dress - same color as my bridal dress. Many commented that she looked silly and desperate to be relevant. Try not to let it bother you and have the last laugh - pay a little extra to have the photographer photo-shop a nice soft color in her dress in every photo she is in and you will never be reminded of her error again. Make sure the Photographer understand that only photo-shopped photos are available for sale. If she makes a comment about the pictures, educate her on wedding etiquette and move on.

My mother in law did the same thing only she told me before hand. I told her I was very upset but she didn’t care and in fact I believe she told all of her friends that attended to wear white dresses which they did. My fiancé (whipped, but she is his mother after all) never took my side about this but I decided it was not worth letting this rent space in my head. I enjoyed every minute of our day and we are going on 30 years of marriage.

Sounds like something my fmil would do, just to be spiteful. But no matter what, no one is going to take my shine. Everyone knows I'm going to be the bride, and my fmil would just look stupid as heck if she pulled something like that, especially her being fh's mom. She would be an embarrassment. There really wouldn't be anything to do to stop her. I know you posted this many years ago now, but I wonder what ended up happening?

Have your fiancé tell her she will make herself a laughing-stock. And that he's hiring security and she won't be let in.

Wow what snippy answers. Modern day thought is that ivory and champagne are perfectly acceptable colors and look coordinated. What an insecure divisive bride. No respect for her fiancés mom or understanding of back stabbing. Sounds like an insecure bridezilla

Take it from someone who (def not intentionally) selected a dress which turned out to be the same dress my fdl is wearing only in a much different color. Only problem is, I'm having memory issues and only saw a pic of her dress once maybe twice. I showed mfdil the pic and she went off on me accusing me of trying to upstage her. So yes, it was wrong for your fmil to buy a dress in the same color you're wearing. She should be in a totally different color and respect your wishes. You are the bride, not her. Best of luck to you!