Mother in law in bridal suite while you're getting ready?

We didnʻt have either moms there. it was just me and my girls. but I would want my mom there instead of my MIL most definitely

I wouldn't want either one of them there, but I think its ridiculous your mom thinks its her decision. It's not-- it's yours. And if you don't mind her being there, it would be a nice gesture to allow her, particularly since she specifically asked.

I think it depends on how comfortable you are with your future MIL. Mine wasn't with me, but we're not close like that.

I think it's fine and your mom might be feeling a little possessive, if you're ok w it I would give fmil the opportunity to hang out too since it's a bonding time and you're about to marry into her family!

Mine will not be there but neither will my mother. Ultimately it's up to you. Do you want her there?

My mom will definitely be there, we are getting ready at my parents' house, but even if we weren't she'd still be there. I invited my FMIL to come and get ready with us but she has a hair appointment in another town so said no. But I thought it was a nice gesture.

I do not want my FMIL in the room since she has caused tons of drama since we got engaged. I can see where your mother is coming from but I think the choice is yours to make depending on how comfortable you are with your FMIL

Thinking noo. My mom passed when I was a kid, but I would rather have my Aunt or my friends mom with me (FG's grandma)

My mom is definitely getting ready with me (she's my co-MOH). I wouldn't mind having my FMIL get her hair and makeup done with us or get ready, but she doesn't seem very interested. She won't want to leave FFIL alone and she'd rather spend the time with her OOT family.

My FMIL will be getting her hair and make-up done with us and my mom in my suite. I love my FMIL and get along with her, I doubt she'll stay in the suite the whole time we're getting ready but if she does it honestly doesn't bother me at all. My mom and her get along great when she's been able to make the trip to visit.

I think it really just depends on your relationship with her, and if you want her there really.

I'm actually getting ready at my MILs house! I say yes. Mine doesn't have any daughters, so I think it's important to her.

So many opinions! I appreciate the advice ladies. My FMIL get along fairly well, but her and my mom are polar opposites and have nothing in common-where as my bridal party has, well, drank and had a great time with my mom. FMIL is very proper and would so not approve of those shenanigans lol. So I don't want her to be uncomfortable while getting ready-she's already upset about the 2 bridesmen I have! But she did ask...

@deborah, totally agree my mom is being possessive, but I do get where she's coming from. FMIL has a daughter, but I'm my moms only child, and it has been her and I since my parents divorced. So I won't hold her possessiveness against her. This time.

I got this out of the blue from FH. He suggested I invite FMIL and FSIL to get ready with us. I thought about it, I think both of them are great, but this is my last morning as an unmarried woman and I want the time with my Grandma (I call her GOB now, hahaha) and my sister (MOH). They both live far away from me and we don't get a chance to catch up very often.

I personally dont see what the problem is. She is going to be your mother in law. Your mom needs to understand that just in case she doesnt. She must likes and accept u to even want to be there. Yall is about to be family a daughter to her. Let your mom know that u is her mother and cant no one take that away from her. Your FH is even excited about it. Anyway its your choice not your mom. There is nothing wrong with them both being there.

I wish i had my mother in law still here with us. She would of been with me when i got dress. Miss her dearly and may she R.I.P

My FMIL wants to be apart as much as she can because her daughter is not marrying for the right reasons and to someone the whole family disagrees with and she is not happy. So she is looking at me as the only wedding as her "daughter" she is really excited and happy about so she will be invited if she would like to be.

Both of our moms were there. I can't imagine leaving my MIL out. There's no reason to start a marriage with hard feelings.

Both of mine will be there. Im close with his mom and my mom doesn't care that she's there. I never thought of that as a MOB thing. My mom was there when my SIL got ready.

I don't think my mom would mind, but my FMIL will probably focus on getting her son ready. I am looking forward to getting ready with just my mom and sister.

Of course my FMIL will be there with me! I could not imagine not including her with all the ladies as we are getting ready. I don't think of it as a chance to catch up with my mom or get in any last private moments. I think of it as a very important day when two families are joining together - we should be preparing for that TOGETHER as well! It's a huge memory making time for all involved, and I would not want to deprive either myself or my FMIL of those memories.

I adore my FMIL but no, she will not be included in that part of the day.