Money Gift (How much to give?)

I don’t think it’s set in stone but we have honeymoons funds set up for our registry and most guests are gifting anywhere between $75 to $150 per person attending.

I say 100 per person,

I would say whatever you are comfortable giving and doesn't break your bank. There is no "set" amount you have to give. It's all about the thought.

On a side note, be careful on how you "ask" for money. We are not registered for anything, anywhere and when asked if we are we say there will be a card box. We are hoping guest get the "hint"

I disagree with Ingrid in the fact that I think if you want people to give you money you should definitely state that somewhere on your wedding website so people know that’s what you want. My FH’s cousin didn’t say anything and everyone was confused on what they wanted. I didn’t know if we should wait for a registry or just be prepared to give cash. I keep asking him to find out from her and that can be really frustrating for guests if you don’t specify what you want! Either way just give what you are comfortable spending! Decide what you would have spent on an actual gift and then give that cash amount!

In my culture, we generally only give cash gifts and we will try to cover the cost of our attendance as well as factoring in how close we are with the bride and groom. We will look at things such as the venue, the dress code etc to try gauge what is an appropriate amount to give.

Personally, knowing how expensive weddings are, I will not give any less than $150 per person for a wedding unless it is someone we don't know too well or a very casual wedding (though I am mindful in Australia our salaries are higher than of the US so in USD I probably would do a minimum of $100 each person).

How much would you spend on a registry item? I usually do $100-300 (from H and I) depending on closeness to the couple.

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Also in Australia, and I agree with this. Usually the monetary gift is considered 'covering your plate' - but I do think that most guests haven't just planned a wedding themselves, so they have no idea of how expensive even just the cost of their plate would be. But guests should give what they can afford - I'd hate to think of someone declining to attend our wedding because they were afraid the gift they'd give was too low. We'd prefer to have their lovely selves there, irrespective of whether they brought a gift.

I feel like $100-$150 should be fine. I asked myself (as a bride) and I think would feel appreciative of that amount. If I received less, I would also feel appreciated - not everyone has to give, so it's understanding!

I am not sure what others may say - but, I heard from some friends recently $100/person is standard...??? I think it depends on the area as well I am finding!

Gift what you can afford/are comfortable giving.

Give what you are comfortable spending. No two people have the same budgets or incomes so there is no set dollar amount anywhere. Also do not follow the “cover your plate” idea because there is no way to know what the couple is spending per person unless they are paying the bill, nor is it the guest’s concern.

I always give cash at a wedding. Frankly, I would give LESS cash if a couple asked specifically for it. That is super rude in my world. I typically give $75-150 (per person, if it’s my husband and I), and it varies on a number of factors: our relationship to the couple, what we had to spend to attend the wedding [have I already shelled out $1k for flights and hotels and rental cars], my current personal financial situation [I won’t overburden myself for a gift! Only give what you can comfortably afford].


We received a large range of cash gifts and most seemed in line with the financial situation of the gifters. Younger cousin just becoming financially independent gave $50. Aunt and uncle who are basically the matriarch of the family, older and well established in their careers with disposable income gave $500, so a wide variety is expected and normal so don’t put too much pressure on yourself to come up with the ‘normal’ amount !